Wife says she has very bad thoughts about cheating on me...Help!?

Question

My wife and I have only been married for the last two months. Before we were married we were together for about 6 years (since we were in high school basically). We never really had problems except one time (before we were together, we just use to hook up) we got in a fight and she was really mad at me and later we ended up dating and getting together. Several years after that I had heard by her friend that she told her friends when they were talking one night about me (because we had stopped hooking up) that something along the line of they she didnt care that we werent hooking up because I had a small dick anyways. Obviously, after I heard this i was very hurt and doubting my size. I looked intensley about penis size stuff and found that my size is pretty much average (measuring at 6"-61/2" in length and almost 5" in girth). So later I confronted her about what her friend said to me and she admitted saying that but she said she only said it because she was mad at me and

she they asked really? and she said know and cried. She said she didnt really think I had a small penis. Later in our relationship I kind of had moments of feeling insecure and asked her if she was ever thinking stuff about me. I always felt like she was lying and it seemed like she was always telling me different stories and changing her words. Later, she told me that she had been getting "attacked" with weird thoughts about my size and wondering if it was big. (I am the only person she has been with and only penis she has seen in person.) She had gone on websites and read about averages and saw penises and said mine seemed big compared to some she saw. Then everything seemed good and we got married. Now she said, she is getting weird ideas about sleeping with someone other than me and it just sounds really bizarre to me and she blames it on the devil putting ideas in her head that she doesnt really believe. Now she says she is afraid that she might cheat on me. What do i do or think?

Seriously, it is really hard for me to explain everything clearly, but I just don't know what to think. I just feel like i seriously wish i never married her, but she is all i know and basically my best friend. I have know idea what to even think about all this. It pisses me off and it makes me sad.

Answer 1

First off might help if you guys read more books then the bible. For one, human fantasy life is very active. We all have dark seedy fantasies that are there to allow us some ego relief. Its good to realize that we all have a nice playground in our heads that we can do whatever we want in, even if reality doesn't agree. Without understanding that I fear atleast she is going to do some very stupid things. Because its great to fantasize, but never good to act on your impulses, those damn reality checks well get you everytime. If she goes on thinking the devils controling her mind your going to have a big problem on your hands. Namly she isn't going to understand that its just part of her, nothing bad, nothing wrong, its just the natural stat of the mind. It is bad thou if she conflicts with her ownself, because that could lead to her doing it and blaming it on something other then herself. Which is bad, lacks emotional maturity, and personal understanding. You guys need so more information in the house, make more friends, read more books, and stay away from primetime TV. Well except law and order!! bing bing