2007-03-13 10:15:10 · 11 answers · asked by Gwynny 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Oh yeah, I should add. We own a floral and gift store and we are here 6 days a week. Buying flowers is out of the question. LOL
2007-03-13 10:34:36 · update #1
Wow, you guys have some great ideas! Some made me tear up a little even.
2007-03-13 11:16:03 · update #2
My grandparents have been married for over 60 years and are still, obviously, madly in love with one another.
One day, my grandmother sat me on the couch, went into her bedroom and brought out an old hat box; it had to be at least 50 years old.
She told me that on her wedding night, my grandfather made a promise to her: he would never let a week go by without her knowing how much he loved her.
Every Wednesday night, he would write her a letter, sometimes half a page, sometimes five pages, telling her how much he loved her; he hasn't missed a single week in over 60 years.
My grandmother told me that these letters reminded her, everyday, that she married her soul mate, without a doubt. It was obvious to me, as well, that he fell in love with her all over again each day.
Maybe it's time to start doing the same for your wife. A one-time gift won't tell her as much as a heartfelt letter from you that she will most likely keep forever. :)
2007-03-13 10:58:16 · answer #1 · answered by VHagerty 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, that is wonderful to hear! I think there are alot of ideas out there...it's just finding the one that rings your bell. Do you sing? How about going to karaoke club and singing something just for and to her? Do you write poetry or could you?
Write her a special letter and tuck it under her pillow along with a gift certificate at your local fine jewelry store, Dinner with candlelight is always good...A weekend away..business or not, and a bed and breakfast is always super fun.
Send her love notes throughout the day...grab her on the way to the bathroom and do a little smooching (while no one is looking!)
Where did you first meet? Is that place nearby or still open? Could you go there and 'remember'?
Cooking her her favorite dinner, with music and candles?
I guess the most important thing, is to somehow let her know how you feel in the most special and original way that you can. Congrats!
2007-03-13 11:06:23 · answer #2 · answered by Nisey 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, if I were you and a special occasion is coming up, I would really go all out and try to make the special occasion a memorable one. Just the way you feel about her, I am sure you wife feels secure about how much you love her, but the next time her birthday, wedding anniversary, make it very very special. What I would do is make arrangements for a weekend away at a Bed and Breakfast hotel, with meals included, breakfast in bed, candlelight dinners and most of all make her feel so special with lots of romance. Tell her that she is the love of your life and you she is as special to you as she was 18 years ago. Tell her you cannot imagine life without her. Then to top it off, I would buy her a beautiful piece of 14K jewelry of your choice. A lovely necklace, a bracelet, a ring, a pin. Just to mark the occasion. Also of course, special delivery of 1 dozen of her favorite color roses with a note saying just: "I will love you forever". Good Luck to you and her.
2007-03-13 10:29:39 · answer #3 · answered by cardgirl2 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My husband and I have been married for 25 years. When we first got married, as with most couples money is tight. Now we both have good jobs and one daughter is married with the other graduating this may. We go on outings at least once a month. Sometimes with all the kids and their friends and others by ourself. He makes me feel special and loved when he'll ask if I need help with anything around the house. We do alot together. He'll cook dinner one night, and I'll do it the next. Sometimes we do it together. We work outdoors together. He knows I like candles and has been known to walk in a give me a candle just because he was thinking of me. We just make sure we have together time. Ask her to go on a Sunday drive, anywhere. Stop at some shops that you think she'll enjoy and buy her something that she was looking at and suprise her with it in the car. Rent a movie, make popcorn, and cuddle on the sofa together. but above all, Tell her how special she is to you. I'll come home from work and tell him I need a special hug cause I'm so tired and it will make me feel better. My husband hates to dance, but when I have music on, he'll say "this song reminds me of you". Then he'll hug me and sway with the music. That makes him so special!
2007-03-13 11:00:18 · answer #4 · answered by bluedove1978getty 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
love it doesn't matter if you own flower shop or a store, if you want to make your beloved feel special plan a special dinner. No not going out in the restaurant, the two of you both work and probably comes home at the same time. Why don't you set a place at home, like a table for two, and yes you can put 1 long stem rose on top of it, buy lots of scented candles,scattered it all over the room where you will set the table, soft music, make one of her favorite dinner, white wine, then you can start from there,.................have fun
2007-03-13 10:49:41 · answer #5 · answered by islandgirl06 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Seems to be a bit of a question indeed. Having been married to the same woman for 17 years, I tend to ask the same question. 1st the feelings I have for her are still the same as when we walked down the aisle in 1990, but we don't act like newlyweds. We don't have sex but once a month (if we are lucky) and it's not the same. Things changes as do feelings.
My wife and I got in a habit about 4 yrs ago of going out on dates, without the kids once they reached their teens. We go out to supper and a bit of shopping at the bookstore (her choice) or the lumberyard (my choice). We don't make it a bit fancy meal, a sandwich as a local diner, (not fast food).
We will spend time watching TV or working in the yard together. And make the best of living with busy teens in the house.
I don't think it a matter of recapturing a feeling as much as living today knowing you'll grow old together.
2007-03-13 10:29:42 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh, are you ever sweet! We are married almost 18 years too. That's funny about the flower and gift shop, so no blooms, and no trinkets. Hmmm. Spa Day? Jewellery always works for me, and a girl can never have too much chocolate. Give her a really nice card with sentiments written by you -- you seem like the kind of guy who could do that; she would love that.
2007-03-13 10:44:55 · answer #7 · answered by Lydia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is awesome, my man!! What a great question. First, I would tell her that (most likely you already have). To show her, I would treat her the way you did 18 years ago - open her door, buy her flowers for no reason, send her cards through the mail, leave little love notes everywhere - continue to woo her.
Good luck, you're a good man!!
2007-03-13 10:35:55 · answer #8 · answered by Dino 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with the poster that said they go on dates. You can also give her a single flower "just because", coffee/breakfast in bed, snuggle on the couch and watch a good movie, you can also take her to the place you guys had your first date or met to show her that you remember it and still care. I would say do some thing that would strike up memories. The simplest things tend to mean the most..
2007-03-13 10:39:13 · answer #9 · answered by candy w 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well you can start by telling her how special she still is, women need to hear how you men feel. then remember that actions speak louder than words, so give her affection when you can. Also you can stop on your way home and pick her up some flowers every now and then, just act like you are dating again.
2007-03-13 10:37:19 · answer #10 · answered by evilgrl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋