what do you think?

Question

i have i lied to my girlfriend about 4 times about certain things that were silly and daft i have gotten jealous of quite a few lads in her life because im 400 miles away i get anxious about them because there closer i moan alot sometimes i cant hear on the phone and i ask to turn it down more than once i ask if she is ok quite alot maybe once every 10 - 15 minutes i sit on teh pc with her for hours on end sometimes and on the phone speaking to her that comes both ways we both do it by choice i spend alot of money on credit for my phone which i shouldnt it runs my money down i stay up late on college nights incase she needs me my choice again we argue and fight alot because of the above things i moan abou and more my friend has spoken to her a few times before pretending to be my sister to see why she was being nasty to me/ less talkative i lied about something her friend did once because her friend was speaking alot about another man and i thought somethin might of been up i lied

i lied about something i solf aswell i told her i sold my xbox for 400 when i really sold it for 260 she felt bad about me selling it so i said more so she would not feel bad i lied and i regret it badly she got very anoyed and upset i ask alot of questions like whats up or whats wrong or tell me how you feel when she is upset she doesnt like that

what do you think of this an opinion?

Answer 1

lying leads to more lying and you end up in trouble, deceiving yourself as well as others and then because you lie about things you worry that others do and you keep asking her if shes ok due to your paranoia, which stems from lying.
get a grip o yourself before you drive her away
no wonder she gets annoyed with you lying to her and getting people to pretend they are your sister?? whats all that about?
you need to grow up, start acting like an adult who deserves his college place, start trusting your g/f and get some therapy to deal with your issues
good luck

Answer 2

U gotta stop lying to her (small white lies can turn into big ones) and the more u keep lying the more chance there is of her finding out. Be honest with her and honest with urself - do u really want the relationship to carry on with her being so far away??

Hope i helped chick

xxxxxxx

Answer 3

i think you are lying alot because you don't see her very often and the relationship isn't real enough anymore, you are so far apart it is easy to lie and not be found out. this is not what you wan't to hear but i think you should just be freinds, the distance is obviously effecting your relationship. you are at college and shouldn't be tied down by a long distance relationship with someone who isn't going to be there enough. you should keep her as a good freind but go enjoy yourself, have some fun.

Answer 4

i think you need to come clean about your lies coz it sounds to me that your anxiaty stems from your lies and if you love her then you wouldnt lie to her coz she probably doesnt deserve that and you wouldnt like it if it was the other way round and as for your jelousey then its probably understandable as your so disteant but abscence makes the heart grow fonder as use that to your advantage and be romantic like send her flowers when shes not expecting it, (if you get get into the habit of jelousey now then it will only get worse later in life ) take a look in the mirror and have a serious word with yourself and as for her friends then shes got to have friends to male and female. not everyone out there wants to have your woman, and if your that worried then be friends with her friends coz no one will do the dirty on a true friend

Answer 5

If you are a liar, you have no respect for others.
You think they are so stupid to accept anything you say.
Any relationship with such a liar will just cause unhappiness for all concerned.
To me lying is a form of cowardice.
Go away for a long time on your own until you learn to appreciate people.

Answer 6

I think you lie too much & too often. You are also excessively jealous for no good reason. No real relationship can function on lies & jealousy. Rid yourself of these damaging bad habits & start building up trust & respect instead.