My husband and I left each other a year ago in a half because of him cheating it took me a while to get back?

Question

with him, I forgave him for what he did but I still havent forgot of how he hurt me. We would always be fighting because of everything I would always be bringing that up. The only way that stopped was because I found out i was pregnant its our first baby. My pregnacy has made him change alot. My concern is how about after i give birth will he still be the same or is it going to go back to the fighting and arguing because of what he did. Please help!

Answer 1

As rough as it is when you get cheated on it's just something that you're gonna have to let go. Personally I give you alot of credit for taking him back I don't think I'd be able to take someone back, I don't know for sure. Consider it like a sore that you have...it's trying to heal itself but there's always a irritation and you want to scratch it and if you do it's slow to heal. Well that's how I see your problem..what happened to you was wrong...but you accepted him back and are trying to move on but it still irritates you and you want to keep on him about it, thus you argue. Accept it as a life lesson learned and let it go if you don't you're gonna keep the drama going. He's gonna feel like he can't do anything right without getting blamed for everything and he'll eventually get so sick of it he'll leave you. And I do know that if I were in his place and making a honest attempt to do the right thing and you kept on me like that...I'd leave baby or not. Look like I said lesson learned and let it go, if he's making a honest attempt to right things then he deserves another chance, otherwise you will end up apart all over again only this time there's a child. I wish you luck w/your baby and the problem! G.

Answer 2

Its sad that it takes something like this to stop the cheating. He shouldnt of been cheating in the first place. You are one heck of a woman to try to work things out after what he did. Its always going to bother you and in the back of your mind your always going to be wandering whats he doing? who with? A baby is a great joy and I hope that things will get better for the both of you. As for whether or not having a baby will change him from his cheating ways I dont know he should of came to you if there were problems in the marriage instead of seeking some other woman. If you both want things to work then you willl do whatever it takes and I hope it works out for the best and you both can grow old together enjoying your children and grandkidsgood luck!

Answer 3

Been there in your situation except I don't have any kids. You never forget someone cheating on you although they WISH you would, you never really do. And believe me, having a baby WILL NOT change a cheater! A cheater is going to be a cheater. Think of it this way, were you special enough for him not to cheat in the first place? So why would your baby be any different to him? Now I am not saying that to put down you are your child I'm saying that against him. You can do one of two things; either forgive him and live with it or don't and divorce him. If you are willing to stay and risk him cheating again think of this, do you have a little girl? Would you want her to grow up thinking "it's OK for men to treat me like crap because mommy took it from daddy". Or if you have a boy he will grow up to treat women like crap because he saw daddy do it and mommy thought it was OK.

Answer 4

If you truly forgave him, then you would never bring up the subject of cheating again. If he learned his lesson, and doesn't do it again...then you need to find a way to move forward. No one can change the past...but your bitterness and throwing it up to him will ruin the furture happiness of your marriage. If you cannot let go and forgive what happened...then you should have never said you forgive him and went back to him. You have a choice. You can either give this relationship and marriage a chance by leaving the past in the past permanently, or you can continue to hold onto the past and let it destroy your future (and your baby's future)

Answer 5

He Will Be Changed A Man After Being A Father Changes Belive me I have Lots Of Examples So Relax & Not Tense In Pregnance U Better Knw That. Take Care

Answer 6

Sometimes having a baby helps men grow up or feel
a sense of responsibility. The problem is your bond
of trust between each other has been broken and
that is something that is very hard to get over.

Answer 7

You haven't forgiven him. When you do forgive him you will no longer bring it up verbally or mentally. If you do think of it or something reminds you, it will have no emotional value. I would seek counseling. It may be as simple as telling him exactly how it made you feel and him repeating back to you exactly what he understood you said (in his own words). If you know he truly understands how you felt, it's a big step toward forgiveness.

Answer 8

It seems like you still have a black cloud hovering over your head. If you told him that you forgive him then stand by that. Don't bring it up. You may still resent the fact that he screwed around. Either forgive him completely or don't but make a choice and move on. It takes two to argue. Make a choice and be proactive, not reactive.

Answer 9

u may have forgiven him but he needs to understand what he did caused u alot of grief. until he shows u he truly understands what he did i think the fighting will continue, having a baby doesn't stop The fighting, think u both have some more things u need to resolve.

Answer 10

If you forgave him then you CAN'T bring it up EVER!!!!

What did you learn growing up?
No sweetie you can't have cookies ever again cause you ate you brothers cookie. Sounds harsh? Yeah it is.
That's why the words - Forgive and FORGET go together. You took him back so you can never bring it up again, If he cheats again, HEAVY HEAVY HEAVY CHILD SUPPORT!