The stalking-a** bi**h is now sabotaging me in an effort to keep me unemployed. I am pretty sure she has called anonymously and said crazy stuff to prospective employers. I used to run a district of retail stores. She was obsessed with getting my area! Now that she has it, I think she's afraid if I get another DM job in the same region, that I will rape the district. Which is true!!! She has managed to "flip" some of my most loyal ex-employees. This girl is reallly, really good at sounding like she knows her s**t!
Everyone says what comes around goes around but does it?
I've never seen it happen to freaks like her in 26 years of retail.
My ex-bosses must see it, right?
I have never hated anyone so much in my life!
How can I stop her?
Should I call one of the co. that wouldnt hire me at the last minute and ask?
The b***h is still haunting me 6 mths later. I wanted her to get fired but now I dont so I know exactly where she is!
Please give me reassurance or ideas on revenge
2007-03-13 09:31:58 · 10 answers · asked by Smilely 2 in Business & Finance ➔ Careers & Employment
Most hiring managers will not tell you why they didn't hire you. They'll simply say that you weren't qualified or that there was another candidate that was better suited. I wouldn't put too much stake in what this person could be saying. How would that work? "Hey, you don't know me, but if you ever interview so and so, don't hire her. " She would get hung up on by human resources.
You should write your old HR person and ask for a copy of your employee file. They have to give it to you. Read through your file and see if there is damaging information in it that may be harming you during the reference check portion of your interview. Better yet, have a friend of yours call your old employer and ask them about you. Have your friend ask if you were a functional employee, if there were any complaints and why you left their employ. This may give you the information that you need. If this person is indeed influencing your employment, you have legal recourse.
2007-03-13 09:39:16 · answer #1 · answered by peache68 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You have a choice here. You can allow this person to dominate your life (and your career) - or - you can realize that she is a small fish in a small pond and get on with your life. Revenge is a poisonous meal to eat day after day.
If a prospective employer refuses to hire you because of a bad (and apparently unsolicited) reference, you may have legal recourse - but you would have to prove that this is why you weren't hired. Do you really have that kind of time and money to waste?
Move to another area, try a different branch of retail (computers instead of clothes, for example), pursue what YOU want to do and don't allow yourself to be defined by someone else's insecurities. In 10 years when you're running a national retail division and she's still scrounging around the same 8 stores...well, let's just say that success really is the best revenge.
2007-03-13 16:40:08 · answer #2 · answered by Mel 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Boy, that does suck. I have had similar experiences in my career but never that much trouble! You may never see what comes back around, by the way. These people may get to the top and even stay there using tactics such as you've described, but you can bet it's not so great in the most important areas of their lives. No offers of revenge, and this probably doesn't make you feel any better, but just hang in there!
2007-03-13 16:40:04 · answer #3 · answered by Trish 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she stepped over the legal limit to get at you I would get a lawyer and maybe a restraining order. If not, check out books by George Heyduke. He writes rather clever revenge books from mild pranks to the kind of stuff you probably want to do. Good luck putting things back in balance.
2007-03-13 16:45:14 · answer #4 · answered by Molliemae 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow. Your really focused on negative energy. This only attracts negative energy. Let it go. Make a plan and live your life you want to live it. I can bet you didn't at some point in your life say, I hope some crazy person gets me so mad that I can't see straight and I loose all perspective on being the best person I can be. So what is it you really want? a) to continue to allow this person to drive you and your thoughts or b) move on and put this behind you focus on love and forgiveness and the new job your going to get. One is negative, one is positive. Your choice!
2007-03-13 16:40:19 · answer #5 · answered by lifecoachchuck 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You should talk to a Lawyer, and if there is no legal action you can take then you may want to move away from her. Not everything that goes around comes around.
2007-03-13 16:52:47 · answer #6 · answered by Andy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its called karma and It will come around to her. Eventually it will in her life.I know you want it to see it happen right now but you see karma does not work that way.
2007-03-13 16:36:14 · answer #7 · answered by bluemoon 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
By the sound of your rant, it sounds as if the "Crazy" stuff she is spreading may have a ring of truth!
2007-03-13 16:41:09 · answer #8 · answered by Wounded Duck 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I would be asking a lawyer.
2007-03-13 16:35:26 · answer #9 · answered by Johnny 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
lget a lawyer. but she's like...
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2007-03-13 17:02:18 · answer #10 · answered by natsume_01_i 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋