OK, not quite sure where to start. Me and My husband have been married for 5 years and have to wonderful children together. I found out in October that he has been talking to a girl that he met. I told him to stop or I was done. He said he would stop. Come to found out that he is still talking to her. I also found out that I was pregnant. Spoke to the girl to explain the situation and she said she would stop calling. Now my husband being my husband can talk anyone into anything so I know he told her all she wanted to hear and they have still been talking. I have decided to take my kids and move out and he informed me this morning that he would be moving in with her and her 3 year old. I am in total disbelief as I thought once he knew i was pregnant that it would have shook him into realising how important his family is, but alas it has not. Now the kids are going to have to meet her and however strong I am this is one thing I cannot get past. What should i do?
2007-03-13 09:29:53 · 13 answers · asked by kcwhizz1 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Take his *** to court and get full custody of the kids. If you have to ask your parents and friends for help.
2007-03-13 09:35:15 · answer #1 · answered by Worried wife 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-12-01 22:57:42 · answer #2 · answered by meran 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately they have been doing more than talking. You don't have to leave your house and your children can stay in their own home. He is thinking with his D*** so first just realise that he at this point is not thinking of you being pregnant or what this is doing to his kids. I would find out what you can do to keep your children from having to meet this woman so I would suggest seeking council. This should be under your terms and not his. Also if this is any comfort this is not going to last with her. I am not sure what the statistics are in men who leave their wives (especially pregnant wives) for other women. I can tell you that because I was one of those women who thought that he would stay with me and he didn't he went back to his estranged wife. I hope that is some comfort.
God bless you and your children
2007-03-13 09:44:36 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You poor poor honey. Well you know the first thing I would do is be grateful this man is no longer in your bed, and you will be able to find someone who deserves you when the time is right.
I am afraid your children are going to meet this woman, I just hope when she hears you are pregnant she might wake up a bit herself. You really are going to be better off with out this loser, I know you have the strength to get through this is one piece with your kids and come out the other end a happy independant strong woman, whose children will be so proud of, and don't worry, they are going to grow up one day, and one day they will know their father left you pregnant with two kids, for a tramp.
Stay strong, show that wanker he was not the reason you got up in the morning.
Much love from Oxford England
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2007-03-13 09:36:47 · answer #4 · answered by CHARISMA 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stay where you are if you can afford to. The less stress on you and the kids the better, changing environments won't help them.
Just let him go, if he came back you could NEVER trust him again. Consult an atty. You may have to wait until after the baby is born to prove paternity, Get a child support order on him, change the locks on the doors. There's alot more you need to do, but this is a start.
Hope this helps, email me if you need too
2007-03-13 09:56:27 · answer #5 · answered by walker9842 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why do your kids need to meet her now????? Get a separation agreement stipulating that neither one of you can expose your children to girlfriends/boyfriends/potential dates etc. for at least a year to give your children time to cope with what is going on.
2007-03-13 09:35:08 · answer #6 · answered by tooyoung2bagrannybabe 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How could he have gone from 'talking to her' to oving in with her. I think you've missed a big chunk of whats been going on. Obviously he's been doing more than that and in that case, let him go. He's not worth wasting any more time on. And by the sound of it you'd already figured that for yourself.
2007-03-13 09:34:46 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
why are your kids going to have to meet this other woman ??? she has nothing to do with your family they are your kids. tell your jerk of a husband if he wants contact then it has to be with out the other woman non way would my ex have his slappers near my child
2007-03-13 09:35:21 · answer #8 · answered by loubylou 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The kids may have to meet her one day, but that day doesn't have to be anytime soon!
2007-03-13 09:33:08 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
am feeling so sorry, please i don't want to see like this because i think is so sad, and i am feeling hurt to see people's problem but i will pray God for you.. how much your life and kids's lives so sad but i wished in the end he will come back to you and his wonderful children.. and he will know who really love him
2007-03-13 10:10:23 · answer #10 · answered by 2Q 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋