Are Some People Just Unlucky?

Question

I've alway had little or no luck in life, My friends notice it, My family notice it, Only thing I have going for me is a beautiful a child, Its been said more than once If I didn't have bad luck i'd have none. I changed doctors recently and went for my first appointment, she looked over my file and said "You've not had a lot of luck" I asked why, "Well for a young man your age you've had quite alot of problems" I kid you not thats what she said. I.E asthma, Hole in my heart, Anxiety, Depression the list goes on.

I've heard people say I am negative, but thats why as everything that can go wrong does, Sure I've tried to be positive but I don't get to far to something goes wrong again.

On the other side of the coin, I entered a raffle recently, I live in a poor area but who happened to win the raffle?? The richest man who entered it, the local bank manager, You get what I'm getting at.

Even more worrying its rubbing of on my other half.

Is it possible to change your luck?

Answer 1

I know exactly what you're talking about. My son claims he is very unlucky and perhaps when you look at things that have a negative impact on him you might agree. However, there are a lot of good things that have happened too...he's got a great wife, a family that loves him, new home to name a few. I think you just feel the "bad" stuff more. Then, you start to look around at other people but you're just looking for their "good" stuff so it seems that others are sooo lucky.Did you ever hear the story about the man with the cross. He told God it was too heavy for him to carry anymore and God said OK put it over there. etc. The end is God tells him to open the door to a new room and pick out which one he wants. So, he picks the smallest one there and God says that's the one you put over there...its your own.
I can't believe I'm actually writing that but I am Things always seem worse than they are and it always seems like it's happening to you and not to someone else.

I think unlucky things happen to everyone..but at different times and in different ways. Start looking at the good stuff and if you can't see any then ask those around you. They'll be able to tell you how great you really are. In the meanwhile,
you can still complain about a rich man winning the lottery. That's human nature but also realize you're only seeing l tiny part of their lives. Who knows what the rest holds.

Answer 2

It is all about thinking how lucky you are and not how unlucky you are. We all wallow in negativity from time to time and it can get you down believe me. And so my friend always look on the 'Bright Side of Life'.

I know from bitter experience that always having bad luck can make one very cynical about life in general and so we need to step back and count our blessings no matter how small they seem to us.

Bad health is the biggest dampner of the spirit and it takes tenancity and fervour to stay strong through illness of any sort especially depression.

I think if you haven't already asked your doctor to refer you on for cognitive therapy you should. Cognitive therapy can help you to realise and accept what has happened in your life so far and can be a firm building block to build on for the future.

Take a piece of paper and draw a line across the page thus dividing the page in two. Now on the top of the line write positive and underneath write negative or good and bad.

Now you are going turn the paper round so that the line in the middle is facing you and then you are going to spent sometime thinking about what is good in you life and what is bad and write these down on the appropriate side of the line.

You will be so surprised how many good things that are present in your life. For starters you are alive and kicking, you can communicate effectively i.e. neither blind, deaf or dumb.
Once you have completed the good things the bad things will be small in comparison.

And remember the bad things can probably be rectified given time whereas someone who is deaf, dumb or blind cannot. So turn your negativity into positivity and get out there and help those less fortunate than yourself. You will find that you have turned your life around without even knowing it

All of this will have a positive effect on your relationship in no time and life changes will occur. You wait and see.

As far as the Bank manager winning the raffle I think the phrase SODS LAW springs to mind or perhaps he has positive thinking.

Are you employed if not perhaps you would benefit from spending time with a career guidance adviser to help you to make anothe step in the right direction. Help is out there if you are prepared to ask for it. 'No Man is an Island'

All the very best you lucky man. Just think how lucky you are to have had an answer from Boudicca 'The Warrior Queen'! lol xx.

Answer 3

Yes you can change your luck...and it is karma. Your letting all this unluckiness in to your life. Matter of fact, its become a way of life for you.
Try not worrying about it...and I mean really.
GO out and do random acts of kindness......maybe you have a great coupon for like 50% off, go to the store and find someone who doesn't have one.....check in on any elderly neighbors you have...help them out with something.
Make your luck happen. When you enter the next raffle.....imagine yourself holding the winning ticket...worst it will do is make you feel better than holding the losing ticket.
STOP all the negative thinking. Health problems can be made worse with negative thinking.
I was like you..sure I had the worse luck, I had asthma, anxiety, breaking out in itchy red hives from all the stress I had....eventually I said screw it...lifes too short...soon I met my husband, we have a house, three great kids, and are really happy....I do not have any of the previous health problems...although a few new ones occasionally pop up...I dont worry, how could I when Im so lucky in other things.

Answer 4

No One Is Lucky. To Me Life Is A Box Of Chocolate You Never Know What U Can Get. But My Life Tells Me Without Bad Luck There Would Not Be Any Luck 4 U At ALL

Answer 5

You sure can change your luck! I'm sorry but you have to change your attitude. I HAD bad luck until I changed mine. Instead of thinking your cup is half empty think it's half full. If its raining when you wake up think its a beautiful day cos you are alive and able to see your child. Life is what you make of it and if your other half is going the same way as you its up to you to stop it, you are bringing her down with your attitude you can only live with someone so long before you start thinking the same way. Try getting your hands on some self-help books and cd's these all helped me and now my doctor is lowing my depression medication, that plus the fact I had help from a very good friend who dragged me up when I didn't want to get up and listened to me when I was down. Dont dump on your wife get someone you can trust to talk to and cheer up life does get better when someone else cares. If you want to dump on someone drop me a line at [e-mail] I'll listen and help when I can even if its longdistance who cares. Try getting hold of a dvd called The Secret you'll find it inspiring. Good luck and chin up I'll look for you in my inbox.

Answer 6

People who have negative feelings, tend to draw negativity towards themselves...bad things happen so you get the blues, that in turn magnfies anything else bad that happens, and stress/anxiety (from the bad things) can negatively affect your health...it becomes a viscious circle.

TRY to be optimistic, but also realistic. Know what can happen (the good and the bad) but hope for the good and do what you can to help the outcome be positive for you. Look for a silver lining in the less-than-positive things that occur (such as: I got sick and threw-up last night but I lost a pound so it helped my diet).

Life doesn't often deal anyone a super positive hand...it's how we deal with the negative that makes a difference...we can work to change it, and make the best of it we can, or we can let it get the best of us and get sucked into a downward spiral of more blues and unhappiness.

This life is too short not to make it the very best we can...it's tough but paste on a smile and make up your mind there is no "bad luck"!

Answer 7

I think that you will be able to change things by focusing on the good points, you have a beautiful child like you said so surley thats positive, some people don't get to have any children. They say carrying copper is meant to bring good luck if your really believe you have bad luck, maybe you could get yourself a braclet of some sort. Even if that theory is not true at least you may find yourself thinking more positive. I don't believe people are neccesarily unlucky, I think its about focusing on the things you achive, have and enjoy rather that focusing on the opposite. Good luck anyway and I hope it all goes well for you.

Answer 8

Just keep plugging away at that positive attitude. It's hard, you'll backslide, but get up, dust off, and go at it again. In everything bad that happens there is at least some tiny bit of good, find that and cherish it and keep trying to be positive. It takes a long long time for a generally negative attitude to become a generally positive one but if I can do it, and I have, you can do it. It's taken me about 10 years but I now tend to see the positive first, better things happen too and around me and when negative things do happen I have a different perspective of them. It's really about perspective, and when you get to a place where it starts to shift it makes the work totally worthwhile.
Best wishes!

Answer 9

I find life very challenging since birth it seems. I am tired of people telling me to be positive all the time. I always wondered if I was being tested by a higher power and how long it would last before I could see the light at the end of the tunnel. We cannot analyze life but just deal with the day to day issues at hand. I can't sugar coat it but life is what it is.
Everyday I look at my children and see how beautiful they are and that just keeps me going.

Answer 10

I dont know about good n bad luk - life just happens - swings n roundabouts all the way - - good n bad y'know wot i mean ? but the best thing i ever heard woz that, say you haveto fail a thousand times before you succeed, look at each failure as 1 step closer to your ultimate success, embrace every failure - 1 down only 9,999 to go -

it seems a long way to go - but giving up aint an option - so keep on trying - thats what i say, n thats wot i do - Good Luk * *