How should I say to my dad, I'm pregnant?

Question

I'm 22 and I know no one in my family is going to be thrilled that I'm pregnant but I'm 4 1/2 months and I need to get it out there but everytime I go to tell them I freak out and end up not doing it. How can I go about it and just say it?

Answer 1

Buy him a coffee mug or t-shirt that says #1 grandpa or I'm gonna be a grandpa again if there are other grandchildren, go to his house, and let him un-wrap it.

Answer 2

Well Ive been volunteering at a Pregnancy Center and doing lay counseling for about 4 1/2 yrs and believe me Ive been asked that question so many times. If your worried how they will react, then have someone else there with you, or even have that person tell him for you. But not only as a counselor but as a mother of 3 grown children, which 2 of them have told me they were, its really not to hard to take it, because as a parent you start thinking about a grand baby and that baby hasn't done anything to anyone and theres no reason to be mad you cant change it, you are 22 and not 14 that is a reason to celebrate. hope all goes well, just be strong and bite the bullet. Do look for help at a Crisis Pregnancy Center, they love to help out.

Answer 3

My boyfriend and I had only been together for 5 months when I found out I was pregnant! We'd already talked about having kids but weren't expecting one to appear so quickly. I phoned my mum and she was supportive but very surprised. I don't think she got excited until I had my first scan at 20 weeks and she saw the baby. I was terrified to tell my dad. I think every father worries some guy's going to come along and get his little girl pregnant. To my complete surprise my dad immediately said congratulations and he thought I would make a great mum! Your dad might just be like mine. As my parents said, having a grand child can be far better than your own children!! Good luck

Answer 4

I know it's going to be tough but just sit down your parents, or whoever you feel should be told first. Just say it, I know it sounds tough but ya gotta do it. I was 28 and engaged to my sons father when I got pregnant. I was living away from my family and trying to do my own thing so they knew very little about my liffe and knew nothing about my boyfriend, none the less that we were engaged (that had just happened). I ended up telling my mom on the phone and regret it to this day.
I won't sugar coat it, it was terrible. I am VERY close to all of my family and they were very hurt. My mom starting spouting off about adoption and we ended up just not talking for about a week (I never go more than 2 days without talking to her..:-).
We started to talk after she had let my dad in and I had talked to my sis. We went shopping for new clothes together for me a couple of weeks later (3 months in) and I think it was then that I first saw the change. I knew she had concerns but she saw how happy and serious I was about it. She knew that I knew just what I was in for and estatic! My son is now 5 1/2 (his dad and I divorced when he was 13 moths) and we always say that we have no idea what life would be like without him and don't want to! He has brought our family closer than we could have ever imagined.
Bottom like, it will be had and probably bad before it gets better. Just do it, tell them everything you are feeling and your plans and ask for their support (not their support, but to be supportive). Show then that you are ready for this and want them there. It will take time but it will work, I am proff that it can!
GOOD LUCK!

Answer 5

It all depends on the relationship between you and your father/family. If you are close I am sure he/they will be happy to hear everything is going well and healthy or even more happy that you came to tell them yourself. Tell your dad or whoever else that you love him and that you wanted to talk to him about something. Sit with him and tell him your sorry you didn't get to him any earlier but you just wanted to make sure everything was going well before you announced it to everyone. Then tell him how you feel about it, how your excited and you feel so ready for this (only if you are of course) and that you wanted to congratulate him for he is going to be a grandpa! Tell him too that you hope that he will be there for you both and be as great a grandpa as he was a father...He should appreciate this!!

If you don't have a good relationship with your father, then I wouldn't even worry about what he thinks or how you tell him as long as you let them know that this is what you want and your ready to be the best you can as a mother for your child and that you would appreciate there love and support..
good luck!

Answer 6

You are an adult, and being pregnant shouldn't be a surprise or the end the world.Have confidence in the way you tell him, it just might change the reaction you'll get from him. Most parents don't fear their children getting pregnant, their worry is if your ready for the kind of commitment your taking on.
Show him how happy you are and tell him he'll make a awesome grandfather.

Answer 7

You know your family better than anyone and have probably witnessed the way tough situations were handled and what resulted with the best reaction. If you know they are not going to be happy for you then telling them sooner will just help you to not worry about it as much b/c you already know how they will react. Look at it like this, it is done, you can not change it and neither can they so you need to go forward and be happy because stress on you is stress on your baby and that is what you need to tell them if they blow up on you. Keep yourself as happy as possible. If it is telling them and leaving and giving them some time to cool off then that is how it has to be. I am happy for you and wish you the best. Your job is to keep that baby healthy and that means keeping you healthy and happy.

Answer 8

Alright if you’re truly scared to tell your dad face to face send him a card with the ultrasound picture(s) in it. Let him know if it’s a boy or girl or if your going to wait and be surprised. Dads always give you that look and make you feel bad even when they don’t mean to. If you generally have a supportive family you should let them know so they can be there for you every step of the way. Sometimes a letter is much easer and it give you time to be away from them as they asses the situation.

Answer 9

Just tell him you need to talk with him. It may not be easy but it needs to be done because i think he would be more mad if you waited even longer. I told my parents the same day I found out i was 6 weeks. I was not looking forward to it because they believe strictly in being married and everything. Even though you are an adult *Im 21* they still consider you their "baby" and kinda want you to do what they think is best. My parents were dissapointed, angry even and not really happy. However I have only 10 weeks to go and they are very excited. I would just do it soon because you're already kinda far ahead. but good luck to you.

Answer 10

Don't listen to these people telling you to do it over the phone or mail them a postcard. Sit them down and tell them face to face. If your significant other is still in your life and wants to be there for you for moral support, then have him be there too.

You are 22 years old. You are an adult. You were responsible enough to have sex. Now be the responsible adult and tell them before they either have to ask you or they hear it from someone else. Can you imagine how much more it would hurt them to find out that not only are you pregnant, but that you didn't tell them? Then get yourself to the doctor if you haven't already.

Think that in a few months you will have this beautiful little baby that they are going to adore! They love you. You are their daughter and while you might hurt them a little (but probably not as bad as you think you are going to) they will still love you and they will love your little one. You are probably being harder on yourself than they will. Tell them today.

Answer 11

It's really important that you tell him, even if you know he won't respond well. I got pregnant at 19 and I have a very conservative religious father who was quite disappointed to say the least. I was too scared to tell him in person, so I wrote a letter and mailed it to him. I know some people would say that he deserves to hear it in person, but it's still better than not telling him. My dad came around in the end. He loves his grandchild dearly, and our relationship is better for having worked through it. I wish you the best of luck!