one of my guy friends met this new girl at our school. they have an army class ( i forget what type ) and they also have band together and i have band with both of them. every time i see them talking to each other i get totally mad at her. and i have no idea why. she just recenctly told me she has a crush on him, so i told her to go and ask him out ( holding in my anger ) i pretended like i cared. so she asked, but he said no ( i was sooo happy ), but they still hang out, and she still flirts and im tired of it. is this just jelousy? do i actually like my friend? im really confused. i think im just afraid of losing him to her.
thanx
2007-03-13 09:10:02 · 32 answers · asked by Jennie 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
i don't really know the girl, we like practically just met about a month ago it's high school, i don't really see her all the time
2007-03-13 11:50:07 · update #1
Yes, you are jealous. Now, the only thing you need to figure out is are you afraid of her replacing you in his life or you do you like him for more than a friend. Could be either one, but without knowing you better, I couldn't say for sure.
2007-03-13 09:13:44 · answer #1 · answered by reandsmom77 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, it's jealousy - and there's nothing wrong with that.
It's completely 100% normal to get jealous in these situations. You have a great friend, and you are worried that he will get into a relationship and you will lose him, or you will be replaced by this new girl.
It is possible that you have a crush on him, but only you will know whether or not this is the case - generally speaking, if you fancy someone, you know it.
Either way, don't feel at all bad about how you're feeling - like I said, it's normal, and you're doing nothing wrong. Maybe try to hang out with her on her own, and become closer to her, then you will see that it's okay for you to spend time with just one person - sometimes just you and him, sometimes just you and her, and sometimes just her and him.
Friendships of 3 can be tricky, because you are almost always left feeling like you're the odd one out. But try to remember that she almost certainly feels the same - she will undoubtedly be jealous of your friendship with him, and wish she could be as close as you are.
Don't throw away your friendship over this, just try to become more of a 'group' than a twosome. Good luck hon! :)
2007-03-13 09:16:59 · answer #2 · answered by Pebbles 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like she's not the only one with a crush. Maybe you should talk to him more and gauge his feelings toward you. Maybe take the plunge and ask him out. Or go all out and tell him how you really feel.
You're last sentence says it all. You're "afraid of losing him to her"? Yes, you're definitely into him as more than just a friend.
2007-03-13 09:17:05 · answer #3 · answered by kevness 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like jealousy to me, but not to worry. Jealousy is a normal human emotion and is not only experienced when you like someone romantically (you can be jealous over friends too). It is only a problem when you let it get out of control. Whether or not you like the guy in the bf sense is something only you can decide.
2007-03-13 09:17:45 · answer #4 · answered by DizziDazi 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, I think you are somewhat jealous. But, I believe you need to examine the reason why you're jealous. Do you really have feelings for him? Or, do you just want to be the center of his attention? Do you only find yourself attracted/jealous when other women display interest in him? Just some things to think about, but maybe you need to distance yourself from him & her to get a clear view.
2007-03-13 09:17:06 · answer #5 · answered by Katie 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you either think A. hes a really close friend and you don't want this other girl to take that or B. you like him as more than just a friend and were jealous that its other girl is taking him away from you?
2007-03-13 09:18:37 · answer #6 · answered by Rosy Bear 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A little jealousy is normal, but you should not pretend that it does not affect you when girl you know has crush on guy you like. Tell her to stay away.
2007-03-13 09:17:13 · answer #7 · answered by bibus75 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you jealous and confused ,now your stuck holding in your feelings for the rest of the year.you should have said how you felt from the beginning.unless your ready for trouble find some one else,and stop being so jealous or you wont be able to be around people.or you could just stop caring and tell him how you feel because if you stop caring it wont be so hard
2007-03-13 09:24:03 · answer #8 · answered by GEORGE W 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes. it's jealousy. Of course you like your friend - that doesn't mean you like her romantically. it just means you don't want to lose the time that you have with her. Better to get it in check now because this will happen more and more as you get older.
2007-03-13 09:13:59 · answer #9 · answered by J F 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The first three you wrote here is "yes".
And as far as you loosing him as friend only if you let it happen. Time will tell, start hang out with him more.
2007-03-13 09:17:11 · answer #10 · answered by angels 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋