Why is this????

Question

I can not stand when so many women dog others for not breast feeding!! It is our choice!!! It makes me so mad!!! I delivered 5 weeks early on the dot and she was in the NICU and fed through a tube formula because NONE of my milk had come in ( none at all not event the pre milk ) and they needed to feed her so they did that for a day then put her on bottle to feed after that. ( took me 4 days to get milk in... any milk ) so when I tried she hated it and would not take ( tried for a day then 5 on and off after that) so I get so mad at moms who say formaul sucks because some have to have it because moms like me can not do it any other way... what are your Veiws on it???

ps she is now 14 months so way to late but I brought it up because of my friend

Answer 1

Some women are like the boob Nazi's. I am very sorry that you had to deal with that. I wanted to breastfeed my first baby and due to an unseen complication I was unable to and I did get a hard time from a lot of people but I told them to mind their own business and that they have no idea what my situation is. If you wanted to breastfeed I am sorry that you couldn't but don't worry, if you have another you have the CHOICE to do either. Ignore the idiots!

Answer 2

I think whatever is best for the mother is what should be the go. A friend of mine who had her son 1 month before I had mine, had to stop breast feeding after approx a month. She was extremly sick throughout her pregnancy and her body was too stressed and after birth could not keep up with the milk supply. I applauded her for being strong enough to go and see a lactation consultant and make the choice that was best for her and her son. Stuff those who make a song and dance about formula fed babies, they are just ignorant.

Answer 3

You get criticized no matter what you do as a parent so congratulations on being inducted to parenthood. I am still breastfeeding my 6 month old and I get dirty looks from parents and old women and anyone that apparently thinks it isn't right. One reason is because I don't think that women should be banished to bathrooms and dressing rooms if their baby is hungry while they're out. I carry a blanket so no one catches a peek, but some people still have to let me know that they don't think it's appropriate. I don't ever criticize anyone for what their choice was. I'm happy with my choice and that's what matters and it goes the same for everyone else for me. Just ignore them and eventually they'll stop, it's more frequent when the baby is really little for people to say something. By the time your daughter is 4 months there will be way less commentary on what she eats.

Answer 4

Hi there,
I am a mother of 2 children. Or should I say I am the mother of 2 of the healthiest children on the planet!! Oh and did I mention I did not breast feed either one of them? I personally think that breast milk is not the best for a baby. Just like when you are pregnant whatever you put in your body your unborn child gets. Even after you give birth whatever you eat and drink, not too mention if you are taking any medications will also be in your body including the breast milk. I would just begin giving your child formula and be done with it. They will be so ok. Whoever doesn't like it doesn't have to. As long as you are keeping them on a healthy feeding schedule that is all that matters. Not every mother can breastfeed. I couldn't and even if I could I wouldn't have. My mother didn't and neither did her mother. We are all here and very healthy. Give formula. It is the safest and most reliable method. Feel free to give feedback on my answer to your question. Take care

Answer 5

I had problems with nursing too. I had a regular delivery with no problems and tried to nurse my baby right after birth. But my milk took almost 2 weeks before it came in. The lacation people at the hospital kept coming in all the time. I know they were trying to do there job and help me, but it made me feel like I was a failure. Plus when I went home, they kept calling me untiI I got to the point when I told them, she was gaining weight okay and my milk was in and to leave us alone. But still my supply was never that good. When my daughter was a month old, she got diganosed with a milk and soy allergy. So I had to stop eating anything with dairy or soy. It was very diffcult to give up all kinds of foods and be very restricted but somehow I managed okay for 3 months but then I went back to work. I tried various pumps and etc, I could hardly pump anything out. I had to start supplimenting with formula and had to put her on a special formula because of her allergies. My weight kept dropping and I became underweight because of having such a restrictive diet. Then my milk pretty much stopped on its own. I gave it my best for 6 months. But I get that formula is bad lecture from people and they have no idea what I went through to try and nurse my baby. Some people don't understand that it isn't so much that we don't want to nurse but cannot for various reasons. I think people have this idea, that breastfeeding is easy and all you have to do is put the baby on your breast and that is it. For some women it is but for others it isn't. You gave it your best and it didn't work. You tried and that is all you can do. There are pleanty of babies who were only formula fed and they turned out healthy and fine. I do think and still think breast milk is better. It was very emotional for me when I was having the nursing problems and I blamed myself and cried a lot over it. I thought I wouldn't have a special bond with my daughter. But my daughter and I have such a close bond without the nursing. You should be proud of yourself for trying your best. Don't worry about what other people say. Don't stress yourself out like I did. Just enjoy your baby and focus in on the more important stuff. Good luck!!

Answer 6

I think it's a choice- however if u do still want to (since u say u tried) there r ways to make her latch on now that she's used to the plastic nipple on the bottle. Try a nipple shield (it's a plastic piece that covers your nipple and feels like a bottle to the baby- Medela makes great ones or get one from the lactation consultant at your hospital, they don't hurt) or get a breast pump and feed the breast milk to her from a bottle. My daughter wouldn't latch either so this is how we do it now. Also, if u want to try one of those ideas but now u have no milk, ask your doc for the shot- it causes u to re-lactate.

Answer 7

When your baby is born you automatically produce chlostrum which then turns to milk around 3 days after delivery, the chlostrum is the ideal first food for your baby and it is proven that babies in special care actually do better on chlostrum and breast milk than formula. But I cannot judge because as you say, mums like you cannot do it and everyone has their reasons for not doing it too. However; I do believe that everyone should breastfeed-at least you tried, thats the main thing!

Answer 8

its people like Carly there, who are so clearly misinformed that get us up on our high horses.

Why does anyone's "choice" supersede their baby's birthright? Even an unhealthy mother can make better human breastmilk than a pharmaceutical company and a cow can. The body makes food for the baby, using the nutrients stored in the body.

You said you COULD NOT breastfeed, that is a lot different than making a choice to not even bother.

Formula is there in case of dire necessity, not just because people can't be bothered.

Answer 9

I agree with you! I'm just as irritated with how women are so judgmental about whether or not you stay home or work. I breastfeed and stay home. My mom formula feed me and worked. Who cares?! We both did what was best for our babies.

Formula feeding your baby is so much better than the other option, no food. Those women are uneducated, and that is frustrating.

Answer 10

I'm sorry for your harsh experiences.

Personally, I breastfed all of my children. I believe strongly in the need for HUMAN babies to have HUMAN milk.

I also have come to realize that there is a HUGE lack of effective and knowledgeable support for new Moms trying to breastfeed. I equate this fact with the amount of women that have to stop for whatever reason (aside from medical reasons of course).
So many Moms leave the hospital believing their bodies are inadequate. It's really sad.

Again, I'm sorry for your experience as it is VERY common unfortunately.

You tried your best and it didn't work out, this is where formula comes in handy. Like a PP said, do what works for you and your family.