How can I suggest to my bf that I want to have sex with him and several other guys at the same time. Please don't lecture me about all the risk, I'm 47 and I know how to protect myself. I juat want to be a ..w h o r e.. sometimes, is that so bad?
2007-03-13 09:01:00 · 25 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Just ask. He may or may not go for it, and be prepared for either answer. At that point, depending on his answer, you will need to evaluate what is more important, him or being with all the other guys. You'll also have to keep in mind that this may ruin your relationship, even if he agrees to it. As long as you can deal with all that, have a good time!
2007-03-13 10:03:50 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, you can suggest it at one end of a telephone with a packed bag ready to go somewhere else. It's highly likely that he's going to tell you that its not an option, and it's been nice knowing you.
On the other hand, he might say to you, "It's fine with me, but in return I want to have sex with several other women." Are you prepared to accept those terms?
2007-03-13 16:08:54 · answer #2 · answered by Pythagoras 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well this is really crazy because you are not 16 or 17 anymore You're 47 and your messing around days should be over. This is really nasty for you to be wanting to do this at this age.
2007-03-13 16:07:50 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Perhaps you can strike a deal with him, such as if he find 5 other guys who will join him in a gang bang with you, you will find 5 other women who will join you in sex with him.
I don't think there is any way to broach the subject gently, but it may make for a better sell if he sees a good profit for himself.
2007-03-13 16:33:02 · answer #4 · answered by Martin Pedersen 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I read your other questions and will give you my input. I knew this woman who lost her husband when she was in her mid 50s. I started chatting with her she was 63.....she loved her husband, but since his death she found sexual gratification from boys as young as 16/17. I worked out, that she loved her husband very much and felt this was a far better way to get her needs met, and still be faithful to her husbands memory....I know it sounds ridiculous, but I honestly believe, in her mind, it was OK.....and it was OK....she was very happy living this lifestyle....she had her independence, and she also had her young men to satisfy her......she was totally in control of her life.....its something I dont think I could do, but hey, its her life, and if shes OK with it, then who am I, or anyone else to say its wrong.
After you losing your husband, you would be feeling lost, and one of two things could be happening with you. 1. You are feeling totally free for the first time in a long time and you are asserting your freedom....in which case, the having sex with all kinds of different men is understandable...but 2, I also think, and please give this serious thought, that maybe you loved your husband very much and are afraid it will tarnish his memory if you get involved in another serious relationship. Maybe you are punishing yourself somehow for his death.....hence wanting different men. It makes sense to me, simply because I know a bit about the mind and how it thinks, and sometimes we arent even aware of the reasons we do the things we do....which in your case is very true.
Sex can be absolutely incredible with one partner, you can be totally fullfilled with the right man, but I think in your case, you are too afraid to enter that domain, so you are having sex with any man. Maybe you want to stay true to your husbands memory, who knows, thats why you need some help to sort this out.
One thing that was obvious to me with all your question is you are as confused as hell. If I were you, I would go and see a counsellor because I believe everything you are doing and thinking right now is based around your husband's death somehow. There are a lot of issues I think you need to deal with. I could be wrong and it could be a simple case of you experimenting with your new found freedom......you could have had a very boring marriage for all I know and you are now feeling free enough to act on your sexual urges....the urges you have always had, but maybe was never allowed to act on when you were married.
It is a very complex issue actually. It is causing you great confusion...that is obvious, so I really would consider going to see a good, qualified counsellor. I still believe everything you are doing has something to do with your husbands death. And it is for those reasons I think it wouldnt matter how you told your current boyfriend that you wanted to have an "orgy" because you are not in a committed relationship with him anyway...so losing him probably wouldnt be a problem.......maybe this punishing yourself thing is something to think about. Go see a counsellor before you do any more damage to your psyche....Husbands death, guilt, confusion, punishment is something I think you need to think about seriously. Be kind to yourself, get some help...it will help will sort this confusion out.
Take care
2007-03-13 16:58:52 · answer #5 · answered by rightio 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is "so bad". I guess just tell him......but I am not sure how many men would like to see their girl get gang-banged. That would make you look like a nasty piece of meat afterwards, and ruin any intimacy between the two of you.
2007-03-13 16:27:23 · answer #6 · answered by Tangled Web 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you dont know, Men are very territorial...NOT many men would like to share there women with the whole world. Unless, he is just having some fun with you and passing time... Sorry to say this......
2007-03-13 16:14:16 · answer #7 · answered by fairytale_chic 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I disagree with 3somes they are big trouble. No straight woman is going to be ok with her male partner if he makes more satisfying noises from another girl. same with guys... no guy is going to be ok if you make more satisfying noises with another man. Tell your boyfriend that you want an open realtionship and want to have sex with other guys.
2007-03-13 16:12:15 · answer #8 · answered by Worried wife 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Whatever floats your boat!! You suggest it at the right moment, just the way you explained it here. Be prepared to lose him or live out your fantasy.
2007-03-13 16:08:00 · answer #9 · answered by Pamela 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first you have to invite him for a date(on the night) under the light of candels,flowers every where,a nice dinner with a lot of drink;wear hot dress makes your body sexy(don't use your bra)so after you drink very much go to his house or to yours and kiss him very much.....you'll see the result in the morning..........or you can tell him
2007-03-13 16:24:41 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋