POLYGRAPH test HELP NEEDED!!!?

Question

I have just found out that my wife has been sleeping with somebody on the basis my wife thought i had slept with this persons partner on our wedding night.

I'm so terribly gutted as you can imagine, thinking that they sought revenge purely on their thoughts.
It's to late in my mind to reconsile but for myself the people and friends i know and my wife i would like to show beyond all doubt that i didn,t do anything.

Therefore i would like to take a polygraph test, hoping that this will have the desired effect. I live in Wilts, has anybody got any idea where i could go and how much this is likely to cost, mind you i would be willing to take out a loan if need be to prove my inosence.

I have heard that the test may take 2-3 hrs, why would this be if after all in my mind all i need to be asked is that, "have i ever had any sexual relations" with the person in question. Thank you in advance for any suggestions.

Answer 1

You wrote "my wife has been sleeping" and "thought i had slept". These two statements tell the story that you are being fed a line of hooey! Whether or not you "slept" (= once) with your wife's affair partners wife does not give your wife license to be "sleeping" (=multiple) with this man.
You owe her nothing, I think this is an attempt to make it your fault (as if) and take the blame from where it squarely should be. Your wife has been cheating on you with your, really her, friend...that's a fact. She has made up this extremely lame excuse to justify her continuous gutter sleaze bag activity.
I suggest you see that your entire marriage has been based on a lie and instead of an appointment for a polygraph an appointment with a divorce attorney would better serve this sham of a marriage.
Run don't walk and never look back, you deserve better than this. IMHO

Answer 2

Here is one, there is a test out there that alleges to beat the socks off of a polygraph test, as far as accuracy goes. It is called a V.S.A., or voice stress analysis, which measures the FM tones in your yes or no responses to questions...I have no Idea what they would cost, but ask your local police department if they could direct you, a lot of the police departments use them in lieu of a polygraph.

Bottom line, if she did this, out of revenge or not, you don't need to be with her. Whether you did anything or not, 2 wrongs don't make a right. Approach her with that, and then let her know that you will be willing to take a test, in her presence, just to prove to her that you are innocent...but in all honesty, I feel that you taking such a test is a waste of your time and your money. You know in your heart what you did, if you didn't do anything, then you shouldn't loose any sleep over it.

If it is over, and you know you can't reconsile this, then let it go. She can't prove that you did anything wrong...if you can, great, use it in court. But I feel strongly, that if you do not intend to stay with her, or if the test will not save your marriage, then I think that the test is a waste of time and money. But do what ever suits you. Remember, you know what you did, and that is all that counts.

Answer 3

Ok, I guess you really love her.

Assuming you forgive what she did, and that you really want to prove you didn’t do anything, let me ask you this:

What happens after she finds out you are innocent. Then what? She is now going to feel so guilty that she might leave anyways.

But in any case, if you must go thought one of those test to prove to her you didn’t do anything, go ahead. Don’t forget those tests are not 100% accurate and there are ways to cheat. There are new tests that are more advanced and almost 100% good but they are not available to most civilians. They are only used by the FBI and other secret service agencies only. It is too expensive and new to be available anyways.

To do the regular test, just look for it on the internet, or open the yellow pages (or go online) and see what is available. If you live n a small town, you might have to go to another town to do it.

I recommend you to take your wife with you, and let her see everything.

I can tell you why the test is so long as I have taken it myself, and know people who does it (I work with computers and I know about it and took it many times for fun).

It starts with a questionnaire, that has nothing to do with your wife and cheating, this is just part of the process. Depending on what you are going to be tested for, the question will change, and they are simple as what color is something in there, or what letter is this, to also personal questions about your life.

You must give permission to them to ask you very personal questions, and depending on local laws they will do it or not.

After that, they should show you all the questions that are going to be asked at the test. You will not go in there without knowing the questions. Of course, there might be some surprises if the test requires it, but it depends on many things.

When they are ready, they will call you. At that point, I’m sure your wife will have to wait outside. The can not allow people inside except for the tester and the subject being tested unless the case is special. Again, they will let you know.

Depending on the equipment used, you will get many or little sensors attached to you. They can vary from chest sensors, head sensors, hand sensors 9usually fingers) and optical sensors (cameras, infrared, and eye cameras to see your pupils).

The tester will explain to you what to do, and how to sit, and when to answer and how to answer. It is not as you have seen on TV, it is more complicated. The tester might even show you how to breath while taking the test.

The tester can also do a demo test, and show you the results in the screen, so you can see the spikes in the lines. You will notice how different they are from what you thought the results would be.

Then, you should go into the real test, that will do many questions, maybe surprise questions as well, and probably many about your wife, you, and who you have slept with, when, etc. Don’t expect just to be a direct question as probably it will not be.

I recommend you to just be honest and answer every question without memorizing them, but more thinking about it. Listen to the question, understand it, think about it, and then give an answer. The usual answers they want to hear are a simple “yes” or a “no”.

The test can last from at least an hour to over 3 hours depending on the complexity. The time spent connected to the machine can be from just some minutes, to almost an hour. They have limits as the results will be altered as you start to get anxious and desperate.

Price, can be from hundreds to thousands of dollars.

And to be honest, if you can find a very expensive one, and show it to your wife, and be serious about it, she might believe you after she sees how serious you are about showing her you did not do anything wrong, and will save you from spending the money and risking at the end also to get a wrong result (it could happen, it happened to me many times… LOL) .

Good luck.

Answer 4

You have a bigger problem than proving your honesty and faithfulness here. You evidently have a wide ability to forgive if your wife sleep with someone else and you accept it knowing you did nothing. Your wife may have been looking for a way to justify her infidelity and may have come up with this fiction to point the blame back at you. I would look at my marriage as a whole and determine if there was really doubt here, why didn't she confront you about it before deciding to take action and are you going to be able to look at her without her affair coming to mind for the rest of your life? If there isn't something else to this story besides what you have admitted then I would seriously doubt that your wife has the same commitment to your marriage that you do.

Answer 5

Come on dude, you're not really that dumb are you? Your wife or "they" just made that story up as an excuse. That way, they don't feel nearly as guilty.

You don't need a polygraph to know this "truth". The truth is your wife and this guy love screwing each other. Here you went and found out their secret and ruined things. Geesh, she wasn't screwing him for revenge, it was for sexual gratification. WAKE UP!!!

Answer 6

It doesn't sound like your wife is worth the effort if she thought so little. If you insist on getting a polygraph, just tell the truth. If you have nothing to hide, you have nothing to worry about and shouldn't be concerned with the results.

Answer 7

The problem with the ploygraph test is that ultimately, it doesn't work! Most police departments have now dropped it, and it's forensic value is seriously contested in court. It is relatively easy to train yourself to pass it with ease.
In your case you need to realise that essentially what it is measuring is how stressed you are, so this could backfire on you if you take it in a highly charged emotional state.

Answer 8

i just had a polygraph given to my fiance because i needed to know if he was being forthcoming with all of his secrets. I live in NJ usa, and the man came to our house and did it rather quickly.... i'm sure you can have a similar experience with a trained professional in your area. i found my guy on the web, so that's a good place for you to start. good luck!

Answer 9

I'm sorry, but even if you did do that, which you say you didn't, that is no excuse for her to do that to it, and then blame it on "pay back". That is just wrong and you have a right to be upset! I wouldn't bother with the polygraph, because I'm thinking it wouldn't make difference to her. I think she did it because she wanted to. I'm am so sorry. She is just WRONG!

Answer 10

I wouldn't bother. I can fully understand that you want to prove your innocence but what good will it do - you have already made your mind up that you cannot take her back. Move on, keep your self respect and hold your head up high. Good luck.x