Marriage counsling and Medication?

Question

I went to marriage counsling with my husband a couple of times and we still have the same problems. He's controlling in some aspects and I've been single for so long running my own household that I do have control issues as well. He is so critical of eveything I do or say and has to twist my words ALL THE TIME! He won't let things go, he brings up the same fights all the time over-and-over. IT's ExaustinG! I'm trying to be a supportive person but he is always so negative. He thinks I need medication because I'm moody and he can't tell who I am from day to day. Iv'e stopped responding to his negative comments(the counsler helped me with that) and I see a little progress in myself. My husband use to be on PROZAC before I met him and his Father is on Prozac because if he isn't he's a nightmare. I think he needs medication for his irrational thinking and he thinks I should be on it. What would you recommend me taking? i admit to having mood swings! Help unhappily married

Answer 1

While medication is a temporary fix - I suggest that you go to Imago counseling. I know a couple of people who have tried this and it has worked wonders for their marriage. Please, before you try anything else, especially giving up, try a weekend counseling session. Anything is worth a try - especially for love.

Piper

Answer 2

I'm not a religious person but I'm a believer in God's healing and the power of prayer. I think both of you need to find a church you have tried the counselling and well it appears your still dealing with the same crap. It is time to find a church and some people to pray for you and your husband it sounds to me that both of you are living in a relationship of resentment of each other medication only clouds the issues it does not help with them.

Please pray for some healing and love from God.

If you are not a believer you may be laughing at this
but I will tell you some of the most trying times in my life single and married praying to God for help and guidance has opened doors of healing that would otherwise have been closed.

God Bless and Good Luck it sounds like you to want to work stuff out this is just a answer and a solid choice for things to mend your marriage.

One last thing remember your vows and your wedding day
all of that was witnessed by God and his angels so if anyone can help mend your broken hearts it is him.

Answer 3

Marriage counselors aren't magicians. Both parties must be willing to do the things the counselor asks. As for medication, I took Prozac for depression and gained 20 pounds and felt like a zombie all the time, so I am not a proponent of Prozac. If one or both of you is depressed, your doctor might find a better alternative than Prozac.

Answer 4

Drugs NEVER cure the problem, they just "TREAT" the symptom.Let me give you a good illustration.If you broke your leg and the bone was sticking out, taking something to kill the pain wont fix your leg.The only person you can change is you.Have him kake a list of all the negative things and positive thing he sees in you.You tell him youre doing the same thing.Then you both work on your negatives when you both are willing to admit to them.Until a person admits to them they can nver fix the problems.His irritable behavior comes from stress, prozac may help, so does a host of other drugs legal and not legal.Theres another way to deal with stress, turn to GOD.The bible says "cast all your cares upon JESUS for HE cares for you".

Answer 5

I think that a professional should recommend a medication. But it sounds like your husband is the one that has some issues. I think that the counseling will help if you attend it long term. Just a few sessions isn't going to fix everything, especially since there is more than 1 issue going on.

Answer 6

Go to the Family Doctor,if you don't have one find one.
Try talking it over with Doctor different meds for different Mental illnesses, Depressions,Personality disorders,Anxiety ,obsessive
compulsive disorder.I take Lexapro for Anxiety/Depression.
I did take Paxzil.It was not working after 10 yrs.of taking it.
Go find a good Church.You go and pray for God to show you what to do about your Marriage.God Bless you.

Answer 7

the two do no longer must be on a similar time unique. that's obtainable to truly love the guy chosen for you. yet once you advise finding out on between an arranged marriage the place there is no chemistry, and finding out on a marriage with somebody you like, i might surely elect the latter. how are you able to marry somebody you do unlike? that must be like slavery.

Answer 8

I take mood stabilizer, my husband doesn't take anything...But i go to counseling alone and we go to counseling together. My husband takes anger classes which covers controlling problems. If both people aren't willing to give their all then it wont work.
You husbands seems to be putting it all on you...and its not just you. He needs to help too..

Answer 9

I recommend taking a baseball bat to his head. You have mood swings because you have hormonal changes, it sounds like he's the one with issues. Good luck and remember....swing hard!

Answer 10

Doesnt sound like the marriage counselor worked. Have you considered a 2nd opinion from another counselor???