well....my boyfriend and i has been together for over 1 year and we have went through some problems but nothig we cant overcome....but he broke up with me a month ago because of my chidish ways..(i stop actig like that) we have gotton back together....but i cant get over that because he told me he would never break up with me..... how do i get over this? no negative answers you can keep those to yourself
2007-03-13 08:27:13 · 12 answers · asked by **@ngel** 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
im 16 and he is 16.....he tells me its in the past and he is sorry but i cant get over it. im slowly moving on from it but sometimes i just cant axcept the fact that he broke up with me
2007-03-13 08:29:09 · update #1
except the fact that he broke up with me*
2007-03-13 08:30:14 · update #2
i didnt say we was gone be together forever. nothing last forever
2007-03-13 08:33:10 · update #3
You should try to get over that...but i know you cant really get it out of your head because you had it stuck in your mind that he would never leave you and then he does. You probably feel like he lied to you about that or that he like broke a promise and you are probably scared he will do it again. Just try to forget about it and enjoy the time you are with him. If you keep thinking about it and telling him about it he might get tired of you reminding him over and over and he will end up breaking up with you again. Guys are like that. Just enjoy your relationship
2007-03-13 14:41:32 · answer #1 · answered by princess810 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Relationships are tough at any age and being rejected (or feeling it) from someone you really care about is very tough thing to deal with. It can conjure up many things in your imagination. Rage, jealousy, hurt. It may sound corny or overused but try to love yourself first. Maybe this situation has revealed something about yourself that is difficult to face and that is making it hard for you. It may help you to try to see it from that perspective. Time does make things easier to look back on and see what we can learn from the experience. Maybe try to look at getting back together as a fresh start let go of the past. A break-up is never easy but don't let it crush your whole world. Life is filled with good and not so good experiences. At 16 you have many of them left to go!! You never know what's around the next corner it could be something really great! All the best!
2007-03-13 15:48:35 · answer #2 · answered by Cindy M 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
figure out what it is that is really bothering you.
If you love him and you want him in your life, then you have to take the good with the bad and work through it together.
It takes two to be in a relationship and it takes two to end one, there were things going on in your relationship that you needed to work out and just couldn't at the time, maybe you can work it out now. It is not always who breaks up with who, but why you broke up....
(My husband and I have known each other since we were 5 (we're 42 and 43 now) we got pregnant at 17. We've had our ups and downs, like every relationship - some struggles have been harder to work through than others, but we have always had respect, as well as love for each other. We each would risk everything for the other.
Ask yourself; if you didn't love your boyfriend, would you chose him as a friend and would he be a good friend to you??
My husband is my best friend and I would trust him with everything that I am and everything that I have - can you say the same?
Being together forever takes a lot of work and answering the hard questions is the homework that keeps you together.
I wish you happiness !
2007-03-13 16:31:35 · answer #3 · answered by minnie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm NOT trying to arouse your anger. I'm serious:
You are a bit immature, and it's making you feel upset and angry all the time. Somewhere there is a loving woman (maybe a person active in a local church?), a really gracious person of about age 40 and she has been through a lot. You could find that you admire her.
Talk to her in private (when you find her), and tell her honestly in these words: "I feel as though I'm not mature acting. What is your advice on how I can accept life more easily without feeling anger or depression?" Then listen to what she tells you.
The loss of a boyfriend at your age should not make you feel so upset. The real love of your life will probably come to you when you are older. So don't let anything much throw you for the present time.
Good luck, dear.
2007-03-13 15:38:27 · answer #4 · answered by SaturnMan 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Ok Im not much older than you(by almost 4 yrs.) An honestly i know you dont want to hear it but your still young. I have been in the same situation with my boyfriend of 2yrs now. We break up an he dates a girl for a month or less, but is still with me. They break up an we are goin back out for the third time. Honey all you gotta do is meet someone else but dont give in to ur dude if u all break up again. My problem was i gave in. I had an amazing guy who did it all for me. An now im back to the guy i do it all for. LOL. But at the same time "love is blind"... Just go for what you feel is right.... Best of luck to you honey. Hope all goes well for you. An dont let that wall down so fast this time...As for being childish your only 16. I still act silly all the time tell him to stop being so GROWN.... You can only be young for so long!!!!!!!
CM41
2007-03-13 15:37:56 · answer #5 · answered by courtney m 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well its a little silly if u expect to be together forever after only one year, plus you are very young as well. Im not saying it couldnt happen but im just saying be realistic.
There is no point saying u will be together forever at this stage because u never know what will happen in the future.
Take things slow whats the rush in saying u will be together for ever anyways.
2007-03-13 15:31:48 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly you have to just let it go and get over it. Not to sound mean but thats the ONLY way you are going to be able to have any kind of relationship with him. You need to stop freaking out about the small things and just enjoy your time with him because really you never know when something may happen and you will never see him again( not to sound negative but things happen) Honestly my boyfriend and I use to fight about petty stuff all the time about trust and all that stuff but when he left for Iraq for 7 months I realized all that fighting was just time wasted. Lucky for me he came home safely and Ive decided never to fight about stuff like that again. So just grow up and let go...you have to remember hes a boy and he doesnt hold on to feelings like that but if you want a good relationship just let it go..your together now thats all that matters.
2007-03-13 15:35:54 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
deal with it all things in life are not certain somebody can tell you something then they change there mind just like you can and have probably done yourself at 16 you don't really know what love is yet you may think you do (i thought idid) but you don't just be happy your back together and enjoy it while you can... good luck
2007-03-13 15:33:52 · answer #8 · answered by omallory_us 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My heart goes out to you. It seems you are longing for unconditional love and commitment, and you thought you had that with your boyfriend, until he burst your bubble by letting you go so easily. Someday you will meet the right person, and he will love you in spite of your flaws.
Until then, give your heart to Jesus. He is the only one who can heal a broken heart. He is faithful, and he will also send you the right person to be your husband if you ask Him. (That's what He did for me.)
2007-03-13 16:20:31 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you have gotten over him, but you haven't really noticed it yet or you have, but you are trying to avoid that conclusion. The only real way to get over it is to break up with him completely and forget about him.
2007-03-13 15:53:41 · answer #10 · answered by *~*RaChAel*~* 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋