2007-03-13 08:26:13 · 33 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
How, exactly, would he "make" you?
2007-03-13 08:28:44 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Yes, I think you should tell him. If you want to keep the baby, let him know. Getting an abortion is a hard thing to go do. If you want the baby, don't get an abortion. For what? But at the same time understand that keeping the baby could mean losing him. I have three kids and if the dad would have told me to get an abortion and I wanted the child, then I would have told him no. But just sit down and talk to him. Has he already said that he doesn't want kids? He doesn't like them? Is the reason he doesn't want a child has to do with financial means? Again, sit down and talk to him. Good luck.
2007-03-13 08:37:40 · answer #2 · answered by Vasilly 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok- I am going to try to be a bit more diplomatic than some of the others- at least I will try. First of all do you and your husband know the risks of an abortion to you? there are many- physical- torn uterus, infections, excessive bleeding- later miscarriages and sometimes not being able to get pregnant. First of all I cannot imagine a husband wanting to have his wife who he has a commitment to, have an abortion- Maybe he does not know the risks to you- share them- if he loves you he would not want you to go through with this- and of course, if he really understood your child is a living from the time of conception I cannot understand why he would want to abort the child either
2007-03-13 08:57:54 · answer #3 · answered by AdoreHim 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No one can tell you what to do with your body. Its your body. Now if you want to get an abortion because you think he'll be mad or leave you will then that's your decision too. I was in your shoes once. I learned the hard way I knew my husband was going to get upset but I told him anyways and he would tell me every day "i don't want this baby" "get an abortion" "I don't want this" and other stuff. I did what he wanted me to do. I got the abortion. I have never forgave my self nor hI'm. besides im pro choice. But the point is you don't want to do something that you don't agree with. I got the abortion and I thought I could deal with it. But i couldn't deal with it so I left him. Just do whats is best for you.
2007-03-13 08:36:06 · answer #4 · answered by trish 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I cant tell you to leave him for one. But for two im not that old to tell you what to do either. But i can make a suggestion. If your husband would make you have an abortion there is something wrong with him. He should want to share another life with you.... Maybe he has other plans but if you want children then you cant really stop it. So Maybe you should ask him how he would feel if you were to get pregnant....
Good Luck To You!
CM41
2007-03-13 08:31:02 · answer #5 · answered by courtney m 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok first of all he cant make you do anything.. He does not have the right to tell you what to do during a pregnancy you have reproductive rights. If he doesnt want this baby, and telling him would cause trouble then so be it. It just shows that he wants to be the one in control.. You can raise a child on your own. Aborting it just because your husband tells you so is not a reason.. I wish you best of luck...
2007-03-13 09:45:47 · answer #6 · answered by auntietawnie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
From someone who has been there and this just recently! I know how you feel not knowing what to do in this because my husband is my best friend but, either way he is going to find out so get that out of the way ASAP because if an abortion is on his mind you are going to need more time to think about this and talk things over. If you love eachother everything will work out. NO ONE has the right to tell you you SHOULDN'T do it that's your descision, think about the future...talk to your man sweetie you're going to need him right now more than you know! The sooner he knows the better! Good luck!
2007-03-13 08:41:58 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think Id tell him and if he suggested the abortion id ALSO tell him to drop dead and Id leave and raise my baby alone with his child support. He cant make you have an abortion and if hes going to be a father WHY would he make you get rid of the baby..thats selfish on his part. Make sure you tell him that. Good Luck. Abortion is NEVER the right thing to do.
2007-03-13 08:40:58 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Make you???? He is your husband, but that does not under any circumstance EVER give him the right to tell you that you must abort a child you are carrying. Now, he can tell you he will divorce you if you give birth, but that is not the same as making you. Then, you need to make a choice.. do you want to be with a coercive man who would have you abort a child you do not want to abort or give birth to your child and find a man who will love you correctly? - Good luck.
2007-03-13 08:32:08 · answer #9 · answered by Uncle Tim 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you should tell him because I believe that he has a right to know, but nobody can MAKE you get an abortion. If he doesn't want the child and you do then you've got a decision to make as to what's more important to you, your unborn child or your husband.
2007-03-13 08:29:57 · answer #10 · answered by sommerluvn77 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Last I checked it was your body and no one can 'make' you do anything. I would definitely tell him - he has a right to know. As far as the abortion if he wants you to get one and you don't want one, tell him your thoughts on abortion and that you're not getting one - he'll either deal with it or he won't, but no one would be 'making' me do anything I didn't want to do! Good luck
2007-03-13 08:40:37 · answer #11 · answered by FirefighterWife 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋