I've been divorced since October "06". My ex had an affair & wouldn't give up the girlfriend so I divorced him. He has since called & wanted to come over a few times (which he has). He's not implied getting back together but my question is.....If I quit calling him or taking his calls..will he start wondering & get a little curious? Is it true eventually ex's do call down the road?
2007-03-13 08:24:57 · 17 answers · asked by !Sweetie! 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
He's probably calling because his girlfriend dumped him. They always want to go back to what was comfortable. I wouldn't take his calls if I were you.
2007-03-13 08:30:18 · answer #1 · answered by Royalhinney 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ask yourself if you really want this guy back after all is said & done. If you want him back, could you really ever trust him? If you still want him back after answering "yes" to both questions, then here's my advice. Stop being so predictable. By that, I mean, don't always pick up the phone if you know it's him calling. When he does call, don't be so anxious to answer it. When he wants to come over, is it just for sex on his part? If so, don't let him use you this way. Don't be so available all the time, then he'll start to wonder if you have someone else. Play hard to get for a while. When you aren't home when he calls & later he asks where you were, be mysterious & don't satisfy his curiosity. Let him think he has competition, if he really wants to get back with you. My question to you, is what happened to the g/f? If you are thinking about getting back with your ex, be very sure it's for all the right reasons, & suggest some counseling before anything permanent happens. Don't let your guard down for a while!!!
2007-03-13 15:52:24 · answer #2 · answered by Shortstuff13 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A lot of people want what they can't have. If he thinks he can have you back, he probably won't try to win you back. But if he thinks you may have found someone else or you've lost all interest, it might be enough to ignite his interest again. At least that's the way it worked for me when I divorced.
2007-03-13 15:32:06 · answer #3 · answered by katydid 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, not all ex's call. He sounds like he wants something. Ignore him unless you want to explore what is on his
mind. And, yes, he will get curious if you quit calling him or taking his calls, after you have already seen him.
2007-03-13 15:32:49 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, it is not true. I have been divorced for 4 years and have loved everyday of it and would not even think of calling him except we have four kids together and I have to arrange for the kids to see him. Besides that, he would never hear from me again. Someday!!
2007-03-13 15:31:31 · answer #5 · answered by Lost in Maryland 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Lot's of people continue to have sex with the ex long after the ink on the papers have been dried.
2007-03-13 15:33:58 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
leave him alone you see what kind of person he is you left him because of the affair but yet you let him back into your life knowing he has a g/f if he did it once he will do it again i rest my case.
2007-03-13 15:32:37 · answer #7 · answered by Mary O 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Probably so but have some self-respect and tell him to get lost. You are continuing to be his doormat. Move on with your life and find a man who deserves you!
2007-03-13 15:34:18 · answer #8 · answered by Nunya 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, if you stop communication, he will get curious - think you've moved on. And it will likely bother him a lot. Are you looking for reconciliation?
2007-03-13 15:31:09 · answer #9 · answered by pinniethewooh 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would hope not because he would done blowed his chance letting the divorce go threw myself i would tell mine go to hell after i spent my time hurting and upset at times he didn't care then why should we let them call us
2007-03-13 15:34:15 · answer #10 · answered by sweetgranny06 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋