If it was not planned and it just happened, you worked together and you started having feelings for one another? Is it so wrong? Why should the married person stay with his spouse when he is so much happier with you? If he is unhappy with his life with his wife why should he stay? Other than for his kids and won't they be better off with a happier father?
2007-03-13 07:59:09 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Oh brother, another justification for cheating...Here we go again..........
2007-03-13 08:02:03 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Oh, please! Are you falling for that married man crud? Dumb, dumb, dumb! They seldom leave the wife unless she is getting pretty long in the tooth and then if they do, what have you got? A man who is so self serving he will cheat on you the second you bore him. My SIL put herself through hell to get her married man. Took years but she finally got him and boy was she happy. Yea, right! He was such a creep because all his kids told him to take a hike over the way he did their mother and he was so sad because he had to give up everything for her. Then she got leukemia and didn't take the chemo because it was going to leave him in such debt if it didn't work. Really! So she died at a very young age and he bought a new truck and started dating. The whole thing was a mess from start to finish. Do not be his fool. I'm sure he is telling you that they don't sleep together any more. He can't leave until the kids are grown. What ever it takes to keep you snowed under and in the motel a time or two a week. He is not Mr Wonderful and you'd better get out while you can.
2007-03-13 15:17:29 · answer #2 · answered by moonrose777 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't want to bash you but you know that this man is married, why allow yourself to go there? I also agree with others that have responded here if he has such a terrible marriage why stay (the kids in this case are not an excuse). Another thing he obviously don't have respect for you as well do you think that he is still sleeping with his wife(something to ask yourself) he told you that they don't, am I right(and you believe him,correct) I believe that you are more so in love with him then he is with you hence he is still at home with his wife.
You need to reevaluate your decision of being with this man. A coworker relationship at work is fine and dandy however you have taken it to a different level, and you are wrong.
Ask yourself...doesn't his family deserve him more then you believe that you do?
I hope that you can find another single person that will give you what you deserve, them self. Let it go and move on
2007-03-13 15:30:37 · answer #3 · answered by soldierlady226 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Keep this in mind when you read all sugestions about love. It is easier to give the advice then the one that is going through it. Okay with that said...... Give him the choice. Tell him to make a choice and once he makes it to live with the dicission. If you stay with him and he asks for a divorce your reputation will be ruined. If he choose his family then it will be a heart ache but that tells you your were just an object to him. If he tells you that he wants to leave but he wants to stay for his kids then he is lying to you. There is such a thing called visitaion. If he trys to say that he does want to leave his wife becasue he would have to pay alamoni then again you are just a toy. He doesn't know if he will have to pay alamoni or not the judge will decide and he never knows he could get custidy of the children. Trust me my dad had an affair.
2007-03-13 15:12:13 · answer #4 · answered by paigeamber07 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its wrong for a man to look a side when he is married but all the same marriage can never work were there is little love its love that makes up marriage if your really passionate with this man and he wishes to be with you the wright thing is to ask for a divorce from his wife so that you too have space to ever be happy other wise if thats not done you will always feel not secure in his hands knowing that after dinner he is going to meet his wife back at home
2007-03-13 15:34:49 · answer #5 · answered by Mariela 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If one leaves his spouse for you, what makes you think he will not leave you for another???
It doesnt just happen. It's ALLOWED to happen.
Yes, it's wrong.
He may be happier with you for the moment, as he once was with his wife.
One resolves a problem. One does not walk away from it. The problem usually follows.
A happy father doesnt make a father. A father with morals and character, makes a father.
2007-03-13 15:07:15 · answer #6 · answered by iyamacog 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If someone is married, they should absolutely not have a relationship with anyone else. If they are unhappy with their spouse, or have fallen in love with someone else, they should get a divorce FIRST, then pursue the new relationship. No offense intended, but it sounds like you are trying to convince yourself something is okay when, deep down, you know it isn't right.
2007-03-13 15:04:38 · answer #7 · answered by me_myself_&_eye 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you marriage wasn't that serious to you.
Instead on working to fix it, you focused on another woman. Now you sounds like a "victim of love" I believe they write songs about that.
That is why the divorce rate is so high, because people would rather seek immediate gratification than work on something they committed to and brought kids to the world now they can go fend for themselves, with step-parents cos daddy decided his feelings were more important than anyone else in the family
2007-03-13 15:03:32 · answer #8 · answered by Amy B 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I see the Righteous are quick to respond.
I dont any one plans on going out on their spouse. With that said, if life is miserable with the one you are married; Splitting up would probably benefit both.
2007-03-13 15:16:49 · answer #9 · answered by zax_fl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can;t decide what is better for his family; you are not his family. Stay away. The grass is not always greener and Honey if he cheats on his wife with you; He WILL cheat on you with someone else. You can't win and you are just making yourself look bad.
Have some respect for yourself.
2007-03-13 15:05:06 · answer #10 · answered by The Voice Of Reason 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he is married, he already made a comittment "til death do us part" to his spouse. You are wrong for trying to come between that. The moment you saw it getting to be more than just friends you should have said something. Put yourself in his wifes shoes.
2007-03-13 15:06:56 · answer #11 · answered by Sexicka 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋