I am just about to move in with my boyfriend, we have been together for 4 years and I'm so excited. He's the first person I have ever lived with. Can anyone tell me what to expect? x
2007-03-13 07:50:08 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Just to answer one of the replies, We both currently live with our own paretns and it's the first time thateither of us have lived away from home x
2007-03-13 08:35:56 · update #1
Congratulations, you sound very happy and your excitement can be felt. Many of the postings you received are correct. It is kind of awkward at first, you will wake up to him in the morning and he'll be the last thing you see before you fall asleep. Yes, likely that he will pee on the seat or if he is a seat lifter (you will fall in because he didn;t put it back down), he will fart and much more frequently than you noticed before you moved in together, if he is prone to snoring you will get less sleep than before. There are ups and downs in every relationship and you will get to know his bad/annoying habits as he will learn yours and it is an adjustment....how big depends on how easily each of you are annoyed. It can be wonderful or it can be not so wonderful.....Make sure you discuss finances (how you both contribute to the bills, cooking, cleaning, taking out trash). However, nothing can be set in stone, it is now a joint effort, joint contributions, give and take. Compromises. I hope it works out for the both of you and you are happy, always.
2007-03-13 08:29:05 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ooooh, it depends on what he's like! Did he have his own place before or stay with his parents? If he had his own place then you should have an idea of some of his habits - e.g. does he leave smelly socks on the bedroom floor? It'll be fun but you really do only fully get to know someone when you live together. You'll be amazed at how quickly silly little things p*ss you off!
In saying that, when you've been together for that long its always lovely to be able to snuggle up at night.
Just make sure you have some clear "things" that each of you do to make life a little easier. For instance, I like cooking so the deal in our house is that I cook and my boyfriend does all the dishes. I hate hoovering and changing beds so he does that and I dust and clean the kitchen/bathroom.
Also, cliched, but don't go to bed with an argument hanging over you - always make up first - makes for an easier life!
Wish you all the best!
2007-03-13 07:58:06 · answer #2 · answered by Minimoo 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
expect a lot of arguments, even over petty things. expect a lot of bedroom Olympics for the first few months. 4 years is a good long time to know and trust each other, but you will be together 24/7 more or less. i love my fiancee more than anything and she feels the same about me. but even we have fall outs over stupid things. to make it easy split the house work down the middle. including doing dinner. never interfere when the other is cooking (serious cause for a huff).
2007-03-13 08:06:56 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
whoa! expect the worst..... Not to scare you, but i made that move and girl i was emotional drained! Just make sure you let him know the do's an don'ts..... Like Don't forget I live here with you now, Please leave the toilet seat down! Lol ETC. hopefully he's a clean guy, and you don't have to all the picking up! Then pray he's not a Neat freak! And you cant rest/relax cause he's trying to sweep you off your feet!
So just lay down your rules when he lays his down an you both should be fine........Wish you the best....
2007-03-13 08:09:26 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I will tell you what my mother told me - the first year is heaven and hell. You may feel like walking away at the first hurdle as it comes as a shock. Keep going and get to the good bit which is year 2 onwards after you have really given each other a chance, got to know each other and are comfortable in each other's space.
2007-03-13 10:33:07 · answer #5 · answered by AUNTY EM 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Im just about to move out with my boyf in 3 weeks!! I cant wait! I currently live with my single friend so will be good to have our own space!!
I think we can expect doing most of the cooking and cleaning ive already given him rules and hes promised to put all his dirty socks in the washing basket!
2007-03-13 07:56:52 · answer #6 · answered by Katie 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Depends what your expectations are !!! I suggest NOT to have too higher expectations and just see how it goes. If you are in love and meant for each other it will be utopia !!!
and make sure you do not have children too early, so you can enjoy each other. (Having said that you may be ready for a family) Good Luck whatever you decide.
2007-03-13 08:08:45 · answer #7 · answered by biggi 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
After age 18, do not invest more than 2 - 3 yrs. in a relationship
without marriage...Never have kids out of wedlock..
Always get a Pre-Nup..
Never marry a guy that has personality / character problems,
the will get worse after marriage and you can't fix him..
After moving in, be careful of taking each other for granted...
"Familiarity breeds contempt"..
2007-03-13 07:59:27 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Trouble
2007-03-13 08:04:48 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
All I have to say is stay on birth control, if you are not on birth control already then now's the time. Also when you start to get annoyed by all of his disguisting habits (like getting pee on the side of the toilet) try not to nag him. Oh, one more thing, don't get fat, as soon as you live with your man you want to sit up and snack all night, avoid this.
2007-03-13 07:58:09 · answer #10 · answered by Bee Biscuits 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋