I am engaged and I think our relationship is getting worse!?

Question

Every since he asked me to marry him things have went down hill! We fight like everyday and he is overly jelaous of everyone that i talk to! The other thing is that I am pregnant. I love him but sometimes I wonder if I should just leave him! I'm stuck and don't know what to do please help!!!

Answer 1

Tell him that you wear his ring for a reason. He should not be jealous. It's normal for men to be jealous, but is he taking it to an extreme. What do you fight about? Once you are married, you are going to have to deal with all of these issues for the rest of your marriage.

My final question is...is this a situation in which you want your child to grow up in? Do what is best for you and your baby!

Answer 2

Hey , Ive been engaged 3 tI'mes already and im only 21 . i thought OK this is it now I'm happy found the man of my dreams and then bam they change i thinks it happens because they feel since they gave u that ring they don't have to worry bout u leaving .I a mans eyes that's gold . But for me i couldn't take it any more i found out that ring was a trap to cheat and me believe them , but they became abusive , and i was fighting all day , so i said to them if u dint change take your ring back because it doesn't mean anything to u because if it did we be getting closer not farther apart they didn't full fill it so i went back to being friends because there was something we didn't know about each other and when that didn't work i said sorry and good bye because i wanted someone who can talk , comfort , and enjoy being with me and if something came up meaning an argument we talk and listen to both sides . oh yeah the biggest thing is i wanted both sides of the relationship to be even meaning i didn't want to be the only one caring and loving .so fol low your heart and things will be OK :)

Answer 3

Stay engaged a bit longer...hold off on getting married. Maybe he is panicked. Look, he's got a child on the way, marriage, other life responsbilities. Poor babes is feeling pressured and sensitive.
You need to be on the same page. Explain that you're nervous about all of this stuff too. Maybe you can discuss it together. It's a lot for both of you to deal with!
This of course is not a free ticket for him to treat you like crap either...so keep your eyes open. If you talk to him about this and he continues being a sh*t then you might want to consider taking some steps. Away.

Answer 4

You are stuck. I'm going to give an honest answer and I'm sorry if you aren't ready to hear it.

That was a very poor choice on your part, to get pregnant.

What is happening is this. Your man, who thought of you as a fling, as a short term thing, is suddenly presented with a baby. So now he is stuck with you, unless he wants to run.

He's like a caged panther. He wants to run but can't, so he is getting frustrated. When most people get frustrated they think that someone else is frustrating them. They don't realize that it is they who are frustrating themselves.

Mind you, he is equally to blame in this rather poor choice. He could have insisted on better birth control, or abstinence, if he can't keep his pants zipped he has no one to blame.

So the news isn't good unless he has a revelation and realizes that it is HIS fault as well as yours for this situation and that he has involuntarily committed to being a father. Other than that life could be very challenging for the next few years.

FP

Answer 5

You guys need therapy then because it will only get worse if the issues are not deal with before getting married. Oh and I am sure you are having a tough time with the pregnancy as well...so I think it would help a lot for the sake of your unborn baby and for your sanity to get therapy soon. If you still love this man very much and feel it is worth going to thru therapy, then by all means, please do. I hope it works out for you and your new family~ Good luck~

Answer 6

Hey, just because you are pregnant doesn't mean that you shouldn't consider postponing the date. It is very difficult to get out of a relationship. You already have one complication. But you don't want to exacerbate that by getting into an unhappy marriage. I suspect that some of the fighting might be because you are going into the "marriage contract". Postpone the wedding and work it out ... or not. You'll both (and the baby) be happier for that.

Answer 7

I hate to say this, but don't get married just yet. Did he propose to you because of the pregnancy? If so, it's possible that he feels trapped. The worse thing is to get married under pressure. Think long and hard before you jump in. My prayers are with you, honey.

Answer 8

Well hun if he is jealous of who u talk to then when u get married he will be jealous of what u do when he isn't around or who u r with. So if i were u i would take time to think about it Also try talkin to him. SO good luck and i hope u do the right thing.

Answer 9

You are never stuck, you have a situation on your hands but you are not stuck. Postpone the wedding until you can figure out what you are doing and as far as marrying someone that is really jealous, well that is a tuff one because jealousy is not good.

Answer 10

I was married to a man that did that and it came down to he would dead bolt the door shut from the outside so i could not get out, with no phone and in the middle of the woods is where we lived,.....you do not wont to live like that do you or would you like your child to be in the middle of something like that........Don't let a man push you around and tell you what to do........it's not a woman thing but a lady like thing....
I thought it was not going to get worse tell it did and they take your family away from you ..........you will see how bad it can get if you don't do something now......
let him know this will not happen and if he gets real mad you know it's only going to get worse.please help yourself if not for you .........for your baby