What are your thoughts and feelings about abortion?

Question

What do you think about it? Should people have abortions if they don't want to have the kid? Should the father have a say in it? What is your advice to those who are considering this? Let me know exactly what you think about the whole thing.

Here are my personal thoughts and feelings toward it:
I think it is wrong and immoral. Yes, I am Pro-Choice, in the fact that you made your "Choice" when you decided to have sex. What choice does the child have in any of this? As for those who are pregnant because they were raped, you do have a choice--you have the choice to give that child the best life possible. I do not believe the baby should be punished because of what his/her father did. There are so many people out there who would love the baby with all their hearts and take care of him/her as their own child. So many people out there want to adopt but have to wait for long periods of time before they can even get a child because they have to wait in line. If people quit aborting their babies and started putting them up for adoption, that wait would be nearly eliminated. Also, if its financial matters, 9 mo. is a long time. A lot can change. You might be in a better position. If not, then put the baby up for adoption.

Answer 1

i dont agree with abortion for any reason if you dont want kids then be more careful,the father has every right to have a say in this because the baby is a part of him also,if its something you are considering then think very hard because there are women who cant have kids and you could at least put the baby up for adoption to someone who wants a baby

Answer 2

having been on both sides of this issue, i can say that abortion is the most intractable problem in this country. there cannot be a solution that pleases all sides. the religious are adamantly opposed no matter what the circumstances, the liberal insists there be no restrictions whatsoever, and the reasonable are attacked by both groups. my personal feeling is that a woman has the right to do what she feels is best for her in her situation and that, while talking to the father is preferable, it is not entirely necessary. no matter what her decision however, she will have to live with the consequences of that decision and this can be difficult. as far as the moral aspect of abortion is concerned, life begins at conception, but humaness begins at about the 28th week when neural connections begin to form in the brain and sensory input commences and the fetus starts to respond to outside stimuli. the supreme court of the u.s. got it right in roe v wade as this was the line of demarcation for abortion until recently. i would support any law that restricted abortion to the first trimester only and if the mother had not made a decision by then, she must carry out the pregnancy and give the baby up for adoption or foster care upon birth. in the end, it is an individual choice but one that must be made having all the facts, ugly truths, and difficult emotions on the table so that decision can be an informed one.

Answer 3

I, personally, could never live with something like that. I have 2 children, I had them at an inopportune time (I was 20 when I got pregnant with my first, and I had 2 within 11 1/2 months of eachother.) I am a single mother. Life is hard. But I look at my children, and I thank God every single day that I had my head on straight so I coulud raise these beautiful kids. I think of that baby inside my belly, kicking around, listening to me talk, and falling in love with every word. That blessed soul didn't ask to be made, but that baby has a chance to live a wonderful life. There is such great potential with each pregnancy. If that baby is not meant to be, it will spontaneously abort (miscarry) all by itself. If you are pregnant, and honestly do not want the baby (which is, by the way, OK) find a loving family (chose carefully) who can provide the foundation for a great future for that baby. You're not a bad person for not wanting a baby, or for considering abortion, but please consider very, very carefully. My friend almost aborted a pregnancy because she was 17 when she got pregnant. Because the abortion was too expensive to have done, she had no choice but to have the baby. She's all grown up now, a wonderful child, who almost didn't make it. I just think it's a tragedy that we discovered we could kill our young before they have the ability to say they want to live.

A father should absolutely have a say. That is his child too. If the mother doesn't want it, the father may want to raise the baby as a single father.

I believe that LIFE is always the answer. Don't instill so much power in yourself. You will most likely end up in counselling because you are so guilt ridden. maybe not. good luck!

Answer 4

I feel that there is a difference between how you feel about having an abortion and whether abortion should be legal.

I think having an abortion should be a choice available for women. It should be the womans call on what she thinks is moral. The father should not have a say in it (legally). It is not his body and pregnancy can do a lot to affect a woman's body.

As for the baby being a human... The Supreme Court has reviewed several different cases and heard breifs from several different professional doctors and they could not confirm that a fetus is consitered a human

If you are consitering an abortion, I think its important to first get all of the facts. I would stay away from the anti-abortion propoganda you may hear by pro-choice christian groups.

I did a presentation on both sides of the issue for a law class. I went to planned parenthood and got some pamphlets and went to a right to life organization to get some too.

The right to life organization gave me a lot of propoganda, many of which that with a little bit of research turned out to be completely false or facts that are spinned around to help their cause.

Whether or not you are "pro-choice" or "pro-life", I think that planned parenthood has more neutral information for your use. I would talk to a Planned Parenthood counsler and discuss all of your options with them.

Answer 5

I think that bringing a child that nobody wants into the world is far worse than abortion. For all the people that say "there's always adoption", what about all the children stuck in the foster care system for years because nobody wants them? You would be surprised at how picky most people that say they are "desperate to adopt" really are. So a lot of kids go unwanted and unadopted their whole lives.

I also feel that a woman that was raped should not be forced to carry a rapist's baby for nine months if she does not want to. The suffering and trauma is bad enough without telling her she has to wait nine months to even try to start putting it behind her. She cannot start to heal if there is a constant, daily reminder of it inside her.

Also, what if the health or life of the woman is at risk because of the pregnancy? If she already has other kids, should they have to grow up without a mother because their mother died, and it could have been prevented? What if she does not die, but her health is ruined? How does she care for the kid(s)?

Abortion should definitely be a woman's choice.

As for the man, I know it is hard, but I do think there has to be fairness. No, he should not be able to force a woman to abort a baby he does not want, but if she lied and daid she was on birth control to trap him, then he should not have to pay for the baby if he made it clear that he did not want one.

Answer 6

I don't like abortion as a "ooops, form of birth control". I believe it should be legal and safe if you need it. If a couple slips and forgets birth control and aren't ready yet for a kid that might possibly be OK, but the second time is totally and completely unacceptable.

If you're in a situation where you need to consider it, then you need to weigh all the factors, your ages, how well you could support the child, adoption, etc.

Answer 7

it wont be changed. unfortuantely

the only way it will be outlawed is if it's illegal to do on a 8-9 month (given the mother is not on the verge of dying)

and really, you can't carry a baby for 4 months or more, and then decide "nah, i dont want it it" when its almost capable of living outside the womb.

babies can live outside the womb, in intensive care, at like 5-6 months old and still grow up to be normal people, and if you carry a baby that long or longer, and decide to end it, even when infertitle couples are willing to put up the cost of the procedure so they can keep it and raise it as their own. if you decide against that, and deny a human life that, then what else are you capable of?

Answer 8

I believe this is a decision that all women should be entitled to make for themselves. Where I come from abortion is illegal due to the religious beliefs of the majority of the population. Yet, people who do not follow these beliefs are being dictated to and prevented from making their own choices. This is wrong, in my opinion.

I don't believe the father should have any choice in the matter. If a woman wants to have an abortion then it should be her decision alone, as it is her health/life/plans that may be in danger.

Abortion is not murder, in my opinion, as an undeveloped bunch of cells is incapable of feeling pain or regret.

Answer 9

I personally don't have a problem with it up to the 3rd trimester. I don't feel that it's "murder". I am a 24 year old woman and up until about a year ago I kept saying if I had an "oops" and ended up pregant I would get an abortion. My boyfriend (who is now my husband) felt the same way. I do think the father should have a say in it, but it should only be up to the mother & father.

Answer 10

I think that people's personal choice should be respected on this issue. My advice to people considering an abortion is to go by their own decision. Of course the father should voice his opinion. The final decision should be up to the woman.