I don't get it. I've been living with my b/f for more than 3 yrs. My exhusband just celebrated his one yr mark with his g/f. However, this week he's been texting me like crazy telling me we need to meet to...wait let me look it up on my cel...he text:"we shud talk bout sumthings so the past can stay in past n so the future isn't focusing in the past. Afterall our futures both involve the kids but not us all 2gether. Its best 4 the kids that we dont have any resentment w each other. We both made our mistakes n had 2 learn the hard way. Perhaps we can meet early on fri 2 talk?" He's been texting me about how our marriage didn't work out but that we shouldnt tell the kids why. That we should lie to them. What good will the truth be to them now that were already divorced. The truth?! HE BEAT ME UP! HE went to JAIL...criminal court! 5th degree misdimeaner, one degree more it would of been a felony! I was in a wheel chair! He put me there! Why, after 4ys, does he want 2 talk? I won't lie 4hm
2007-03-13 07:44:48 · 12 answers · asked by luv2bake 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Is he tryin to get me to lie so he can continue to lie to his gf? I've NEVER met the woman! He won't let her. His last g/f and I were friends! I loved her! He kicked her out! Now he wants to "be my friend?" I never dissed him with the last g/f...what makes him think I'd do it to this one? Let her find out on her own! NO woman believes the ex anyways. Even if they do a little, they will stay believing "he won't do it to them". I give up on warning any one for any reason. I just tell them a good back ground check should tell what kind of person they are. (hint) Besides, could of been a personality clash. I didn't think it was neccessary to take a Qtip to the kitchen floor/wall meets to clean that crack! He shook our babies, he shook ME, he held me down for over 4 hours! He locked me in the house for hours while he'd scream at me. He'd lift me off the floor & shake me for taking a bath before his shower! (4 mo pregnant) like I knew the exact time he wanted a shower! I don't feel like lyin
2007-03-13 07:50:10 · update #1
He is afraid that you will make the past known to his new girlfriend and if the kids know, they my let it leak out to her. He is afraid if she knows what he can be like, she will run from him. He wants to bury the past and hope that it does not come back up. You are a valid source of big dirt on him and that scares the crap out of him. Tell him that you have no desire to talk or meet with him. Tell your current boyfriend what is going on too, don't keep him in the dark. Tell your ex that if he does not leave you alone, you will not only tell the kids, but his g/f the truth right now...
2007-03-13 07:56:07 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Bless you for getting out of that marriage. I dont think it would help your kids to know what there father really did. If you have a son he may grow up thinking he could be just like his dad..not a pretty picture. When they are older it would be good to clear the waters with them. Best of luck and thank goodness you left before anything worse could have happened to you or the children
2007-03-13 14:52:03 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Do NOT meet with this man! If necessary, get the law involved again. He is very dangerous, and I would not lie to your children, but wouldn't volunteer the information, unless they are in danger as well. As far as the g/f goes, if she calls and asks you why you got divorced, tell her you choose not to discuss it, it's not her business, and to ask him.
Please, stay away from him.
2007-03-13 15:01:29 · answer #3 · answered by bina64davis 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't need to lie for anyone. Besides does he think the kids don't remember for themselves? My daughter is almost 5 and she'll pop up out of nowhere and comment about something that happened when she was 2 & 3. They know and they remember!
As far as his GF I think you're handling it just right.
2007-03-13 15:00:05 · answer #4 · answered by littlemama_rules 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
dont keep any contacts with ur ex. this will put u in deep trouble only.
u may reveal the truth to ur kids once they r of an underatandable age and really want to know the truth.
now, dont think of ur past and make urself angry, relax.
2007-03-13 15:05:00 · answer #5 · answered by purna 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if I were you I would totally ignore him.Maybe he figured out that life isnt as great since your not around anymore who knows.Anyone that can beat someone and cause the injury he obviously caused to you cant be right in the mind anyway.I would totally ignore the text and if he keeps trying to contact you,you need to keep track of it, so you can press charges against him if you need to.
2007-03-13 14:51:04 · answer #6 · answered by dynamite136 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't answer him...
Don't talk to him..
Avoid him..
Get a restraining order against him..
Complain to the police about harassment.
2007-03-13 15:14:17 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I guess I dont understand this modern technology. Is there no way to block his text messages??? This would be considered harassment. IGNORE it. If he persists, report him.
2007-03-13 15:00:22 · answer #8 · answered by iyamacog 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
honestly you should not meet him early on friday. a phone call works just as well. and you shouldn't tell your kids what happened until they are older
2007-03-13 14:50:52 · answer #9 · answered by glue stick 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Stand your ground. Tell him to back off. You don't owe him anything. Say no, sorry, I don't think its a good idea.
2007-03-13 14:49:52 · answer #10 · answered by Maudie 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋