My friend has been married for about 2 1/2 years, she constantly grips about him saying she doesn't like him and wants a divorce. She has even asked if she could move in with me and looked for other jobs near me (she lives about 3 hrs away). About 2 weeks ago she came to visit and the whole time she was here she kept calling him and even went home early to "spend time with him"!! It is driving me crazy so much so that I dont even want to talk to her. I have told her this and all she says is "I know, Im so stupid". I don't want to lose my oldest friend, but I don't think I can take much more of this. Please give me some advice!!
Oh and PS they have a 18 month old and she is pregnant, which I also told her she shouldn't do and all she says is " I know, Im stupid" ......I agree!!
2007-03-13 07:39:03 · 5 answers · asked by Jealous?? 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
The worse thing friends should ever do is get involved with others personal life. Friends are friends but none of them are qualified to give relationship advice.
2007-03-13 07:44:30 · answer #1 · answered by felippie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay, I had a friend who did the same thing to me, for 5 long years. Every day for 5 years she called me. I listened compassionately to everything that was wrong with her life, her husband and child. She would cry, rant about divorce, complain about her kid, her husband, her parents, blah, blah, blah!!! She was always upset with somebody and never had a positive thing to say. She did nothing to make things better. I would sympathize and advise her the best I could, but it all meant nothing. Because, I came to realize that the friendship was nothing more than her using me as a sounding board for all of her problems and negative emotional energy. I could not take it anymore, she wore me out, and I finally changed my number and freed myself from the grip of terror she reigned on my day.
2007-03-13 15:19:53 · answer #2 · answered by Annie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hey, just bear with her, generally preggy women get cranky (esp about the hubby). however if the situation persists afterwards, tell her to get her act together. its good to offer a shoulder at times but full time cry babies need a mommy ( i am sure you are not one). Tell her to get some advice from a professional (she might need help)
if its temporary, which it might be, then let it slide, although you can drop a hint that its a little irritating to have this conversation all the time. Good Luck
2007-03-13 14:52:38 · answer #3 · answered by atts 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was in your place. She's gonna marry him next month. My best advise, tell her straight out. If your friendship is strong, it won't go away. If not, it will go away, but at least you wont' have to listen to her complaining all the time.
As for me, I'm just waiting until after the wedding. I've tried telling her straight. She didn't listen. Don't want to ruin her special day, so I'm holding my tougue for now.
2007-03-13 14:47:46 · answer #4 · answered by Alterfemego 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she's totally aware of her problem isnt?being stupid... wel just talk to her calmly,dont be too hard on her,maybe she's having a rough time with her new family and probably just confused.this is one of those times that you can prove to her you love her as a friend by showing your support,not by getting annoyed with her without you talking to her properly and asking her the real problem.
2007-03-13 14:46:03 · answer #5 · answered by TJ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋