Chances of staying together?

Question

I'm 34 and my G/F is 18 and to add to it she is pregnant. What are the chances of us staying together? And also should we try to stay together?

Answer 1

Ok, lets see something here. In your previous and only question besides this one (for now) you asked “My girlfriend cuts her self when things go wrong !! why?”

I don’t think you are 34, and I don’t believe too much of the story. Your previous question is not from a 34 year old person. Sorry, but I can not accept that.

But I will give the benefit of the doubt to your question (not to you) and answer the question:

There is no age for love.

A relation will work as long there is love, communication understanding, and some how compatibly.

And remember, real love is when you take care and try to please your significant other no matter what, and without asking or expecting anything in return.

The age difference can play some more importance here as is a big difference and the two of you think different as well. So the best “compatibility” case would be that she can be very serious and a responsible adult (could be as for women this is usually easy and is seen a lot), and for you to be the other way around, so mentally talking, you two can be closer in age or “maturity”.

Still, the relation can work. Is hard, but not impossible.

Now you also have to put in the equation the baby (another reason I don’t believe this because what the hell were you thinking having unprotected sex with a 18 year old girl… and hopefully she was already 18 and not a minor, otherwise you are in trouble with the law), as now is not only the relation, but also yo9u have to take care of the baby.

I personally would try, as long she is willing to do it too. I am almost 8 years older than my Wife, and we get alone perfectly fine, and our relation is going to 10 years soon and we are very happy.

Hope this helps.

Answer 2

It depends on whether your relationship started and is based on a sexual attraction or an emotional one. At your current ages the odds are stacked against you. At your age the desire to set down roots have already begun because of what you have had time to experience. At her age she has just started to experience life and has had nothing to compare the problems to that you both will face. If she has never and will never hope to date other men(not boys) will the what if's cause problems later on that will cause her regret and resentment towards you. What if she didn't get pregnant and went to college? What if she had the opportunity to go on spring break with the other girls and how much fun has she missed out on by becoming tied down so young? Does she find out that in ten years she was really only interested in you because of sex and that feeling has finally disappeared. Does she find out that her likes after a couple of years are so vastly different that she has absolutely nothing in common with you? And finally, when her attitudes in what married life should be start to change(and trust me growing a little older she will change a lot) will it be a common attitude with yours? That's why couples need to be cautious in developing a physical relationship before considering the consequences of their actions. It's not to say that you are not capable to make it a lifetime commitment given the right attitude and effort, she will be facing a larger difficulty in that she isn't really old enough to have experience to cope with this change of life and she will changing for the next ten years or more in her thoughts of life goals, feelings, and attitudes. Good Luck in whatever you two decide to do, but don't make any hasty decision in this until you both are aware of what you are facing. A quick decision to marry and start a family can end even quicker in a nasty divorce that has a greater negative impact on the child or children involved.

Answer 3

Well, honestly that is up to the two of you. I once knew a married couple who were 22 years apart and they stayed together for a very long time. In the long run it depends upon her level of maturity and the level of commitment that both of you, not just one of you, both of you, is willing to give.
Without sounding harsh, yet I need to ask why did you impregnate her in the first place if you have doubts?

Answer 4

My ex husbands parents were 23 years apart. They had six children together, and he died at the age 0f '93, about seven years ago. She has never remarried. So, if you truly love each other, have the same values, wants, desires, etc, it can certainly work. But if you don't have the same values, it wouldn't matter if you were the same age, it would be very difficult to stay married for long.

Answer 5

Depends on how much you love each other. If you are meant to be together...you will be. The odds are against you...due to different maturity levels...just due to the ages you both are. She has a lot of life to go through to get to where you are at. Hopefully the two of you will grow together.

Answer 6

well for right now it might be all good but in a couple of yrs when u r older and she realize that she is young and that she needs 2 have fun but it was U R choice so know of course U need 2 try & stay together

Answer 7

Less then a 5% chance of you staying together. Good luck.

Answer 8

That all depends on how mature she is at 18. Is she ready for that kind of committment? Are you ready for that kind of committment? If you love each other then yes I would suggest trying to stay together, but if you can't see yourself spending the rest of your life with her then no.

Answer 9

You are 34 and she is 18. Can I ask, what were you thinking? Ditto on what Richard says. Good luck.

Answer 10

I believe in time she will outgrow you. Which doesnt say much for your relationship. But if you're both really serious about a future together......Then it's no one's decision but the two (almost 3) of you to decide.