Ok, me and my husband have been married since Dec/06.
He has a child with his ex girlfriend and me and him have been ttc since we have been married, and nothing's happening.
i confronted my husband about him cheating and he confirmed it. he told me that he had been with his ex since we've been married once or twice.
But the thing is...... the ex he cheated on me with is now pregnant.
I want to work things out with him but i don't know how to accept the fact that me an him cannot seem to get pregnant but he cheates and now she's pregnant. I don't know what to do. I want a child so bad, and he's going to be a daddy again with his ex. HELP.. I need advice... what would u do... and has anyone ever been in this situation???
Please help i need advice. thanks
2007-03-13 07:04:12 · 32 answers · asked by curiouskitty 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Do NOT have a baby with this man! You will regret it later on when the two of you are divorced and you're with the man of your dreams...a man who loves and adores you so much that he would never considering doing you wrong. He will treat you exactly as you always wanted...he will be the man that you will want to have all of your children with!! Trust me!!!!!
I have 3 children from past relationships and I'm now with the man of my dreams and I wish I would've waited to have my children with him.
2007-03-13 07:26:00 · answer #1 · answered by Traci D 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly I would leave him thats the worst betrayal. Why would you want to have a baby with him now, he didnt see you fit but laid down with his ex and not only that but without using protection. So you can have what ever she has if shes carrying any diseases. I wouldnt want a baby sloppy seconds. If you guys been together so long then he should have honored that but he didnt he didnt have you own his mind one bit. You got married in Dec 06 you can still get a annulment (however you spell it) you know a divorce but not officially a divorce. Leave him hes not worth it and he will do it again..what do you want to be like Big love on hbo three wives sharing houses kids husbands. I think not. Honey Good luck you deserve so much better.
2007-03-13 07:13:04 · answer #2 · answered by FauxDr 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are two different issues here. A cheating husband? Of course you feel terrible. Can't get pregnant? Of course you feel terrible. Then they combine into this monstrous situation.
1. STOP trying to get pregnant until you figure out if this relationship can be saved.
2. IF you and he can reconcile, IF you can trust him again, then you can look into seeing a doctor about your fertility. Trying since December '06 is NOT very long, there may be nothing to worry about.
3. Try to imagine this: you do get pregnant, and then he decides to leave you and go back to his ex. Not good, huh? Sort things out--it won't be easy--BEFORE you bring another child into this complicated picture.
2007-03-13 07:16:28 · answer #3 · answered by Wise Advice 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As difficult as this may sound, maybe you need to cut your losses right now and drop him. You got married only recently, Dec. '2006 and all of this has been going on? Seems to me you should be more concerned with the fact that this man is disloyal and disrespectful to you, rather worrying about how to get pregnant with him. Are you so desperate to have a child that you would subject yourself to this sort of bad behavior? This sounds like the beginning of a lot of trouble and heartache for you and any potential child you may have.
Do you realize that you could meet someone decent and respectful with whom you could have a happy marriage and all the precious babies that you desire? Think hard before you go on.
2007-03-13 07:20:21 · answer #4 · answered by bombastic 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This man has absolutely no decency or loyalty at all. Divorce the loser and find yourself a decent man that won't be cheating on you, ESPECIALLY, this early in the marriage. It's bad enough that he cheated with her, but the fact that she's pregnant (with what we assume is his child) proves that he didn't even have the respect for you to use protection is repulsive! Drop this POS like a sack of rotten potatoes, you deserve better. He wants to continue having sex with his ex....let him do it on a full-time basis. A wife that is trying to give her husband the ultimate gift ( a child) not only deserves a man that's loyal, but will treat her with the utmost respect, give her all the love, support, and give her the emotional stability that she (in this case you) so greatly deserves. I'm sorry you are having to deal with such a painful ordeal and I wish you good luck in your future, whatever you choose to do.
2007-03-13 07:51:30 · answer #5 · answered by Steel 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Can you please go to a clinic and do a check-up ,to see if nothing is wrong with you.Your husband doesn't have no respect for you and that's bad so what he planned to do next .You know what you accept to much for him already why,is this because you love him ?Soon or later he'll leave you, don't you see you don't control your husband .He do whatever he wants to do ,and what 's worst he told he had an affair with that girl even when you're married with him.YOU NEED TO CONTROL THE SITUATION ,first of all he's the one who was supposed to work things with you that's wrong that's more than adultery .
2007-03-13 07:29:00 · answer #6 · answered by BOOKEY 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow, it would probably take a lot for me to leave my husband, but that would take the cake for me. I would leave his sorry A S S. You can do better than someone who is going to cheat on, and disrespect you. He will probably end up going back to her because he feels obligated with her being pregnant again. So if you stay, and he ends up doing that don't you think you would be asking yourself why did I even stay with him after he did that to me - I should have left his A$$ right then and there!
2007-03-13 07:17:52 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave him - he doesn't treat having/giving the chance to have kids as special as you do. To him, it's just another thing or else he would be solely trying with you, not rubbing one off with her and not thinking about how he is married to you. You can still have kids through a good and faithful marriage, but he didn't give you that chance. Don't confuse you wanting to be a mom with the situation you're in. Get out of it, be glad he's not the dad of your kids, because do you want to be paying child support to his ex and their kids?
2007-03-13 07:15:05 · answer #8 · answered by HappilyEverAfter 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have only been trying since December. That is really not long at all. On average it takes a couple around a year of trying before they get pregnant. I would let your husband know, that if he ever cheats on you again, he is out. Dont give him anymore chances after this. I am sorry about your situation.
2007-03-13 07:10:23 · answer #9 · answered by Kari R 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Best advice....dump him. Oh, I know, you LOVE him. Ridiculous. You need to love yourself first and to do that you need to realize that YOU DESERVE more than this man obviously has to offer. I mean, are you not worth having a man that will be faithful to you and only you????? Of course you are!!!! And, if by some strange reason you don't think so....then the problem is you, not him. It really doesn't sound like he's good "daddy" material anyway. Good Luck
2007-03-13 07:13:04 · answer #10 · answered by manatee lover 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋