Here's the deal. I met this woman almost 3 years ago. She is my life. She has given me everything that I have ever wanted, mentally, financially & physically. But when we first started dating 3 years ago, we would hang out, go on dates, and you could feel that we were falling in love. Well, I was at a function with buddies, and drank to much (not an excuse!), and met this female there that worked with me, and she talked my ear off on how much she liked me. (she didn't know I was taken at the time) She was drinking, we were dancing, and I needed a ride home. She offered. on the way home, she pulled over, and we did the deed. I got home. I knew what I did was a mistake. But I figured that I could just be cool about it, and forget about it since we had just started dating. I haven't thought about doing it again, and we are happy as can be. We are getting married in Sept, have a home, and thinking about starting a family? Should I just lay it to rest?
2007-03-13 06:39:42 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
For the people that asked me, if I am so in love with her, how could I do this. We just started dating, and we weren't in "love" yet. For you that understand love.. It doesn't happen over night. It's time together that makes love real. We had only been dating for a few weeks. It doesn't make it right, but We weren't in love at that time.
2007-03-13 06:46:59 · update #1
One more little detail. I really don't think about it much. And no one knows but, this chick, and me. And no I haven't seen this girl since that night. She got fired the next day. And no, I didn't fire her! hahah.. Just thought I would ask the world if I should just let be one of those stupid things I did in my 20's... before I became an adult. :-) thanks everyone!
2007-03-13 06:51:09 · update #2
DO NOT TELL HER ! For her sake ! Seriously, she will picture it in her head.. Wonder if you'll do it again.. Question your relationship and your feelings towards her. Believe me.. NOTHING good can come from it. I know it has to bother you. But it seems like you have learned the only lesson there is to be gotten from this. You know you wont do it again, so do HER a favor, and never tell her. Because that saying is so so so true. "What you don't know wont hurt you." If you love her and dont want to hurt her.. Don't tell her and *NEVER* do that again. Good luck & Best Wishes
2007-03-13 06:47:40 · answer #1 · answered by dralls4lyf 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if it's eating you up inside tell her. i don't think that you should, but if you feel that bad about it, tell her. hopefully she'll be able to forgive you and you guys can grow together from it.
but being a woman, i would say let sleeping dogs lie and keep it to yourself. it's been so long why bring it up now...you guys are planning your future together. focus on that instead of a mistake you made 3 years ago...while you guys weren't committed to each other. i hope everything works out for you. good luck and God bless. :)
2007-03-13 06:48:56 · answer #2 · answered by desireme112 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Dont tell her. This was at the start of your relationship. If you arent having any contact with this other woman and are never going to mess around on your fiance, I would say let it go. It would only hurt her if you tell her. Seriously.
2007-03-13 06:48:34 · answer #3 · answered by Kari R 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Lay it to rest & don't do it again if you truely love this girl.Once is a mistake,twice is not a mistake.If you tell her now you can say bye bye to the marraige & probably to her. Good luck.
2007-03-13 06:49:38 · answer #4 · answered by jimbobob 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In your situation, I would have to lay it to rest. It happened three years ago when you first started dating so just let it go and foret it even happend..
2007-03-13 06:46:31 · answer #5 · answered by Jacuzzi Lover 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let it rest. You weren't fully committed to your fiance at the time.
Congratulations on your upcoming wedding.
2007-03-13 06:43:04 · answer #6 · answered by Annie 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
forget it becuz women hold grudges like a motha- so dont mess up ya life. she may call the wedding off
2007-03-13 06:44:26 · answer #7 · answered by nadi 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Once a cheater always a cheater so why get married? Spare her your drama
2007-03-13 06:58:33 · answer #8 · answered by momof3 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just for personal use...if you are so in love with someone how could you do something like this? are you really in love or dont you know? i think that you should let her know what happened. she would respect you so much more if you do so.
2007-03-13 06:44:06 · answer #9 · answered by Ultimate Guitar Hero! 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Don't tell.
But remember once a cheater, always a cheater...expect a bumpy road ahead.
2007-03-13 06:43:20 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋