I need help, my marriage might be in danger for lack of?

Question

Sex. I have been married for 15 years now and we don't have sex as we used to. We have young children. I'm 33.
Is there a vitamin or something to help me in my sexual life? My husband is always in the mood, I still love him, and I still find him attractive. But I just don't feel in the mood ever. I'm a homemaker. Please I don't want my marriage to end. He is very patient. But I know he gets frustrated.

Answer 1

Do you have a baby sitter? Or an immediate family to take care of your kids? If you manage to leave the kids with anybody of your trust. Do this: Go out and get nice-sexy underwear, buy the perfume that you use to wear when you were going out with your husband. Get him some new underwear too; something sexy that you know for sure will put you in the mood. Make a hotel-room reservation, any day of the week when you think your husband will be more relax from work. Invite your husband to a nice romantic Restaurant or bar. Have some drinks, talk about those beautiful times when you two met. Act like if it was going to be your first night with him, flirt, and be sexy! If you go to a restaurant try not to eat too much. I know wine can put you in the mood. But if you don't feel like drinking wine, then have some apple martini. When you think you are in the mood, give him an envelope with the hotel room key and a note that said" Ask for the check". (Go to the lady's room after you gave him the note). After that day I'm pretty sure he is going to want to do it again and so are you too. I know this will work because you are willing to make it work! Think about, both of you alone in a hotel room without the kids... Have fun!!

Answer 2

So whats your deal? Is it b/c you are with the kids during the day and are tired at the end or what? What I can say, speaking from someone who had a child and went back to work and still had to perform my "duties"...lol, I was that way at first. I started trying to get more me time. Then I was thinking about "our" sex and how I could spice it up a little, make it more interesting for the both of us. Do you guys have free time or put aside free time for each other to spend together? If not, plan it and make it something that happens regularly....regardless if it about sex or just being together. Also, if you guys are into toys (which can be really fun with a personyou care about)? If so, then make a trip to the sex store together and pick out things together, movies, etc. It will spark a flame in the both of you....... Have Fun!!!

Answer 3

You should talk to your doctor there are things he can give you to help your sex life. Also it is very important to make sure you find me time every day even if it is only 30 minutes and you need to try to make yourself feel pretty and sexy wear lacy panties under your jeans while you do your housework no one knows they are there but they make you feel like a women. I know that house and children are probably the most important things in your life right now but you need to remember that you were a wife first and that relationship should be nurtured ahead of all else. The kids will have a happier home if the parents are both happy.

Answer 4

I know this might sound a bit ridiculous, but have you let yourself go some? I mean do you try to feel and look sexy or do you just get up in the morning and go through the same old routine. You get up, put on your housecoat, got to the kitchen to make breakfast, see your husband off to work and the kids to school and after everyone is gone go back to bed for an hour or watch tv. If you would start getting up 15 minutes earlier and taking the time to put on your cloths and makeup before you go to make breakfast and try to make yourself look nicer, not for him, but for you. Find the inner women that you used to be. Take some time out for yourself. Get out and walk or start going to the gym and working out. Try to be more active and break the manotony. Also start taking a good women's vitamin with iron. It will help.

Answer 5

First i think you should try and relax. My wife and I have been together for many years, and although I would say we have a great physical relationship there have been a few droughts through the years. It seems that as time goes on we get into ruts where things dont happen often. Ive found that its something you just have to make happen. Tell yourself you are going to be intimate 4 nights this week and do it. I think youll find that as you get back into a more frequent routine, you will find yourself thinking about it more often through the day, as you think about it more often youll find that you become more aroused, that leads to more. The mind is a wonderful thing, just get yours back in the saddle.

Answer 6

I can tell this is really working on your heart. From personal experience, this is normal for women with young children, the children take a lot out of you, feedings, running after them, worrying about them, keeping and picking up the house. With all that entails, its normal that your drive is not going to be the same. I got pushhed out of bed one time when I was trying to snuggle with my wife.
Don't get stressed out. This is probably one reason your having issues. Just talk openly with your husband after his day is done (have couch time) when you get a chance after putting the kids to bed or involving them in something that occupies their time. just having that intimacy together will help things out. Sex does not start in the bedroom, it starts in the kitchen.

Answer 7

Violet, young children can make it tough on a woman's sex drive....I've been in your shoes, and still struggle to keep up with my husband's appetite and sex drive. For women, one of the biggest sex organs is the BRAIN....which means you have to take measures to spice things up for YOU....Vikki Iovine wrote a series of pregnancy/baby books that are hilarious, but she also wrote one about "The girlfriends's guide to getting your groove back" for this very problem you are describing. It's easy to read and full of good ideas. Good Luck.

Answer 8

Stress can put a damper on your sex life too. And you need to get out of the house and have some fun. And go see your doctor, there are things that they can give you to up your libido.

Answer 9

stop thinking about it as a chore remember how much fun it can be try date were you put the kids to bed make a special dinner and see were things go

Answer 10

maybe you should just do it even if your not in the mood. I would venture that you would get in the mood fast if you just started to fool around.