Is it okay to look at other beautiful women if you are married?

Question

I just recently got married and my wife says that I stair at too many other girls but sometimes the way women dress these days are too provocative and one cannot help but look. Don't touch of course but when you get married is this normal? Love my wife and everything is well but sometimes can't help but look at some women who I come across because of the way they dress. If there is anybody married, do you go through the same things or is it just me?

Answer 1

it is normal but it is also very rude and disrepectful to stare if your wife is with you. Try not to do it while she is around

Answer 2

You really shouldn't do it infront of your wife. Sure you look when someone wears something wild or way to provocative, women do to. Just don't drool over the passing girl, and don't even look when you are with your wife. When a man looks at other women infront of their woman I call them dogs because, my husband and I used to live with other people, and when we went out in public one of the guys would act like a dog (howling, whistling etc) to other girls infront of his wife and brother-in-law. My husband even told me that he is disgusting for treating his wife with such dis-respect.

Answer 3

Noticing and taking a quck glance is one thing but then turn away and dont stare or ogle. This is just rude to do especially if your wife is right by your side.... You should only have eyes and lust for your wife only. Why keep looking if you love your wife and ogling leads to lust and desire of the other person. A quick glance and turning away is ok.

Answer 4

I agree, most women are hoochie and dress like they have no respect fro their bodies. Sexy and demure is achievable without letting it all hang out.
It is ok to look, but since your wife has said it bothers her try to avoid looking while she is with you, a simple glance is ok. Then try to make sure your wife knows that you find her sexy, sometimes women feel after we get married our husbands forget that we are still sexy too.

Answer 5

It's all right to admire another woman's beauty, but don't look at her with that admiring look in the presence of your wife. All women feel low self-esteem about their looks, so make your wife feel special by keeping your eyes on her when other women pass by.

Answer 6

Looking is one thing, staring is another, sure I am
married and if I notice a good looking woman I
do just that notice her, but the majority of the time
I am with my wife and I notice how happy I am be-
ing with her and I don't have the time to notice any-
thing else.

Answer 7

You and your wife need to get a comfort level on this issue.

My husband and I both notice and point out other people (men and women). We both says things like: he must work out, do you think those are real?, they must have beatiful kids, did you see how blue his eyes were?, she has great hair, what a great dancer-do you think she has ever gone camping?...

We both know that there are other people that have certain features that are better than our own...but we both know that we each have the BEST package deal!!

Answer 8

I've been married for almost 19 years and it's very normal to look but you don't want to gawk or be too obvious about it. Trust me, your wife notices if you stare. You need to be subtle about this and never, ever gawk. And one more thing, you NEVER, EVER order from the menu.

Answer 9

Hell yeah it's ok to look...... now dont go over doing it and make yourself look like a stalker but I see nothing wrong with appreciating a good looking woman.

Trust me your wife looks at guys too.

Answer 10

I think it is normal, but on the other hand it makes me feel uncomfortable when my husband does it!! Catch 22.