I have a friend who've I've always invited to my daughter's birthday parties (our daughters are close in age). I have also invited her to my birthday bash & other little get togethers I've had. She did not show up to ANY of them! Nor does she call me afterwards to say, "Sorry I couldn't make it" or whatever. On the other hand, I have gone to ALL of her daughters parties EVEN though she tells me LAST MINUTE. She only gets in touch with me once a year (March, her daughters birthday). She wrote me yesterday and said her newborn was 3 weeks old now and oh yeah, by the way, Tori's b-day is Sunday. AND she took my daughters name and gave it to her newborn. In my opinion, friends don't do that! Do they? Anyway, I just wanted some other opinions... thanks!
2007-03-13 06:20:48 · 13 answers · asked by princess526_2001 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
invest your time in good friends > i think this one is just "waste of time and energy"- Exclude this person from your "friends" list - if she;s not there in your good times, you can never share anything with her so what;s the point?
Best wishes _ we have a choice to pick our friends so why not pick the good ones?(family is God Given but friends are our own choices)
2007-03-13 06:29:45 · answer #1 · answered by Broken 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As for the name thing--she could be trying to make you mad or giving you a compliment--who knows. If you only talk to her once a year--then she's not really a friend. Do you give good gifts? Maybe she just wants the gift. I would slowly drift away from this friendship. You don't have to do anything--really she only calls once a year anyway. I wouldn't go to this next party. What for?
2007-03-13 13:27:02 · answer #2 · answered by Audrey C 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need to cut your losses with this so-called friend. I believe you would call her a "fair weather" friend. She is a taker with no give. Dump her....give her a bit of her own medicine. I would tell her I will be at the party Sun. and not show up or call. Don't return her calls. Move on. It isn't worth the heart ache.
2007-03-13 13:25:34 · answer #3 · answered by in2one 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like she's not a very good friend. It's awesome that you are putting effort into maintaining the relationship, but there comes a time where you have to stop. I'm sure there are lots more people out there who would be a better friend than her. It may seem harsh, but it seems like your friendship with her is already over.
2007-03-13 13:24:40 · answer #4 · answered by predawn 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
well sounds like u r taking the higher ground by going to her chldrens parties, sorry shes just a selfish, unthoughtful person. there are many like those in the world. i dont think i could stay friends with her.
2007-03-13 13:25:10 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
She is self centered. Sorry, I know thats your friend, but she is. She seems to have the attitude that her events are more important then yours. And it's ok to totally ditch yours. Not cool. Especially when kids are involved.
2007-03-13 13:25:23 · answer #6 · answered by dralls4lyf 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You're being petty. Just because you want someone to come to your parties doesn't mean they want to come. If you let her know that it's really that important to you, perhaps she'd show up...Just For You...
2007-03-13 13:26:04 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
I would say she isnt a friend.....but it is a strange situation good luck!
2007-03-13 13:28:38 · answer #8 · answered by boxleaves 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No -- they sure aren't supposed to. Sounds like she likes to receive but not give.......a tad selfish if you ask me. I wouldn't go.
2007-03-13 13:25:12 · answer #9 · answered by butterfliesRfree 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
you have great expectations.
"friends" don't contact each other once a year.
you might consider letting it all go, and enjoy your REAL friends...
2007-03-13 13:25:15 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋