becauseit is very different than when they are dating. I know my guy loves me very much but he isn't the romantic mushy gooshy thing(never really was) that he was when dating.
He works hard to provide me with a house. He takes care of our kids. He helps out when he can around the house. He repects me. though he may not always be everything "I always dreamed of" I know beyond a doubt he love me unconditionally. he has stayed by me when I have been sick through surgery.
I just wonder if somethimes woman mistake the ways that men show their love once married as something else?
what do you think??
2007-03-13 06:15:53 · 19 answers · asked by no 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
providing for her needs, not getting involved with other women, being an involved dad if they have kids... I see no reason why these things don't communicate love just as well as flowers. I bring flowers too, but I only do it because she likes them. Normally I think flowers and cards are just useless wastes of money.
My father in law was into big pompous gifts and elaborate bouquets of flowers, yet behind her back he was screwing all the neighbor women. I say a man that stands by you is worth more than 10 who treat you like a queen to get what they want and then do their thing when you don't see them.
2007-03-13 06:24:15 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wow. I need to take lessons from your man. I work hard every day for our family. I try to buy my wife nice presents and watch the kids. BUT, I don't do what I should to help her around the house, never write her loves notes, or made a point to give her kind words.
I have turned over a new leaf. I am washing dishes, doing the lawn on time. Picking up after myself. Making time for us to talk together. Giving her words of encouragement. Praying with her (I should have done this long ago). Writing sexy love notes telling her how much I want and need her body.
2007-03-13 06:26:00 · answer #2 · answered by prouddaddy 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I was told when it comes to men, you either have a worker or a lover. workers' aren't mushy and aren't very romantic either. they'll work their behinds off to provide though. and it's vice versa if he's a lover. he'll romance you and make love to you like no one else, but expect him to be responsible and provide as a husband, probably not. my husband is a worker. he shows me he loves romantically by kissing me longer than a peck when he comes home from work, he'll sit on the toilet (not using it) while i bathe and talk to me. my husband did the same for me during my surgery and recovery too. in reality, you want a man who will do the things our men do. roses are nice and candle light too, but who's gonna help w/ the kids when you need them, cook for you, rub your feet, kiss you on your forehead when you've had a bad day. come home to you and his family, and no one else. you want a man who will provide for you and still answer his phone when you need him to keep the trust between you. that's what real men do, not the barbie doll version that fades once real life sets in. it's still just as enjoyable because you've grown as a person and a woman and your expectations of him grow too. Good Luck.
2007-03-13 06:26:56 · answer #3 · answered by lamonross80 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
All those things he did really shows he do loves you. Once a man started to get married, the caring to build the family started too. The trust on you as a wife he need more and the support too. Thats why you been choosen to be the wife.
2007-03-13 06:22:57 · answer #4 · answered by ironlady42 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If a woman believes that she's going to be swept off her feet by some Harlican Romance novel superman, then she's got a lot of growing up to do.
Men and Women are different, and I'd not just refering to the physical; we actually process information and display our emotions in a completrely different mannor.
2007-03-13 06:23:53 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
My husband does things like....
keeps gas in my car & my car serviced & washed
when it snows he shovels my car out
he brings in the groceries and puts them away after I buy them
he makes arrangements for weekend getaways at least twice a year
he rubs my feet & legs while we watch TV together
he's never too busy or tired to listen to me talk about stuff he's really not interested in.
I could go on and on.....he does things everyday...I just had to learn to pay attention.
2007-03-13 06:26:24 · answer #6 · answered by daljack -a girl 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You know I think you have a good husband. I remember this like it was yesterday, we were in the hospital. There I was feeding her,rubbing her back, holding her hand she was in so much pain. Kissing her letting her know how much I loved her. The very next day she calls this guy and apologized to him for not being able to come & see him the night before.
2007-03-13 06:27:00 · answer #7 · answered by WhyNotMe 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My guy is only romantic 2 times a year so I can understand where you're coming from. When I need a little extra romance I set it up myself. He enjoys it and so do I! It's a win win situation!
2007-03-13 06:30:50 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I agree. I like to do things around the house for my wife without being asked. Little things like loading the dishwasher and starting it while she is still in bed. Or doing the vacuuming so she won't have to on my day off. Sounds like you have a great guy. Most ladies would love to have one like your husband. I suggest you keep him around, and think of things you can do for him that he would not expect.
2007-03-13 06:24:54 · answer #9 · answered by ? 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Actions speak louder than words. A man can tell
his wife this and that but his actions tell nothing; so
if your husband is showing his love to you then he
is doing it in a manner that he feels he is doing his
best to tell you he loves you. Accept it and if you
want more then tell him after all he is your husband
and you might bring up something that he never
thought of before.
2007-03-13 16:33:11 · answer #10 · answered by RudiA 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋