have i been violated?

Question

i ewnt to the doctors yesterday, gyno for a consultation because i wanted to change my birth control pills. it was my first time with this dr since my insurance changed and i told her i had my paps not even 6 months ago, but she was very pushy and persistant in giving one to me then so she can know for herself if im healthy down there. i agreed and then she wanted to do some test on me she has she only does to women 0ver 40, and im 21, but she thought it was necessary. this test required her to stick her finger in my butt... i had no idea that was what she was talking about because she used a lot of medical words i couldnt understand. it was soo late, then i told her i wanted to talk to her about a few other issues and she just left the office so i never got a chance to ask her what i wanted to know about my body. she then sent me to do a lot of blood work and didnt tell me what she thought i had and why i needed so much work done. is this typical behavior for a doctor?

Answer 1

actually there is a test done that requires a finger in the tush. The doctor can feel the back side of your uterus through you rectum and some doctors always check. Unless you had your pap results with you most doctors will repeat one just to be safe. As for rushing out that was just not nice but she may have had an emergancy at the hospital or something and forgot to let you know. If you still want to discuss any issues with her make a new appointment just for the reason of discussing your health concerns. Most doctors are so overbook that they can't spend more than 15 minutes per person or they fall behind.

Answer 2

I never heard of it. Did you try to call her back and find out what were the results? You might have been violated. Talk to another doctor. You might want to sue her if she wasn't professional.
How Is a Pap Smear Performed?
The Pap smear is done during a pelvic exam. A doctor uses a device called a speculum to widen the opening of the vagina so that the cervix can be examined. A plastic spatula and small brush are used to collect cells from the cervix. After the cells are taken, they are placed into a solution. The solution is sent to a lab for testing.
Is the Pap Smear Painful?
A Pap smear is not painful, but the pelvic exam may be a little uncomfortable.
When Will I Know the Results of the Pap Smear?
It may take several weeks to get the test results. If you haven't heard from your doctor's office after 3 weeks, give them a call to see if your results have come back.

What Do the Results of a Pap Smear Mean?
A normal Pap smear means the cells from the cervix look normal. An abnormal Pap smear means the cells do not look normal. Sometimes repeat Pap smears are needed. Different tests also may need to be done, such as a colposcopy (the use of a special microscope to examine the cervix and vagina). Pap smears can occasionally show signs of infection but cannot be relied on to screen for sexually transmitted diseases. Other tests are necessary to determine the presence of an STD.There are several things you can do to help make the Pap smear as accurate as possible. These include avoidance of sex, douching and vaginal creams for 48 hours before the test.

What Happens If the Results Are Abnormal?
An abnormal Pap smear does not necessarily mean that cancer cells were found during the examination. There are many causes for abnormal Pap smear results. Your doctor will evaluate the results to determine if further testing is necessary.

Why Would I Need to Repeat the Pap Smear?
A repeat Pap smear may be necessary if you had an infection at the time of the test or if there were not enough cells collected during the test. Since decreased levels of the female hormone estrogen also can influence Pap smear results, menopausal women may need to take estrogen before they repeat the test.

If the results of the repeat Pap smear are still abnormal, your doctor may recommend that you have a colposcopy to further evaluate the problem.

What Is a Colposcopy?
Colposcopy is an examination of the cervix and the walls of the vagina. During the examination, a speculum is inserted into the vagina (as done in a Pap smear). Your doctor looks through a magnifying instrument called a colposcope to detect cervical problems that cannot be seen by the eye alone. During the colposcopy, the colposcope remains outside the vagina. Biopsies (tissue samples) of the abnormal cervical area may be taken.

Colposcopy is not always necessary immediately after an abnormal Pap smear. Be sure to ask your doctor about other options.

How Often Should I Get a Pap Smear?
You should get a Pap smear once a year if you are having or have had sex or if you have reached the age of 21. Some women who have a higher risk of cancer may need a Pap smear more often. Women who have had normal Pap smears for several years in a row, and have had only one sex partner may need the test less often.

Women with certain risk factors, such as being HIV positive (carrying the virus that causes AIDS), a weakened immune system due to chemotherapy, organ transplant, chronic steroid use, or have a history of diethylstilbestrol (DES) exposure before birth, should continue to be screened more frequently.

Answer 3

That's a bit of a miserable experience, I like to talk to my Doctor and ask exactly why and whats going on with my body. You do get some doctors that don't talk much and you'll have the tests done and once they've got the information they can sit down and explain to you that you have a bacterial infection or low sugar count or the tests were fine and may suggest to drink more water or write a script etc. Don't forget that gynecologists look at people's genitals and anatomy everyday so it's no big deal for them, plus she is a specialist who may want to start from scratch so she knows your health directly, But they forget young girls are a bit sensitive and they would like to be treated more kindly, even me I'm 23 yr old male and I'm a bit sensitive and paranoid when i go to the docs. Hope all goes well i feel for you, I think you'll be fine though.

Answer 4

You know right now I am home with very bad pains in my side and Ill be damned if I go see a crack pot doctor that doesn't even have the time to have a doctor patient talk! So far in my 48 years of life I have only had a couple of doctors that actually had good manners and seemed to know what they were doing! Everyone tells me I should have a family doctor but when you only need one every ten years or so they dump you off their list and to hell with you. So you see you need to find a good personal doctor but just how do you do it and be on the safe side and how do you keep them when you don't need them so often? Do what I do when they give you crap service, don't pay the inconsiderate nincompoops! P.S. I have always paid the good providers I have seen and not all are like this!

Answer 5

This is not typical behavior for a doctor. If you are seeking medical advice you should be treated with respect and kindness. Doctors are very aware that the general public may not understand medical lingo and should thus explain anything they are going to do in simple terms. I would tell someone at the clinic of your experience, and switch to a different gyno. A hint for the future...you should never feel uncomfortable. Don't doubt yourself. Good luck

Answer 6

I've never had an experience like this and I am thirty. If it were me, I would call the insurance company and find out what the claim had in it; what procedures the doctor submitted for payment and see if they match what you had done. If they match, then the doctor was probably on the up and up. However, I do recommend that you change doctors. You need someone you feel comfortable with and I think you would feel more comfortable with someone who would explain themselves better and maybe has as procedure a nurse in the room at all times. My doctor is that way, and that is why I feel comfortable with him. My previous doctor would basically say what he wanted to do and then do it, so I changed to someone who would be willing to tell me why. Good luck to you.

Answer 7

Perhaps it is behavior of a bad doctor. A good doctor should always take the time to first listen to the patient, then answer all questions FIRST before proceeding with an exam and answer them in language that the patient understands. I am sure you were not violated in the sense that you were sexually wronged, however, your rights as a patient were certainly violated. She did a rectal exam, which is a common procedure during a pelvic exam, to check for polyps, etc.....anything that may indicate cancer. Anyway, learn from this experience, and remember.....YOU pay this physician, so she/he works for YOU. You must advocate for yourself, because no one else will. It is demanded that you say, "Before we go any farther, I want to know....." and ALWAYS say, if you don't understand something, "Explain it to me , please, in lay terms." ("Lay" is the average person not well versed in a particular subject, such as medicine.)

Answer 8

Sounds like a case of hideous "beside manner". I would complain to the office! Some doctors do SUCK. You just learned a hard lesson. Not cool that it was learned in such an invasive type exam! I feel for you....From now on your responsibility is to:
Talk to all doctors before an exam of any kind.
If they are jerks move on.
You have that power it's your body and mind.
Yes you have been violated. Was the doctor a sexual deviate probably not. Sounds like a hit and run doesn't it?! ZERO bedside manner.

Answer 9

You need to find another doctor. When your doctor refuses to talk to you, and does not explain things to your satisfaction they are not interested in you. Sometimes it is necessary to run tests the first time a doctor sees a new patient, but running unnecessary tests is just a way to run up the bill. You need to have a good relationship with your doctor. They are not superior to you and should not act like they are.

Answer 10

When you switch Dr's office's (or start going to a new one) Unless you have previous files sent to them, they have to do all sorts of tests because they no nothing of your health. It was not right for her to not communicate better with you, and I would schedule your future appts, with a different Dr. in the practice (if there is one).