I feel so bad..?

Question

I'm 15 years old and I got an abortion...I hate myself for it and I think I always will. I think I deserve to be punished...I prayed to god and asked for forgiveness because it's so horrible and I've cried alot since ive got it done.. how do i deal wit the choice I made and move on with my life without being sad? I have nobody else to talk so thats why im on here

Answer 1

You need to seek help as far as talking about it. I honestly can say I know how you feel. Mine was a forced issue, I'm not certain of your situation. Everyday will get easier, and you'll think every year around the time that you would have been due how old that child would have been. If you need to talk, feel free to email me...
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Answer 2

Oh sweety, I know it's hard. This is something that you will deal with for a very long time - you need to accept that, that's a choice you made. But it may have been a smart one, could you provide for that baby, would it have had a good life? Just learn from your mistake, use a condon, get on birth control. The first time is a learning experience, the second time is stupidity. I can tell your very smart, becasue you feel badly about what you did, but I tell you what, if you could'nt provide for that baby, and it was a mistake, you'll learn and move on sweety, that's all you can do. Stand by your choice, i'm sure you knew what you were doing when you did it - you made the choice and stuck with it. You probably will be sad, that's normal and that's okay too. But don't let it overwhelm you, your smart, you did the right thing. Keep your chin up, it's going to get better for you!!!

Answer 3

God forgives everyone if you ask. You did the best you could do under the circumstance you were in. Nobody will look down on you. You shouldn't either. You did what you thought was best and you should be proud of yourself that you had the courage and the strenght to go through something so difficult. I know you are a good person, now you have to believe it. You are special and unique and know one can take that from you. In this whole world, there is no one else like you, that is something special. God knows how you feel and he feels your pain and he will give you the strenght to move on if you ask him. Just know that time heals everything. Chin up, be strong and know that you are part of gods kingdom and he loves you very much. I will pray for you to feel better and know that your not alone.

Answer 4

I've been through the same thing. It's the hardest thing I ever did. You've taken the first step in asking God's forgiveness. Now you have to take the second step in forgiving yourself. There is no going back or rethinking the choice you made. But moving forward, remember this moment and how you are feeling. Use it when you make future decisions in your life. Talk with the clinic you used, there may be a support group. It has helped me to talk to others who have gone through the same thing. God can and will forgive you and He will help you through this with prayer. I'll be praying for you too.

Answer 5

Well the choice was your and your alone to make.

You need to look back on why you got the abortion and see that you did it for a reason. Also I dont think at 15 you really want a baby now do you? I'm 19, I'll of just turned 20 when I give brith.

It will hurt for some time I'm sure but in the long run I think it was what you needed to do to keep your life as it is, not as a mother.

You will move on once you do have a baby when your a little older hopefully.

I, myself dont believe in abortion unless its for a good reason like yours.
I wish you the best of luck and enjoy your teenage years while you have them.

Answer 6

Awwe well dont hate yourself for it, thats the worst thing you could do and it makes it harder on you! That was the choice you made and maybe you felt that it was the right thing to do at the time! You may always feel sad and regret that decision, But Its already done...Just think of it this way, when you are older and decide to have kids one day, you'll just be extra thankful for what you've created!!...I lost my baby last year and i know what your going through, It might not be exactly the same on how we lost them but the feeling of losing a part of you is the same! but for now just look twards the future and try not to look in the past, i know its easier said than done but You will slightly heal as years go by (just not all of the way) :( over time!...keep your head up sweety!

Answer 7

You've prayed to God and asked his forgiveness. He has already forgiven you. Now you need to learn how to forgive yourself.

Here is a website that is designed for people who are going through the same thing you are:
http://www.safehavenministries.com/

You cannot change what has happened - but you can move forward and learn from this experience so you can be a better person because of it. That is what life is all about and that is how we grow to be better people.

Answer 8

yes, you made a mistake. Remember that all people make mistakes. Maybe something good can come from yours. You can be an advocate against abortion now that you know first hand what it does to people. The most important thing is asking God for forgiveness and repenting. Now do what you can to serve others in your situation. Bad mistakes will always lead to guilt but our God says that if we ask for forgiveness he is faithful and will freely forgive, no questions asked. Remember God forgives, satan relives!

Answer 9

i am sorry to hear that!

its a bad feeling for sure but honey u had to take that decision because u are young and no body will support u for that.
don't think a lot because whats done is done and u have to be careful this time. just try to help others in any small or big things and when they will be happy that u gave them a big help that they needed and say thanks then u will feel better. really.

u are young and life is full of happy surprises dear so don't stop here.

Answer 10

Well, that must have been a very difficult decision to make..I'm sorry for that...
I personally think you should have put it up for adoption, but I understand that it may have not been an option for you...
God will forgive you, but you need to talk to someone about what you have gone through. Go to your local planned parenting office, and maybe they would have a support group that would help you out...You need to talk to other kids that have been through the same thing and have made it past all the hurt... You will be okay... Hopefully you won't put yourself into another situation that you will have to do this again.
Good luck to you, and stay strong... It will be okay...