Me and my bpyfriend have been in a rocky relationship for about 2 years now. I thought we were about to work things out but to my surprise he was cheating. I spoke with the girl myself to find out all the details. She was very honest and open. Well, NEwayz I went by his home to confront him and she was there. I broke down immediatly and i've been lost ever since. Someone please help.
2007-03-13 05:50:12 · 6 answers · asked by babyjishot4ualwayz 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Did you have a heart to heart talk with your boyfriend? You must get his side before deciding whether or not to end the relationship. I doubted if the girl was really honest when she told you all the details of their affair. She may be exaggerating or making stories just to make you mad and dump your boyfriend immediately. That will surely benefit her. The mere fact that you found her in your boyfriend's home should make you doubt her intentions more. She may be the one chasing your boyfriend and not the other way around. Unless of course if he admitted that he also loves her. So, before that girl succeeds in ruining your relationship, talk to your boyfriend. Be sure that you will talk calmly so as not to provoke him. Good luck.
2007-03-13 06:37:10 · answer #1 · answered by Super_Noypi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the ladies above are right, if after two years the situation hasn't resolved into a trustworthy monogamous relationship, its not going to.
finding out the facts and facing them is definitely the right thing to do. denial does no one any good.
whats happening could be any of three things -
1. The bf is just too immature for a committed relationship. in which case dump him now.
2. The bf doesn't really love you anymore but didn't respect you enough to tell you so. in which case dump him now.
3. The bf is one of those people who really can love more than one person at same time (tho he may be confused and/or unaware of it himself). much like being gay vs straight, thats a legitimate lifestyle difference (called polyamory) that works very well for some people - but *dishonesty is not a part of that program*. (nor is inequality. it means you get just as much freedom as he does)
if this is the case, you have to look within yourself and decide if its a lifestyle that could work for you. if not, dump him now.
if so, then you have to ask yourself is it worth trying to make this very difficult thing work with someone who's been dishonest with you? if not, dump him now.
if so, then discuss it with him, and with the other woman, and see where they're at, see if you can build something worthwhile. it is possible, but only if a) its what everyone truly wants and b) everyone is unshakably honest at all times. if either of these statements isn't true, then dump him now.
2007-03-13 13:49:53 · answer #2 · answered by netizen 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If the relationship has been rocky for a while then you need to find someone else. If rocky relationships are your thing there are plenty of guys out there willing to argue and play mind games. Don't be with someone who is cheating on you.
2007-03-13 12:53:47 · answer #3 · answered by sharene h 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This may be hard for you to hear, but move on. Once a cheater, always a cheater. Sometimes you know, sometimes you get blind-sided. You will be much happier with someone else in your life that will not cheat. Hang in there it gets easier, but he is the loser, not you.
2007-03-13 13:11:56 · answer #4 · answered by stormzsecret 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all how do you even no dat she really honest wit u some of them b***es no how 2 lie wit a stright face u need 2 dump him and u can do much better than dat if wat u sayin iz true bout how no man hasn't cheated on you OKAY!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
2007-03-13 13:16:09 · answer #5 · answered by briannie w 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't cry over a loser like him, he simply isn't worth it..Find the someone who is, there are still keepers out there -- (yes, I love to dream!!)
2007-03-13 12:54:20 · answer #6 · answered by momof3 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋