im a virgen and i wanna keep it! and he wants anal sex, i never did it, so im afried, ist bad? should i say no, izt bad for my health? plz help!and dont u think its ugly?
2007-03-13 05:49:22 · 18 answers · asked by ashely m 1 in Health ➔ Women's Health
I do not know where people are getting this crazy information...or shall I say misinformation on anal sex. First of all, you should be sure this is something you want to do. Second, do a little research so you can avoid all the misconceptions surrounding anal sex. Done safely anal sex will NOT:
*Make you unable to control bowel movements
*Result in fissures
*Make the orifice any larger than it already is
*Create problems in the future
The anus is a muscle and like any other it has the ability to expand and contract. Using it, like any other muscle, will not result in loss of control or tone.
Make sure you WANT to engage in this type of activity beforehand and do not do it just to please your boyfriend, that is what his hand is for...
Use plenty of lube, relax, and ensure you are clean prior. Also, use a condom!
***Edit for Mrs. Genius***
Again, done SAFELY, anal sex will not result in fissures. Lubrication, going slow, and listening to HER will make the experience good. If the guy just sticks it in and pumps away...well, then duhhhh -- of course injury can happen! Infected fissures are very rare, do the research!
2007-03-13 15:02:20 · answer #1 · answered by Fo' Shizzle 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
you must try some of this yourself alone . you will then know if you could manage that . if you do that make sure you are very relaxed he should play there for a good long time and use lube that you got at a drug store. if he wont go in a drug store and buy both condoms and the lube then there is no way you should do this none at all.
i suggest you don't do it if you don't want to .
i suggest that you learn to use your hands and mouth to calm him down so to speak.
another thing is why don't you find something that is that same size as he is and suggest you do him first . it really is the same no difference in the physical make up male female in that department so if he says no to that then again don't do it .
i like it but i am older and i am the guy doing it so . also i am a great guy that would stop the instant a girl said stop i mean the millisecond she spoke i would stop. if you don't trust him to do that then again no way. one more thing a huge thing
is this guy a guy that might return to school and say i did .... in the a$$ if you are not 100% sure he would never ever speak of it even after you two have long since broken up then dont do it with him at least.
2007-03-17 01:31:38 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Anal sex really hurts a woman. Sex is going to be uncomfortable anyway since you are a virgin, but anal sex will hurt much more than regular sex. Tell your boyfriend that anal sex is not normal. It is a peversion, and it causes health problems. Many women can't have normal bowel movements if they frequently have anal sex. Anal sex can also cause you to bleed. The blood vessels inside the anus are very thin. Any friction will probably cause them to burst open and bleed.
2007-03-15 23:45:54 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
You should NOT have anal sex just because your boyfriend wants to do it to you.
You should wait until you are sexually active, and have had intercourse.
Anal sex will hurt. It can also damage your rectum, and cause tearing of the tissues. You can have problems when you get much older with being able to hold your bowel movements. You can become bowel incontinent----you would have to wear diapers when you are old.
Some women claim to enjoy anal sex. You must have a partner you can TRUST---NOT one who just want to have anal sex because HE wants to. You must have a partner who is caring, and will be aware of your feelings, and you must use a lubricant like K-Y.
When you are sexually experienced and older, you can decide whether you want to try it or not.
If your boyfriend REALLY cares about you--loves you--HE WILL NOT TRY TO CONVINCE YOU TO DO IT!!!!!
If you decide to do it, he MUST, MUST, MUST wear a CONDOM!!!!! You may bleed a bit from tearing, and you can get ANY type of sexually transmitted disease, like HIV, herpes, hepatitis, warts, etc.
There are other ways to have sex without penetration.
Wait till you are older and have some more confidence in yourself, and know what YOU want or need.
***I am editing this to add a response to another answer****
You CAN get anal fissures--Your rectum--yes, has muscles surrounding it, but if lining,the mucosa, tissue tears, the bacteria can cause it to become infected, and possibly result in an anal fissure.
If you have mucosal tissue tears in the recutum they heal nonparenchymally which means it heals with SCAR TISSUE which does NOT stretch anymore. This can cause problems later on with bowel control.
2007-03-13 13:17:53 · answer #4 · answered by Heather 3 · 5⤊ 0⤋
If you do anal sex I would say you wouldnt be a virgin anymore because it is some kind of penitration...
Also you should defo have normal sex befor you move onto thing like anal because you should be with a partner you trust and are confortable with for that!!!
It wont be as a good as normal sex =)
2007-03-13 13:01:43 · answer #5 · answered by 5789854322379 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I dont see what sense tht makes, if ur gonna be having anal sex....i think it would be better to have normal sex. Anal sex is much more painful so u might as well just have vaginal sex.
If ur afraid of pregnancy just ensure that he uses a condom
2007-03-13 13:48:30 · answer #6 · answered by Diamond Princess 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I'm an older experienced guy and old enough to be your dad.
I've done a lot of things and had many experiences. this is my advice ::
Listen to Heathers answer, darlin'. It's good sound advice.
Guys just need to get off and will try anything to get it. When you make love do because YOU want to . Not just for him. Don't let him talk you into it. OK?
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2007-03-17 01:00:06 · answer #7 · answered by Freesumpin 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Judging from you spelling and grammar my guess is you to young to have sex in any form. Save yourself and your first anal experience on till after your become of age. And no I don't think it's ugly but as long as you do don't do it
2007-03-15 06:17:30 · answer #8 · answered by Boston Mark 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If it's something you don't want to do, then DON'T DO IT! It could possibly be bad for your health. What if you got an anal fissure (tear)? I hear this is NOT pretty. While I consider myself to be fairly open when it comes to sex, this is one thing I have not, nor will ever do. (Ouch!!!!) If your bf tries to convince you, tell him to put something in his *&%# of equivalent size first, and see how he likes it.
2007-03-13 13:10:23 · answer #9 · answered by JulesAtWork 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Think about this for a second, you wanna do this with someone you love, that you can trust.
If he's just a pushy jerk, he'll probably be very rude about how gentle he is, or considerate, when he is doing this to you.
And it can be very painful.
Between two people, that love eachother, it can be a kink and fun, but this comes with experience, and consideration.
What he's intending to do to you, will be a very unpleasant experience for you, and pleasant for him, maybe, but at your cost.
2007-03-15 01:52:39 · answer #10 · answered by steve v 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋