I have a friend that is 10 years older then I am. He made up a name for me and dosn't call me by my real name, because he thinks of me as his little brother, I'm a girl. Also, I told him before that I like girls but I also like guys and he always calls me a dude. Everytime I try to give my opinion he always has to come back and try and give a better answer, he always thinks he's right. I always drive 40 miles to see him in my car, and on top of that I drive evrywhere when I get there. His excse is that he drives a truck, and more gas goes into that. He helps me out sometimes with gas, but I have to ask him. Sometimes I just think that he's using me. When it comes to going out and eating he never treats me, and I come out to see him all the time, and pay $4 bridge toll on top of that. Also, when I bring up the money issue he gets defensive. He never hugs me as a friend but always does a dude hndshake with me, i like to be trated like a girl too. Is he wrong?
2007-03-13 05:33:19 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
He introduces me to his family as the nickname he gave me. He told me he can't call me my real name because I'm like his little brother, and his ex has that name. I think it's part my fault because I let him do this to me, but I feel like I'm not me sometimes. Also, he's terrible with planning. When we plan to go do some things almost always it never happens, or something else comes up. For example, we went up to Tahoe in my car, and we spent most of the time driving around doing NOTHING, I wanted to go sledding, play in the snow. We didn't do any of that!
2007-03-13 05:49:17 · update #1
He is definitely wrong! Friends hug, no matter whether you're male or female and he should be paying some of those costs without you having to ask. I think the fact that your a girl means he should respect you as such. He can mess around and treat you like a dude sometimes but most of the time he should treat you like a girl--or even just as an equal.
2007-03-13 05:39:48 · answer #1 · answered by Helen L 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow, i for my area don't be responsive to what to make of this. So with the male friends i've got made right here on Gws and someplace else, fairly, i'm being egocentric because of the fact I see the two adult adult males and girls as people and that they(adult adult males) would think of i'm stringing them alongside? this is not the case in any respect. while i'm conversing to a guy, this is out of friendship, there isn't the rest occurring in my concepts and no ulterior reason. i'm not stringing them alongside or pushing them for compliments. If a guy does compliment me, I basically take it as that, not as that he's fairly drawn to me and that i don't string them alongside the two. yet I fairly have been caught out while a guy who I basically see as a chum turns around and starts off taking an pastime. i'm caught between a rock and a stressful place because of the fact I make no secret of the reality i'm married yet i don't desire to harm everyone the two and with adult adult males, i can not tell a million/2 the time besides no count if or not they're severe or not. I do attempt to enable them to down gently. Like I mentioned, i'm basically friendly with all of us, male or woman. Am I incorrect to think of so? Lioness, I hear what you're saying. :)
2016-12-19 04:32:52 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
WOW, how all this sounds so true. I hate to break it to you but yeah your right your being used. :~( it sucks and its hard to stop letting it happen cuz you consider him a "friend". Well wake up and smell the bay my friend. Just start canceling on him and when he asks why (if he even bothers) you haven't been coming around or why you've been canceling, lay it on him without him getting anything in. Its hard sometimes but you say you don't feel like yourself, well that's the problem your probably not being yourself and you have to be. Being yourself is the most important and if someone cant see you for who you are then they aren't your friend. There are so many people out there, if ONE person cant love you for who you are don't sweat it, theres two people out there who WILL love you for who you are and you will forget about that guy so fast, you be sayin WHO!
2007-03-13 06:02:20 · answer #3 · answered by lostmntgrl 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Babe Im sorry but I do think he s making use of you. The fact that he s 10 yrs older probably make him think he s the boss of you. I think you are better off without him as a friend. A friendship shd be a win-win rship.
2007-03-13 05:39:57 · answer #4 · answered by Wish 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not necessarily...its not a matter of right or wrong...just a matter of how you see yourself in that relationship...best way to do this is an ultimatum...let him know everything you told us...and reason this out so changes are made, if those changes aren't made...there will be a change...whatever that is you decide...
2007-03-13 05:41:22 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I believe he is, and I think you should stop seeing him. If he can't respect you like someone should be respected, than you should just drop him. He's treating you like his slave. You come when he calls, you drive him everywhere, you buy his food. Your kind of like a mother to a young child. If he can't repsect you, don't respect him.
2007-03-13 05:38:45 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's using you for a chauffeur and a meal ticket....find a new friend!!!!
2007-03-13 06:45:49 · answer #7 · answered by MIGHTY MINNIE 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋