Your wife after 3 kids and all the stuff that comes with marriage and family has not progressed in her job and education after 7yrs of marriage .Kids are 6yrs,2yrs and 10 days old and cheat on her with several others,reject and ignore and live your life to suit you?
2007-03-13 05:20:15 · 18 answers · asked by JUSEve 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I am the wife of this man and yes I have tried to improve myself academically but with no encouragemnet from him more like its too late for me now,as he says.I have not changed jobs but have been promoted to a more senior position.
My husband and I earn have a combined salary of £3500 a month plus what he makes from his own business of car trading. His excuse for wanting out of ths marriage is because I did not progress when he wanted me to but after I had my 1st child.
He has only started furthering his education last year and I continue to tell him that I am proud of him.I am no longer a size 10/12 more a size 14 UK.I have started furthering my education in OCCUPATIONAL HEALTH AND SAFETY but that does not seem to be enough or am i just making excuses?
2007-03-15 02:54:29 · update #1
Leave him home to babysit the kids, go out and have some fun. You need it, and you deserve it.
2007-03-13 05:45:52 · answer #1 · answered by OC 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi there
If you haven't cheated yet then my advice is don't. bringing someone else into the relationship will only add to your problems. Most people who's partners cheat feel they have to even the score by doing the same back. Its like restoring the balance and in a way it does. But it wont get you out of the mess your in. I personally would never choose a partner or want to live with someone just because they are educated or have a good job either. Money helps in any marriage but a relationship wont last just on money alone! Now if shes lazy and doesn't want to work while you provide all the money then that's a different matter. Be positive. put it all into perspective and do what you have to do. But don't make your children suffer for the decisions you make.
Regards
idai
2007-03-13 13:46:02 · answer #2 · answered by idai 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am not a man or husband so fogive me answering this one. I think maybe you are down on yourself because you just had a baby and have the blues. If you haven't progressed in your job and furthered your education you can still plan on doing those things. I guarantee you that if he leaves you that is what you will have to do.
If your husband is the one complaining then remind him that for the past seven years you have been raising a six year old, for the past 3 years you have been raising a 6 year old and a 2 year old and for the past year you have been raising a 6 year old, a 2 year old and a brand new baby.
Keep your chin up. In six months you can start working extra hard at work and maybe start taking classes toward furthering your education.
2007-03-13 12:34:28 · answer #3 · answered by sharene h 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No excuse for any husband to cheat on any wife looking after HIS children. BUT are you perhaps neglecting him ? He has had his nose put out of joint twice already................ now another new baby. Although they love their children they ARE children and do need to be treated as such !!!! Give him more attention, thank him for the lovely new baby and include him in all the care if you can. If he is a person who is not interested in child-care sharing you need to get a baby sitter once a week and give him all the attention you can, even if you are only going to see his friends/family. Good Luck, hope this is good advice.
2007-03-13 14:56:05 · answer #4 · answered by biggi 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Over 7 years I would expect you to grow as an individual - especially if you married quite young - and if you haven't (because, for example, all your time has been taken up with childcare) then there are going to be problems. Those problems don't justify going and cheating, but they do make it more likely.
Look at yourself objectively - are you still as interesting and attractive to your husband as you were ? And no, not just physically. If not - what can you do to make yourself more so ? How can you change for the better to either (a) reaffirm your partners interest (b) rebuild your self-esteem and (perhaps) (c) find a better alternative ?
2007-03-13 12:28:05 · answer #5 · answered by misbehave4me 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
10 days old?!?! What a heartless bastard!
I certainly hope this is a hypothetical question. The reason her job and education has not progressed is becuase she was having your babies. If there had been NO children then the goals would probably be met by now.
2007-03-13 12:29:50 · answer #6 · answered by Poppet 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would not cheat on my wife.....Never ever...
If I wanted out of the marriage, I would divorce her...
Cheating is beneath my character...
I would not have a problem with my wife not continuing
her education or not advancing at work..
I would not even care if she worked or not, being a
housewife is enough work...
2007-03-13 12:29:02 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
None of these reasons seems to come close to even justifying that type of conduct. Sorry. Probably wans't the answer you were looking for but that's my take on it.
2007-03-13 12:24:48 · answer #8 · answered by Quasimodo 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There has to be more to the story than just that. I don't think we can give a fair answer to this question with only your side of the story.
2007-03-13 12:24:03 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
what who cheats the wife or the husband because if someone cheats on you that should be the end of that
2007-03-13 12:23:37 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋