I recently moved to the Big Apple after college. I 've been staying w family (My sis & her bf) since Jan. I got a job and have been saving to move out. Well, just last week, I get an ultimatum. I have til April 1 to find a place, mind you its already March 13th. or I go bac hme. I have been very respectful of their space and cook for them etc. My work schedule is such that I don't see them in the morning and I get home late, so its not like i am invading their space. My point is that I think that they are setting me up to fail because it is so difficult to find a place to live in this city. I've started looking for places but since it is my first place I am a little unsure about what to look for. I really miss home (another state) and am afraid that if I go back I will be scrutinized by everyone for being a "baby". I am really confused. I have this amazing job and don't want to leave it. Commuting costs too much $ w/ the $ i saved I hav i want to have somthn to show for, a car . hlp
2007-03-13 05:18:11 · 12 answers · asked by workaholic 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
that makes no sense that they are now giving you an ultimatum...are you helping them w/ some of their rent and utilites?
i would let your sis know that you don't have enough time to find a place...suggest that you and she go out and look together...she can help you...maybe if you give her a revised date she will be ok with that if you tell her how much you love it there.
Good luck.
2007-03-13 05:21:55 · answer #1 · answered by Niffer 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have been staying with your sis now for over 3 months. Just how long does it take to find a place to live. I imagine that they think you are stalling so they are giving you some incentive to get moving. It would be a good idea to sit down and talk to them calmly and set things straight. First of all, thank them for all the help they have been giving. One question....have you been offering any help with the bills while there? or do you just go out and party all the time and taking advantage of the situation?
2007-03-13 05:27:56 · answer #2 · answered by jimmer256 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am originally from vermont and experienced the same problems! Dont give up, i would first lok on Craigs list for apartments.
queens areas that are good:Middle Village, Kew Gardens
Forest hills
Brooklyn: Bayridge, Prospect park, williamsberg bridge
Apartments are cheaper if you find private ownership or call owner. Try to avoid realty companies, waste of money.
I have lived in the city now for 12 years between brooklyn and queens. I know the city like the back woods of Vermont, good areas and bad. You can email me if you need more suggestions
2007-03-13 05:28:42 · answer #3 · answered by chemreaction 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Possibly ask your sister if she thinks it's reasonable to ask you to move out within such a short span of time~ is it her or her boyfriend or both making this ultimatum for you? Did you explain your financial situation to her?
As for moving back to your home state, why not? who is going to call you a baby? I live in New York state and living in this state in not "cheap" and I know the city is far higher for rents etc...If you feel uncomfortable about moving back and answering people just say it was too much money and you are not ready financially to live there "yet" ~ and just a word of advice....stop worrying about what other's think of you...until they are in your situation they shouldn't voice their opinion and if they do, it shouldn't bother you...AND there is nothing wrong with missing home! Hope it works out for you.
2007-03-13 06:01:42 · answer #4 · answered by 2179 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-02 01:26:56 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
answering a one sided question here....Its the money your making and saving that's the problem...your sister or her boyfriend must have said something about you not giving up any loot...I say this only because you didn't mention that you contribute to the rent and your saving to get your own place. And by you mentioning how your family considers you being "babyish"...sounds as if your not doing your share. Maybe your not cleaning up the room they let you sleep in ...or your not washing dishes or a dish after you've used it or your spending money on frivilous stuff...sounds like someone has a pet peeve with you. Think about it....there is something that your doing...that they are not liking.... fix that and you'll have a little extra time to get your own place.
2007-03-13 05:34:00 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
What was the REASON they gave you? I mean as far as moving out? They just up and said OKAY TIME FOR YOU TO GO?
Have you looked into sharing an apartment with anyone else? Have any friends at work that may be able to let you stay with them until you find your own place?
2007-03-13 05:40:32 · answer #7 · answered by SecretFriend 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Start asking co-workers if they know of any studio rentals or rooming house availability. Check local newspapers, especially in the 5 boroughs for affordable rentals. If you live in the boroughs you don't even NEED a car! It would be a shame to have to go back home, esp. now, when you're doing well. Good luck!!!
2007-03-13 05:26:42 · answer #8 · answered by napqueen 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If NYC is too expensive for you -- try Brooklyn, Queens, Staten Island, Bronx. Get the Sunday papers and check the classifieds. These places are a subway ride away and they are great places to live -- full of life and culture.
Explore the areas they are great!!!
Good Luck -- YOU CAN DO IT!!!
2007-03-13 05:33:14 · answer #9 · answered by Only Me 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you have to do whats in your heart, forget about what other people may think, you don't get any where in life if you don't take the bull by the horns and go for it, its better to regret something you have done than to live a life of regret for all the things you wanted to do but never did, your worried about what other people might say - but you never will really know what they think, you will have probably achieved more than them anyway, good luck and go for it if it makes you happy x
2007-03-13 05:24:02 · answer #10 · answered by Charlotte S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋