I had asked a question about my husbands ex. I talked to his friend the other day and he had said that my husbands ex had told him that she has been having dreams about him and that she is jealous of me etc etc. That the reason she hasnt let go is because my husband never really pulled the plug he never said leave me alone dont talk to me and all of that. I dont find that as an excuse wouldnt you think after almost a year of not talking she should have forgotten about him anyway. My question for this is I dont think he should go back and tell her not to talk to him and all of that i think he should leave it alone and move on like we have been doing. I think going back and saying what he shouldve said will cause problems what do you all think
2007-03-13 05:06:52 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I think all you need is a little affirmation. I think your last sentence is dead on...let sleeping dogs lie; her hang-ups are no longer your or your husband's problem.
2007-03-13 05:12:20 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
He shouldn't have to tell her to leave him alone, the fact that he married you should tell her that. Why is he talking to her? If he is talking to her, he needs to tell her that he is married now and he wants nothing to do with her, and he should not talk to her. If he is not talking to her--then move on with your lives and forget all about her. She can live in her own fantasy world and as long as they have no contact--who cares what wacky dreams she has? You are his wife now, and she needs to know that.
2007-03-13 12:12:38 · answer #2 · answered by Audrey C 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Does he want to go back and end it for her properly, if so you could go with him some people need to be told face to face that its over, she may be harbouring feeling for him and needs him to tell her so she can get her life on track, some people find it very hard to move on without this be gentle she may have really loved him, your the lucky one you have him
2007-03-13 12:13:56 · answer #3 · answered by yah yah sisterhood 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I agree with you. If he forgotten about her and hasn't talked to her, she should have taken the hint. It is not necessary to dig up things from the past, b/c if he does that, that'll make her think that he is still thinking of her and it'll make the situation worse.
2007-03-13 12:12:32 · answer #4 · answered by China Doll 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I agree completely, just keep looking forward. Who cares if his ex has moved on or not? You two keep on keepin on. When she starts stepping in the middle of you two then say something, as long as she's on the outside yacking, who cares.
2007-03-13 12:13:48 · answer #5 · answered by walker9842 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
she needs to hear for her self that he has moved on.If he writes her that should not be a big problem. Then you dont have to worry about a face to face meeting between the to.
So give her what she needs its called closer.She really has no end to the storie and she need that so gie it to her. good luck
2007-03-13 12:13:08 · answer #6 · answered by furby_lost 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I agree with you. Why go open up closed doors? There's no need to verbally state what's already been stated by actions.
2007-03-13 12:11:07 · answer #7 · answered by Royalhinney 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I agree with your approach, and your reasoning.
2007-03-13 12:10:38 · answer #8 · answered by whatevit 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
She NEVER got any closure...just words will help, a letter, call etc.
2007-03-13 12:10:28 · answer #9 · answered by rhonda_seiler 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋