Bullying, I think??

Question

I have never been bullied or anything, but I have only a close group of friends. Now, other people, mainly led by one lad - there's about 5 of them altogther - has started calling me stuff. It started when I entered Year 10, and people started to say that i'm like gay (which i'm not) and since everyone uses it as an insult, I never thought much of it, till the teacher in maths has sat this lad and another one together and I can here them saying stuff about me. I'm starting to worry, since i'm not a violent person. The reason for calling me this? 2 of my friends are girls (i'm male) and I don't do PE - since i'm not allowed for medical reasons.
I'm getting really worried and starting to think it's bullying.
I can't talk to my parents, it doesn't seem comfortable, or at school there's no staff I trust.

Advice please???

Answer 1

yes, rumors and remarks is bullying if it imtimidates you or puts your down. i know its hard but seriously the best thing to do is ignore them. if you start talking back to them it will only make it worse. keep your close friends close and explain to a friend you trust that what is going on bothers you. as long as your real friends support you, screw everybody else. violence isnt the answer, and if it gets to the point that you feel threatened and cant take it anymore, talk to a staff member. that kind of behavior shouldnt be tolerated.

Answer 2

I wouldn't consider this bullying, since there is no physical contact being made, but it most definatley is verbal abuse. Just as a parent might call a child a loser, this is also verbal abuse. Surely there is someone, say a counselor, at your school you could speak to about this. As far as trust, it has to start somewhere, and now is as good a time as any to form a relationship with a counselor that might help you through your remaining years of school. Good Luck

Answer 3

If someone's giving you hell and you don't like it, and you're not particularly friends with the person who's doing it? Uh, yeah. That's bullying, all day long.

Though there's nothing wrong with having girl-friends, I'd say get some guy friends and quit being such a pansy about PE. I mean, unless you're paralyzed from the waist down or you're missing a lung, there's no reason for you to get out there and do some situps.

So grow a backbone and deal with these bullies!

Bullies, (by the way,) pick on other people for three reasons.
1. It's fun
2. It's easy
3. It's free

Don't let it happen to you!

Answer 4

Find someone whom you can confide in, dont go through this on your own. These boys are probably just jealous of you because you have friends who are girls. You really should talk to your parents or a teacher to sort it out before it goes any further and to stop you feeling upset and uncomfortable

Good Luck

Answer 5

babe what you describe is bullying for sure, my son suffered the same kind of abuse, why? because all of his friends are girls, i think it is just jealousy on their part, my son has more female frinds because he says that they are more mature and do not judge him for not being into all the rough things that he is "supposed" to be into, this worried him for a while too, and i gave him the same advice, just ignore them, i know that sounds so cliched but it is true, they obviously have nothing better to do with their time than to make other people miserable, they are very immature and very sad, please dont let it affect you this way because they will soon get bored, particularly if you dont react to their pathetic attempts at trying to look "super cool" just look at the freindships that you have and the family you have because you are clearly well balanced and mature enough to seek advice, they will grow up at some point,please carry on and laugh at them just reply with "check you out lothario" and laugh, i promise they will tire soon enough and people like that are not worth worrying about, concentrate on your studies and forget about them, if it gets physical obviously speak to a teacher and get it nipped in the bud, good luck hun you will be fine i promise things will get better . emma

Answer 6

Just talk your concerns to your form teacher or place them in a suggestion box asking if it could be announced who is the appropriate teacher overseeing bullying in the school.

It will probably be easier to talk to your parents who may be able to approach the school on your behalf.

Bullying is bullying - it doesn't matter if you are gay or not.

Answer 7

well you know what be the bigger person and ignore them.they can talk all they want but you're doing the better and right thing by not getting involved with people like that. and yes i think it is getting to the point of it being bullying but like i said be the better person.if it continues and finally they have the guts to say things to your face then tell them to grow up

Answer 8

Tell them that they're jealous because you don't have to take PE and you get to hang out with the girls. Stand up to them before it gets out of hand and it will stop.

Answer 9

remember this....bullies are spineless cowards who only go around in gangs, they NEVER do this on their own...my son was bullied and i always told him that bullies will go no where in their lives and he is better than them, he will be successful and they will be the same little gutter rats that they have always been throughout their miserable lives, my son i now in the navy, he has a fantastic job, he travels the world he has money, he has his own home, he has a nice car and a great life ahead of him...the bullies have nothing, and they will continue to have nothing...in my eyes, i see bullies as trash from the gutter and nothing more...they are the scum of the earth and just cowards....so if your being bullied, do not retaliate....just get away from them and go around with decent people...my son is 20 tomorrow and i am so proud of him, these bullies are STILL claiming benefits, taking drugs and living in pokey little bedsits with nothing....you will be successful if you get away from that lot...you HAVE to talk to someone, maybe go see your head master and get these little cretins dealt with before it gets completely out of hand...try to avoid them if you can, ignore their stupid comments..... they are worth nothing....stay away from them if you can...they lack brain cells...i blame the parents...thick parents...thick kids....

Answer 10

your not gay. this is a classic case of bullying though. you need to talk to the staff at your school even though it is hard because you dont really know how they will react, your parents need to be alerted also.