Who else was spending the night on the couch last night because of a fight? Share your stories.. Did you wake up angry this morning? Do you think it's better to sleep beside your partner when you're mad or to spend the night on the couch instead (or make them sleep there).
I know you shouldn't go to bed angry but he was tired and we didn't have time to resolve our argument before bedtime.
I'm still mad this morning. How about you?
2007-03-13 04:39:55 · 25 answers · asked by •√¡rgő• 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
not me but I've been there and done that....I think the couch is like a timeout for adults...you definately think about why you were fighting while you get an uncomfortable sleep....sux especially if you have to work the next day :(
2007-03-13 04:43:31 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Let me tell you something, of almost 10 years of being together, my Wife and I have never ever slept on the couch.
We do have fights like all couples, but we have learned that talking we can understand each other, so we talk and we express our feelings right there. If one of us did something wrong, the other right away speaks up. Sometimes we get mad, but we talk and try to find solutions. And we always end up forgiving each other, and apologizing too, even if is not my fault or hers.
Fights are for animals, so we should leave it like that. We have the ability to talk, and understand, so why can’t we just use it?
I recommend you not to go to bed mad. If you guys are sleepy, well, too bad, your relation is a much more important thing that an extra hour of sleep. Nobody is gonna die if you sleep a little bit less, but the relation can die if trouble is always up in the air.
We have gone to bed being mad, don’t think we are perfect, but usually is for something very insignificant, not a mayor real problem, and still, we end up holding each other in bed most of the time.
Just think of it, and think if what you are fighting for is really worth it, and if is actually something important or just something stupid. I gurantee you 90% of the time is going to be something stupid. Otherwise, then you do have a problem in the relation, because fighting all the time is not normal, not for important things. Those have to be discussed, not fighting.
Good luck, and make sure to sleep in bed with him tonight.
2007-03-13 04:53:46 · answer #2 · answered by Dan D 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
BECAUSE YOU ASK: When my wife gets angry with me, it is best that she tell me about her position and go to bed.
I do not resolve anything when I am tired. If you try to make me talk about it at that time, a greater mess is make of the condition than if it is left until I am refreshed.
If my wife is angry when she wakes up in the morning, she will have to resolve it when she can. I can not spend time worrying about her feelings, while I am working. Just about everything I do is aimed at support for my family. That includes sports with the guys, (this is the group I draw on for help to build the things around the house).
NO I CAN NOT AFFORD CALLING A CONTRACTOR. Marriage is stress, but just because one person is stressed out does not mean that everybody has to be stressed out. Stress does not equate to Love.
2007-03-13 04:57:29 · answer #3 · answered by whatevit 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I didn't sleep on the couch but we did both go to bed mad. I hate it. I'm still mad this morning and he probably knew it because conversation was kept to a minimal. We didn't resolve aything either! I think it's best to go to bed even if you're mad, sleeping on the couch doesn't change anything so atleast be grown up and sleep on the bed where you should be.
2007-03-13 04:44:03 · answer #4 · answered by lovin' life... 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
WOW!! BEEN there alot!! My guy doesn't have time to talk at night either, but he will argue ALL the way up until then. I always believed in the golden rule of not going to bed mad...SCREW that! I would not sleep, going over things said and I still want to say, sleeping terribly on the edge of the bed or with my fists clenched........I still will be mad in the morning even tho he acts fine. Wait fella....I will write it all down that night to get it out of my system and leave the note where he can see it in the morning.
2007-03-13 04:47:02 · answer #5 · answered by rhonda_seiler 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I went to bed angry but still slept in our bed. If you choose to sleep elsewhere it can make things worse because it is a singnal to your partner that you are blocking all communication - verbal and physical. It makes it that much harder to resolve the issue the next morning. I only advocate sleeping in seperate rooms if an argument escalates to a point where each partner needs to cool down because they are losing it.
2007-03-13 04:57:59 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Never sleep on the couch. It just allows you to put more distance in your relationship. If you can't resolve the problem before you go to sleep, agree to discuss it in the morning.
2007-03-13 06:03:19 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I have never slept on the couch either. You should never go to bed angry, resolve all problems before bed.
2007-03-13 04:44:01 · answer #8 · answered by mikentammy76 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Only occasionally will I sleep on the couch, and I have usually blown off steam before I wake up so I am not mad anymore.
2007-03-13 04:43:09 · answer #9 · answered by Nikki 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I slept on the couch while my mother was visiting. That was very uncomfortable. Since she has left, I have my own separate room again, away from my wife. It has been like this for 2 years now.
It is seldom a fight, but her snoring, ignoring me, and not wanting to be intimate that led me to my own room. Soon, it will be a separate house.
2007-03-13 05:56:01 · answer #10 · answered by Tex 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋