so, i've been in touch with my ex and asked him what he expected from me and he told me that he wanted something further and to take it slow to see if this is what I really want but he also understood that I have a boyfriend at the moment. you see we dated a few years back but never really finished it, just drifted apart. does he sound genuine? i still have feelings for him as he was my first, but i'm also in love with my bf. my bf and i have been on a rocky patch and we are working on it and part of me wants to jump at the chance. help!!!!
2007-03-13 04:17:43 · 16 answers · asked by nc 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
First of all there is always a reason why you split in the first place. you are probably looking back on your previous relationship with rose tinted glasses cos things aren't going well with your current boyfriend. But what you should really do is either sort out your current relationship or end it. Using your ex as a escape route is just proves your obviously not mature enough to be in a relationship.
2007-03-13 04:25:06 · answer #1 · answered by lmryan 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
This is a very tempting offer but he is your ex for a reason, whether or not you split up intentionally last time, you drifted apart for a reason. Maybe he wants you because he knows you are with someone else? Some men just like the chase more than anything. At least with your current boyfriend you know he is with you because he wants to be. You say you have been through a rough patch recently, so any other offer will seem tempting, think very carefully on this. Is he really worth jeopardising your new relationship for? Is old ground worth going over?
2007-03-13 11:29:40 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Two very useful things/sayings to try and remember:
The grass is always greener, and be careful what you wish for.
If you were so in love with this guy, would it not have been prudent to have worked at the initial relationship with your first, but then i suppose it's better to have loved and lost aye ??
I wouldn't shoot anybody down, but that's just my humble opinion, and i just want to wish you the best of luck.
As final thoughts, i've heard it said that it just wasn't the right time, or to the contrary, it felt right at the time.
When in truth, ultimately things either work or don't. All to often it is never the same second time around, and we sometimes view things through rose coloured glasses.
However we cannot help who we love so whatever your choices/decisions i hope you end up being happy with them.
Take care .... Michael
2007-03-16 12:32:30 · answer #3 · answered by godsadvocate 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it wouldn't work even if you did go back to your ex you cant just jump from one to the other like that your feelings will be all over the place give it time with your man and forget your ex he couldn't make you happy the first time so why go back for more? trust me you will only be hurting yourself this ex and the man your with just now give it time with your man if it doesn't work then have a break to be on your own and then see if your ex is still waiting for you.
2007-03-13 11:32:09 · answer #4 · answered by suzy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You sound confused. Why do you want to reconcile with your bf but are getting in touch with your ex? Stop playing both sides of the street. Maybe you need time out by yourself to decide what to do with your life.
2007-03-13 11:22:05 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
grass is always greener.......
i'd keep things firmly platonic fo rnow with ex. after all, what message are you giving him about trust of you're going to date him on the side??
you are an adult now and cant have your cake and eat it. imagine if your current b/f did this to you, how would you feel?
if you love your b/f , then try and make it work. when i go thru rough patches i often think of my exs, but if we were meant to be together we still would be! and they had bad sides/periods/etc, so take off rose-tinted specs, think long & hard, make your decision and stcik to it.
you wouldnt want to be messed around like this, so dont do it to them.
2007-03-13 11:27:12 · answer #6 · answered by hedgewitch 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you love the guy your with be true to him, and give this one a chance. You already drifted from the other one you said so maybe it happened for a reason.
2007-03-13 11:21:42 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
People drift apart when they have nothing in common. My advise is to stay with your current guy and find things you can do together rather than endless talking.
2007-03-13 11:25:32 · answer #8 · answered by nursesr4evr 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
not really sure about the ex, but if your looking at other men, then i'm pretty sure the guy your with, isnt the one for you. its cruel to stay with him if you know your not in love. let him go so he can find someone that will love him as much as he loves them
2007-03-13 11:25:38 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Jump!
2007-03-13 11:22:22 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋