My life is this: Go to work, see my boyfriend, go home and sleep and see him basically all weekend. May 25/07 will be our 6yr anniversary. we do EVERYTHING together. dinners, movies, clubs, gym, recreational activities, board games, watch TV. etc. we are always together, but we have fun. We are each other's best friend and we enjoy each other's company more than anyone.
yes, we have our alone time, but I have no friends and the thing is I don't really care. Everyone tells me that I need to have my own life as well and go out, meet people, have fun... on my own. Are they right? are we in an unhealthy relationship? I sometimes ignore people or choose to be with him instead.
Right now we are working on creating our own business and we have no time for anyone else anyways. really I don't see what's wrong with this......
2007-03-13 04:16:52 · 33 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
no.........it is better to have other people in your world also. what if something happens to him, who will you turn to
2007-03-13 04:20:16 · answer #1 · answered by ladybug 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ok, you are happy with your life, but to answer your question, no is not healthy.
The reason can vary, but let me give you some ideas:
You said you have no other friends. That can be bad. You need to have at least one more friend besides him. It is usually better if is another girl in your case, but not necessary. The reason is simple, you can share some girl time with her, and talk about things that re better to talk with other girls, just like he should have some guy friends as well. It is a way to have variety in your life.
Another reason to not to be centered into each other, is life itself. What would happen if tomorrow he dies? You know it could happen, an accident, sickness. We are not perfect, and we can die any time and you know that. I do not wish that to nobody, but think what would happen to you. You would probably want to die too. And if you don’t have friends and family to support you, you can end up committing suicide. Do you think he would have wanted that for you? I don’t think so.
If he doesn’t have friends either, I would suggest trying to meet other couples, or try to make common friends. Don’t forget, friends could be many, but real friends you can count them with your fingers. And you want to have a little bit of each world.
Another thing about your life: it really seems to me (as per what you wrote) that you two are almost 24/7 together. That can be also bad. You two need more time of your own. Otherwise, one day you will realize you have no life as an individual, and then what?
You go everywhere with him, and now you are opening business together. It can be good, but be careful, and don’t mix business with personal life. At work, you two should be professionals and act as two workers, not lovers. Is difficult, but a must. Otherwise, work problems will become house problems, and you two will end up fighting all the time.
To give you an example, take mine. My wife and I also are very close, we are best friends, and we barely have any friends. We used to go together everywhere. And we tried our own business together.
To make it short, the business was working good, but we would spend half the day only together, the rest I would go do something else or she would go to classes. We closed it for other reasons, but while open we had a good time as long we didn’t spend all day long together. And we now go out more alone, and we have more friends than before. We go out clubbing many weekends either the two of us, or with friends, and we usually have a much better time when we go with friends.
We have learned that we are very good together, but we also need a little time of our own, and it good, and revitalizing. I love it when one of us has to travel alone, because when we get back, we make love all night long.
Trust me, try at least to find some friends, and do some activities by yourself. You will feel good, and he will too!
Good luck, and have fun!
2007-03-13 04:40:13 · answer #2 · answered by Dan D 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The advice you have gotten is correct. You and your friend need to talk about the real problems of life. You are starting a business together, and are intimate with each other. I don't think you know what his opinion is about tong panties on hippos.
The point of the statement is "that you and your friend is avoiding the important questions that have to be answered before there can be a commitment to a relationship. Does your friend think that your engagement ring should be over or under a carat? If you don't know, it is because you never asked. If he does not know if you like treks in the wild or baking on a beach, you have never really talked.
Although these subjects are outrageous, they permit us (both male and female) a safe zone to cover important subjects. Woman that does not want to live in a High Rise; often wants a (small little house with lots of grounds). This is her way of saying that she does not want to live in a city.
2007-03-13 04:38:51 · answer #3 · answered by whatevit 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I have a relationship that is very different, we spend time together but we do many things apart. We have different friends, and different hobbies. When we do spend time together it is great. The only thing that may become a problem is if sometime in the future you break up. Who will you turn to? You will be so attached to him and spending all your time with him it will make life after him seem much harder to deal with. I suggest you try doing a few activities apart, you may find that you enjoy your time together much more!
2007-03-13 04:23:13 · answer #4 · answered by Nikki 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if your happy who cares what anyone says although if your happy why are you asking. do you crave more or less from this relationship. maybe marriage children at some point who knows only you. figure things out. why don't you live together this relationship is a bit odd to say the least. maybe this a power couple relationship or a showship meant to impress others are you 2007 yuppies who only care about money.why not try a get back to the basics nature approach to your relationship you sound jaded,you need friends besides your boyfriend thats for sure. the every one that tells you are they family well good luck
2007-03-13 04:57:49 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's good you have your "alone time", and it's good you feel like your each other's best friends, but what I am missing in all this gobley-**** description is what you love about this person: you failed to describe character traits and attitude.
It may very well be that since you are "creating your own business" that you have time constraints that prevent social networking, and that networking will come with time (after the business is established).
In short, it's impossible for me to determine if this is "healthy" because you left out the important and relevant elements: character and attitude.
2007-03-13 04:34:49 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
At first I was thinking stalker. But once I read past the headline it sounds like everything is well balanced with you two. He is not really the center of your world. He is more like the ocean. Covering the world with land so you can come up for air.
My husband and I have been married 5 years and are still the same way. Work(together), home, do most stuff together. But we still do things apart. He likes to fish I like to stitch and play video games. As long as you have you time to that is all that matters. That and time for family.
2007-03-13 04:22:35 · answer #7 · answered by puggylover 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If the two of you have already been together for almost 6 years, the last thing you should be worrying about is if you have a unhealthy relationship and that your spending too much time together. Although it is good to have your own interests and spend time with others. It's also really great to be able to spend that much time with eachother and not constantly fight.
2007-03-13 04:25:47 · answer #8 · answered by ♥Ashley 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it feels right, then it probably is. Go with your gut. By the way, if more "couples" out there enjoyed each others company as much as you two seem to, there would be a lot fewer divorces out there. Before he is your husband, he needs to be your friend. It sounds to me like you have a best friend. Be happy you do, and enjoy every minute you have.
2007-03-13 04:29:17 · answer #9 · answered by nonametomention 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
heloooooooooo,wake up,it is so nice that there is someone to share your life with but what will you or your boyfriend do if he gets something bad or forced by strong reason to go far from each other as an urgent work trip ?i'm sorry but life isn't fair enough so you have to prepare yourself.a new friend is a healthy and a good idea for both of you .I encorage you tohave your own life and so dose your boyfriend.
2007-03-13 05:02:30 · answer #10 · answered by moon light 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It would be healthy to have at least one friend or hobby outside of the relationship. At least you know that if anything goes wrong (I know you're quite happy now but things happen) you have a shoulder to lean on in bad times or something to keep your mind occupied if you end up by yourself.
PS Congrats on the anniversary when it comes!
2007-03-13 04:23:58 · answer #11 · answered by dirkthesmirk 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋