I'm 23 weeks pregnant with my first. It's a boy. His father and I are very close and we've been dating for 4 years. We are very much in love and are so happy for our new little boy. I'm just scared to be a mom. I want him to be a happy baby. I want to take him to do things. I don't want him to resent me. I want to be able to take care of him and soothe him when he cries. Will this come naturally cause thinking about it now...Really, I can't even IMAGINE what this will be like with a brand new baby in my life. It's impossible for me to imagine, but I already love him so much and I can't wait until he is born. Do all first time mom's feel this way?
2007-03-13 04:02:17 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
Yes, a lot of moms feel this way there 1st pregnancy from the way you are talking I have no doubt you will be a great mom!!! Anybody who is this concerned obviously loves their baby very much and wants the best for them which is what you'll give him!! In a few years you'll be getting little hand made pics #1 Mom from your son!!Congratulations!!!
2007-03-13 04:13:17 · answer #1 · answered by houtskc 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, it's so natural to be scared about becoming a mother. I remember when my son was a little baby, i was even scared to cross the road, cause i didn't want anything to happen to me, thinking what was gonna be of my baby.
Anyway, you are allowed to be scared, but after crying a little bit, read as much as you can, talk to other mothers as long as you can, do your best, and that's all you can do.
Mothers and Fathers will have flaws and will make some mistakes on the way, we haven't got a degree or even studied to be parents so don't be so harsh on your self. And as long as you do your work with love, and togheter, i'm sure everything will be ok.
This is the more important responsabily you are going to have in your whole life, this is a little person who will be depending on you for a long time, and even more, being an adult he will always will have the education he received from you as the tool for life. But if god sends you this baby, he know that you can do it!
2007-03-13 11:10:19 · answer #2 · answered by Popocatepetl 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
lol you are completly normal and having the worries that every new parent has. i can honestly tell you as a mom of 4 boys and 25 week with another boy, the best thing you can give them is LOVE. thats what they crave, need and want more than anything else in this world. You will never be able to buy love. This baby will bring so much joy and love into your lives and im sure he will make you and your man so much stronger together, The bond will be nothing you could ever imagin. Its amazing. You will never be a "perfect" mom and you will learn as you go just as we all have. Try your best and trust me alot of it will come naturally :) Goodluck and congrats!!!
Mom of 4 boys and 25 weeks with boy 5!!
2007-03-13 11:10:11 · answer #3 · answered by jess_n_flip 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh yes, you sound like I felt before my son was born. He is now 4 mo old and I still worry about how "good" I am doing as a mother. I was even scared to bring him home from the hospital. I had no clue on how to take care of a newborn, but for the most part, it comes completely natural. I breastfed for about 8 weeks. I was having problems with not producing enough milk and with him latching on so I put him on formula. That's when I got postpardum but I pulled myself back up and seiing him everyday gave me the strength to move on. I guess I would have to say it's instinct and it will kick in. My husband and I are greatly enjying our first child and so far he has been healthy and everything is great. If you ever need someone to talk to you can email me. That's what I have found to help me a lot is talking to my friends when I have doubts or issues. Also, there are lots of internet sites set up for mother's, like support groups. Try
www.newmomnetwork.com and good luck
2007-03-13 11:51:57 · answer #4 · answered by stephanie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A lot of new moms feel this way! You are not alone! No one really knows what is going to happen when their baby comes, and we all want the best for our babies! Once you hold that little boy for the first time, you will just KNOW what is best for him. Follow you instincts, and they will come, I promise you! This is a very normal feeling. Just love your baby, and things will be okay! :-)
2007-03-13 11:08:28 · answer #5 · answered by One Race The Human Race 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
thats completely normal and most things come instictivly so dont worry, also thers so many resources out there now ad day, online and in books nad u have ur pediatrician to call for anything, not just health issues. When ppl say babies dont come with manuals there wrong cuz now a days theres so much u cna read on and whatnot, dont worry aboutit, im sure u will be fine
2007-03-13 11:11:16 · answer #6 · answered by cudybug 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, we do. I was completely pooping my pants before I had my boy. Worried about not knowing what he wanted when he cried, how to feed him, changing his diaper, and anything else. Even what he should wear to sleep in!!!!! Then he was born, and instinct kind of took over. Saying that, I still wonder about things that aren't going to happen for YEARS!!!!
Just sit back, enjoy these last peaceful months, and everything'll work out great. Oh, one thing. Don't pay too much attention to books. You're the mum, not that book!!!
2007-03-13 11:10:11 · answer #7 · answered by keenbritchick 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You sound pretty normal to me. Love that baby and nurture him. Read to him, talk to him, stimulate him. The mommy instinct will kick in. Don't make yourself miserable and beat yourself up when you are in question. Ask someone for advice or help. We have all been there and I am sure you will be the best new mommy there is.
2007-03-13 11:12:06 · answer #8 · answered by mimegamy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i was 17 when i had my first son and yes i think all mothers feel this way. at least i know i did. i dont think you will be a bad mom and yes everything will just come naturally. i mean i didnt know what to do when i found out i was pregnant. but then when he came you just knew what to do. its kinda like common sense.
2007-03-13 11:08:29 · answer #9 · answered by lindz 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OH MY GOD YES! I'm 21 weeks w/ a little girl & I've got all these silly thoughts going through my head....How bad will I screw her up? Can I really handle a diaper change? What if I drop her? Will she trust me when she gets older?
I'm sure everyone goes through this. We're just going to have to trust in ourselves that we're going to do the best job we can :)
2007-03-13 11:07:38 · answer #10 · answered by Tracy 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋