I was together with this guy, Joey, for 5 months on and off. He was perfect for me. Never hurt me in any way. He really did show that he loved me in every way. But after 3 months things were getting old for me so I did the stupid thing of saying I wanted a break. During the break I messed around with my ex-bf a little bit when I was drunk and stupid so the next day I told Joey about it because I felt so bad and I know it's wrong to lie. After I told him things got very weird. We never really talked as much and he said he just needed some time to trust me again and then we could work things out. Over this past weekend two guys (attractive, nice, etc) asked me out and I said no because I finally realized I really do love Joey. So Sunday when I got off work I called him and a little bit into the conversation he told me he doesn't love me anymore, at all. That he is still attacted to me, but no in love anymore. I guess I screwed up so much that I ruined something really great. Now what?
2007-03-13 03:53:44 · 7 answers · asked by xfallendaysx 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I was stupid before thinking that a break would be good. I was being selfish. I really feel like I love him with all my heart and if I had another chance with him I wouldn't do anything to screw it up again. But if he says he doesn't love me anymore than what's the point?
2007-03-13 04:03:34 · update #1
I'm just tired of crying.
2007-03-13 05:33:58 · update #2
Tell Joey you realize that you don't deserve him and you've behaved very badly, but that you know that you have made a mistake and you would do anything you can to have him forgive you. Tell him how you feel about him and ask him to forgive you.
If he doesn't love you and can't forgive you, then you have no choice but to move on with a life lesson learned. You can't mess around with other guys and expect the sweet guy you love to be waiting at home for you. If you love him, commit to him and be only with him. If you can't manage to do that, then maybe you need to re evaluate if you really love him.
You seem to be a little lukewarm in the past about the relationship (you said it was on and off and you got bored), so I think you need to sit down and honestly ask yourself if you really love this man or if you're just afraid of losing something and convincing yourself it's love.
2007-03-13 04:00:50 · answer #1 · answered by LuckyDucky 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
5 months is not long enough to know whether someone is "perfect" for you. You'll know that in about two years at least! You're ego is hurt because he took a stand and said that he doesn't love you anymore. I think his ego is bruised as well since you told him you messed around. If you really want him, go for it and keep trying to prove that you can be trusted. It will take a long time but if he's willing to try then it's worth it. However, if you are young, and I'm assuming you are, you will probably once again be attracted by someone else once the newness of the relationship you has wears off. Start out by trying to be friends with him and see where it goes. Good luck.
2007-03-13 04:12:45 · answer #2 · answered by dancergalny 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you still love Joey, pursue him. Let him know you have decided that "he is the man for you". If this is not the way you feel, LET HIM GO.
The moment you decide which way you want to go, everything will fall into place. Before you and Joey separated, did you talk about marriage? Did you tell him what you want in a marriage; did he tell you what he want? If the answer is no, there is an ocean of discussion that both of you have to enter and cross; before anyone can discuss a future.
2007-03-13 04:05:31 · answer #3 · answered by whatevit 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go ahead and move on...why fight what has already happened. If he doesn't feel he can trust you then it will take a long time to be able to win that trust...he will always be doubting you and questioning you. Who needs that? Anyways, you said you and he were broke up when you slept with your old bf, so why should you feel bad? Get over it...
2007-03-13 03:59:14 · answer #4 · answered by ♥Minnie Mouse♥ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i guess if u REALLY love him just call him and say sorry for everthing and tell him how much u love him and everything else was a big mistake..and if u want to fall out of love...i think u should try to occupy ur mind with other things like go have fun with ur grl frends and meet another really nice guy to get ur mind off of him...hope my advice helps...=]
2007-03-13 03:59:16 · answer #5 · answered by cutie wit a booty 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Now you give him time.... Time enough to miss you.... give him little gifts.... Give him more time.... You have to wait for him to come to you.
He said he does not love you anymore because he is hurt.... Time may heal the wound of you having an affair with another guy .... It may not
2007-03-13 04:07:44 · answer #6 · answered by bill45310252 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
get married
2007-03-13 04:00:31 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋