And she is so in love with me ( she claims) we have been back together for a little over a month now after being apart for 3yrs upon getting re-engaged with her we find out she is pregnant by her ex whom she had a terrible relationship with and she will not abort which I think is wrong myself.... Please give me some insight!!!!!! I wanna leave but I can't go
2007-03-13 03:41:21 · 14 answers · asked by >>>*DEEP*DARK*<<& 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
If you are SO inlove with her and she is SO inlove with you then you can make this work.
It's a bit of mess, I understand that, but in life you have to accept things that life may throw at you. You can let them destroy you, or you can work with them and enrich your lives.
Feel happy that you can give this baby a family with two loving parents, instead of the 'terrible' relationship it may have grown up in.
If you are SO inlove with her then you would never expect her to have an abortion against her will. Accept her for her and everything that comes along with her.
Good luck.
2007-03-13 03:50:12 · answer #1 · answered by Peta G 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't go, stay by her side, if you love her and she loves you, precious and sincere love come far and few. She suffered enough in the terrible relationship, your future sounds bright together, as you have the most important ingredient, love, if she has believes in pro-life it will be very hard for her to abort. Imagine if she was brutally raped and was now pregnant, if she believed in pro-life it would be hard for her to abort. The baby will love you as if you were the only father, and and your daughter will have a new brother or sister. A baby is all about love and happiness. Only good can come of it. A real father is not just the sperm that makes the baby, a real father is the one that is there to love and nuture the baby. You know you are already the real father, that is why you can't go.
2007-03-13 03:57:57 · answer #2 · answered by Maria A. 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you got back together and got re-engaged and then found out, how do you know the baby isn't yours? Whether the baby is yours biologically or not, you will be the child's father. Your name can go on birth certificate and have your last name. The only thing separating you would be DNA, but the baby won't need to know that for a long, long time. Be happy that you are now going to have two children together and show them what a loving home and a great marriage looks like.
2007-03-13 03:57:18 · answer #3 · answered by Tangled Web 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am sorry to hear that you are facing such a tough situation. I can understand why your fiance doesn't want to abort the baby, she has your daughter and knows how wonderful and innocent babies are. Only you know if you are able to be a father to a child that is not yours. You don't say if the ex is going to be a part of this baby's life. That may help you make the decision. If he is going to be out of the picture the baby would be yours and no one would question otherwise, least of all the baby.
Good luck.
2007-03-13 03:51:14 · answer #4 · answered by Stefka 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you truly love her and you think it was meant to be then you would stay no matter what. Just raise the baby as if it were yours. Yeah you may feel all confused and angry on the inside, but if you really cared about this woman, you would do anything to be by her side. And after all these years look at where you are now.....with your soulmate. Be glad you two are back together. And good luck with everything.
2007-03-13 04:05:04 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if u r so in love with each other then u should want to stay and help her get through this. so she is pregnant.... big deal. be her friend as well as her lover and help her. she needs u very much. love can overcome all if u will just trust in the love. raise the child and love it because for no other reason than u love her and that child is a part of her. my husband has 4 children from a previous marriage and i love those children as much as i do the 2 we have together (yes 6 kids whew lol) but it's because i love him so much and they are part of him. good luck to u both
2007-03-13 03:56:37 · answer #6 · answered by a very happily married woman 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's easy for you to 'hate' the child your lady is carrying, because you think of it as 'belonging to someone else' who was 'bad to her' and should therefore be 'destroyed.'
In fact, while his 'genes' may have gone into her 'start' this is a CHILD that is growing inside your lady, and if you are the 'man' in her life, then you will be the only 'daddy' that child will ever 'know' ... and I think that if you are a 'good man' and are grateful to be back with your lady and daughter, then you can easily 'take up responsibility' for this 'child inside' now and when it is born ... and that is all of the 'revenge' either of you will ever need to take on this 'bad man' ... to have a good life with your now two kids and your 'wonderful lady' ...
2007-03-13 03:53:27 · answer #7 · answered by Kris L 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Now is the question " HOW MUCH DO YOU REALLY LOVE HER"??????? This is your test dude... Can you stay with her and make a family with this new little life? You know a man can be a Daddy it doesn't have to be the sperm donor. You have some serious thinking to do I hope you don't let her or your little girl down, whatever your final decision is. God Bless
2007-03-13 03:53:55 · answer #8 · answered by kitkat 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you love her, then you should stay. Could you raise someone else's child? You would have to be very strong. Amen to you if you choose to do that. It's not like she cheated on you. She's obviously faithful. RIGHT? TALK it out and tell her how you feel. See how she feels and go from there.
2007-03-13 03:49:11 · answer #9 · answered by inlovewow 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are asking her to abort a baby and you want to leave,
Then you don't love her.
2007-03-13 03:45:53 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋