2007-03-13 03:39:21 · 11 answers · asked by Mum3grls 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
manipulation....one should remain thereselves...no don't get me wrong...compromise is a definate...but that does not change your personality and who u are.
2007-03-13 03:41:49 · answer #1 · answered by sunbun 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends. If the person making the request has pointed out something about you that you don't particularly like and/or it is detrimental to the relationship, I don't see this as manipulation at all. If both of you will benefit and you will become a better person by making the change, then it's a good deal.
2007-03-13 10:44:40 · answer #2 · answered by camys_daddy 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is manipulation. If both of you do this, it is compromise. When one does it, manipulation.
I understand this since every relationship I have they try to change me. I think that they want me to be something I am not.
Be who you are. Love yourself for what you are and love thme for what they are.
2007-03-13 10:44:00 · answer #3 · answered by javarick 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this is a really tough question because it just actually goes to the extent u r expected to change. some people may disagree with me. everyone changes a little when they get in a relationship. for instance when i dye my hair which is pretty frequent i dye it blonde because my husband likes it blonde. i don't wear revealing clothes because he prefers other people to not see certain body parts. i do this because i want to make him happy. however u cannot change your personality or your beliefs or anything like that to make someone else happy. in that case they are trying to turn u into their perfect someone and nobody is perfect. they need to accept u for who u r and love u for the person u r.
2007-03-13 10:47:35 · answer #4 · answered by a very happily married woman 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Can be both depending on the behavior the other person wants changed and why. Could be a good change for you self image. Could be to service the partners needs only.
2007-03-13 10:43:22 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No one should ever change who they are! Why would someone want that? I would hate if my man changed who he was. Sure, there are things that I wish he didn't say or did say or didn't do or did say....but those are things that you have to learn about one another. Respect who they are. As long as they SHOW THEIR LOVE for you and respect you, then you'll just have to accept them, NOT CHANGE THEM!
2007-03-13 10:59:03 · answer #6 · answered by inlovewow 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its manipulation, loving someone dose"nt mean finding the perfect person but by learning to see un inperfect perfectly, so if ur partner asking u to change who u are, he dont love you, if he do why does he need to ask u to change ur personality, if he cant accept you of who u are, i guess you dont deserve him find someone else better, who will love you for who u are,
2007-03-13 10:47:44 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe you could TRY to become somebody else , and maybe even fake it for awhile
eventually whoever you really are would be who you would be, after you relax with a beer and put on your slippers
so don't even try to change, go on eHarmony and find somebody who likes who you really are
thats way easier
2007-03-13 10:45:50 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
manipulation!
If someone truely loves you, they love you for YOU, not for the person they think you should be.
I wouldn't date and especially marry someone who told me I needed to change.
2007-03-13 10:42:47 · answer #9 · answered by MJ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
controlling you is more like it
2007-03-13 10:42:12 · answer #10 · answered by kat_luvr2003 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋