please i need advise i at other times change his diaper kiss him i do try but i feel that he is more attached to his mum than me
2007-03-13 03:29:19 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Newborn & Baby
hold him more. i feel it's normal for a baby to be more attached to mom at this stage. when they get a bit older, you'll be the one, she'll be feeling the way you are now.
2007-03-13 03:33:34 · answer #1 · answered by punkin_eater26 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Babies do get more attached to one parent at first it a survival instinct but there is no reason why you cant develop a bond too. Try bathing together this is a good fun time for babies, sing to him and get involved with his feeding if possible. Feeding is the most pleasurable time for baby as they are being held, making eye contact and studying your face and being fed. Skin to skin is something we encourage in the hospital i work in. You strip baby to his/her nappy and let him/her lay on your bare chest with a blanket round you both. Its very soothing, regulates breathing and temperature (so if baby has a fever or is cold its a good trick to use) and promotes bonding. Baby can hear your heartbeat, smell your skin (try not to use harsh soaps or deodorants before doing this) and feel warm and secure. Set time aside just for you and baby, send mum off somewhere and have baby and daddy time to get to know eachother. Congratulations x
2007-03-13 04:11:50 · answer #2 · answered by British*Bird 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Awww, that's so sweet! Just spend LOTS of time with your son. Be SO FUN. My husband used to have these little songs he'd sing to the kids - he'd take them to the ceiling fan section at Walmart and sing a song he called "Mr. Fan." Then there was the "Bouncy-bounce Song" and this song he sang when he was changing their diapers called "Animals Go to The Front," that he made up to help him remember to not put the diapers on backwards. Dads seem to have more patience for certain types of play that moms don't have, and this is sort of universal. I don't know why this is, but it can really mark Dad up as the fun one. Your son will be more attached to his mom at this stage, but if you spend as much time as possible with that little guy, you'd be surprised at how soon he will be beaming at you and reaching for you when you get home!
2007-03-13 03:43:15 · answer #3 · answered by Cris O 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't be worried...I know it's rough. Babies tend to be more attached to their mothers for the obvious reasons(she carried him and does most of his caregiving) but they love their dads just as much. I worried that my 3 month old wouldnt love her dad as much as me because he is working and doesnt take care of her that much but I was wrong. When he gets home from work she lights up. It's because daddy is fun. If she needs something mommy usually takes care of it, but daddy is the one who she has soo much fun with. The point is, establish a relationship with her of your own. Make up a bunch of activites that only daddy does. Whether it be playing peek a boo or blowing on her belly, it will be her and daddy's thing. I believe that having something special between the 2 of you will definately bring you 2 closer together. Good Luck and sorry about the long answer
2007-03-13 03:38:59 · answer #4 · answered by Ruby Tuesday 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First off I think it's sweet of you to want your child to be attached with you as well. I would recommend that you feed him as often as you can. Babies are of course, very interested in food (aka mom). Let him take naps in your arms or on your chest, and just generally spend time with him. You should also be aware that kids go through phases of where they want to be with one parent over the other. Congratulations and good luck
2007-03-13 05:18:02 · answer #5 · answered by manywarhoops 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
One thing I would do for SURE in addition to more time with him is to lie down with him in skin-to-skin contact. You have your shirt off (and wear only boxers or something) and have him only in diapers. It is a proven fact that skin-to-skin is an ultimate bonding tool. Just cuddle like that with him as often as you can find time.
2007-03-13 05:45:26 · answer #6 · answered by boz4425 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i do no longer think of a 2-month previous could be "too related" to her mama. A 2-month previous is a procedures too youthful to be devoid of her mom. you would be able to desire to spend time together with her, rock and cuddle her, reassure her, and then while she's sleepy, positioned her down. do no longer enable her bypass to sleep, yet get her good and sleepy once you do positioned her down.
2016-10-02 01:20:35 · answer #7 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are doing the right thing right now. He of course wants his mother right now, they have been together and she was his ''nest'' for 9 months. As babies get older they tend to realise more what is going on around them and he will notice his Daddy very quickly. Youll see. Just keep on doing what you are doing.
2007-03-13 04:31:19 · answer #8 · answered by chiara 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well your wife had to work at that. i'm quite sure she spends more time with him that you do. cause i can't imagine a newborn not wanting to see and be held by a familiar face. if i'm wrong... sorry. but take charge. do more things. feed him. talk to him. make goo goo ga ga sounds. whatever you have to. he's going to be more attached to the person he spends the most time with.
2007-03-13 03:34:58 · answer #9 · answered by Peach 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It will happen dont worry... ur baby knows who its mother is and NO ONE can change that! Just spend time with he/she and you will see that he/she will know who you are and you will love it sooo much. Play, sleep, feed, or just hang around with he.she. You wil love every min. and so will he/she. Good luck and rem. it takes time!
2007-03-13 03:46:28 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋