2007-03-13 03:26:58 · 9 answers · asked by tawasperson 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Tell your friend that you are there for them if they need to talk and sympathize with them. Don't make every conversation with your friend about the fact that their father is dying. They are already thinking about this enough and you can help them a lot by taking their mind off of it sometimes. It can be an additional burden on them when every person that comes up to them wants to say their two cents about the situation and expects them to respond with appropriate emotion and depth 24/7. Death is a very heavy issue and it's difficult to deal with constantly for weeks and weeks. Your friend will appreciate an open ear, but they will appreciate you treating them like normal as well too because most other people won't be.
2007-03-13 03:43:44 · answer #1 · answered by LuckyDucky 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My dad died of cancer a year and a half ago. I understand. It's a tough situation. The nicest thing you could do is to offer to go visit your friends dad with your friend. It might be tough on you, but hey, that's what friends do. It hurt me each time I had to see my dad and spending time alone with him was a little scary, especially when he was closer to the end and couldn't understand much. Be there if your friend needs to talk and sympathize. It's somewhat easier (stress level) once the person passes, but figure at least the next six months to a year your friend is going to be severely affected by the death. Good luck to you, your friend and friends dad.
2007-03-13 10:39:28 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There isn't really anything you can say that will help. Just be there for your friend and support them while they are going through this hard time in life. Offer to help out the family in anyway possible (making dinner, cleaning, running errands etc). When your friend doesn't want to talk, just be understanding, don't get upset. They will have days where they may not want anyone else there. The best thing you can do is just be there when they need you.
2007-03-13 10:50:29 · answer #3 · answered by debrenee211 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
By being there for your friend whenever they want to talk, just listen. If you see there is something that your friend has a hard time doing, offer to do it for them. If you friend believes in heaven you can pray together for the father to go in peace and not live on Earth in pain. It is very hard, even for Christians, to accept the loss of a loved one, especially a parent or child. Suggest that your friend begin to do something to honor the father. Is there something the father liked to do? Did he like animals or kids - your friend could volunteer at the animal shelter or a nursery school. Did he like reading - your friend could volunteer to read to the blind at the library. (you get the idea, right?). You could get people in the neighborhood to cook meals for the family, take care of chores, the house, the yard, etc., so the family doesn't have anything to worry about but tending to the father. Good luck to you and God Bless you all.
2007-03-13 10:47:57 · answer #4 · answered by tersey562 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
there is really nothing you can say. Just let your friend know that you are there for them. When my grandfather and grandmother were dying ( they died one month apart) the thing that helped the most was knowing I could talk if I needed to and I had help with anything I needed. Nobody said anything that helped but it is what they did. They listened when I needed to talk and understood that it was a hard time on me. They were the ones that helped me get through it. Just be there for them and let them know that you are there whenever they need you and that whatever you can do help you will..Good luck and tell you friend I am sorry and that I will pray for yall!
2007-03-13 11:14:47 · answer #5 · answered by Sarah G 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When my dad was dying of cancer, the doctor told us to view the little bit of time we had left together as a gift. We knew he was dying, so it was now or never...we took care of financial/legal details, said the things we always wanted to say, made sure of lots of little things. We all had time to prepare and leave no regrets.
Think of all the people who say, "I wish I´d said..." or "I wish I´d asked..." It is a gift to know that someone will soon be dead, because you can make sure that you don´t have those sorts of regrets.
2007-03-13 11:26:34 · answer #6 · answered by Torrejon 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell your friend you will be there for them and ask what he or she needs. Offer to help if you can (maybe make a casserole for the family or something). Don't be put off if your friend doesn't want help or doesn't want to be social during this difficult time. Some people like to keep to themselves during hard times. Just be there for them when they need it or are ready.
2007-03-13 10:31:26 · answer #7 · answered by Go Bears! 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
be there for your friend. i went through this too.. the best thing is to let your friend know that your there forthem.. spend time with them, and if their dad dies, then help them remember the good times that they had with their dad. its easier for them to know that someone is there, because they know that you care for them, and that your there for them
2007-03-13 10:33:00 · answer #8 · answered by kismentherain2da 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be supportive a good book and nice movie
2007-03-13 10:41:21 · answer #9 · answered by Fruitful1 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋