My boyfriend and I have been living together for about a year now and I love him very much and love the fact I get to see him everyday. Last night a friend called him to ask for advice on living with a significant other as she wants to ask her boyfriend to move in with her. He said "well, it's OK. At first when she (referring to me) moved in we were like 'this is great!', and then it was like 'get away from me!', and now we just make it work somehow..."
What would your reaction be? Would you confront him? Because I don't think "get away from me" when he comes around, ever! Sure we get on each other's nerves every once in a while but that's natural. Your thoughts?
(And I've already asked this today in Singles & Dating but only got 4 answers... wanted some more opinions. Go there for more referrence)
Also, I do work around the apartment. I cook every night, I wash dishes about every other night, and I do our laundry every Sunday. So, it's not like I'm just lazy or anything.
2007-03-13 03:17:46 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Entertainment & Music ➔ Polls & Surveys
The other question that I asked is entitled "Am I that hard to live with?". It has more details.
2007-03-13 03:19:15 · update #1
Sorry, after seeing some answers I need to add a few more details:
-He was talking to a "girl" not a guy. She'd called to wish him a happy bitrhday as he turned 23 yesterday. I don't worry that he'll cheat on me with her so none of that.
-We both work full-time jobs. He works 7 am-3 pm for the railroad. I work 8:30 am-5 pm as a receptionist.
-We've been together for a year, actually (anniversary on 2/24). We'll have been living together for a year in May.
2007-03-13 03:37:38 · update #2
confront him about it, communication is number 1 in a relationship
2007-03-13 03:23:57 · answer #1 · answered by B2B2008 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Guys are different than girls we need space and sometimes we just like to sit and not talk or do anything... And when you live with someone who doesn't work which it sounds like you do well that person has been home all day and they want to talk, this causes lots of problems I would recomend getting a part-time job. Plus you two probally moved in too soon you haven't been together a even a year yet. The first year you two aren't really being yourselfs your still in the Courting Mode where you can't really be yourself yet.
2007-03-13 10:27:32 · answer #2 · answered by Rocky The Fearless 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It doesn't sound like your b/f is in love with you the way you are with him. In fact, it sounds like either he's burnt out or bored. Maybe you two spend way entirely too much time together and finding things to do away from each other would be beneficial to your relationship.
Let him hang out with his buddies for an evening while you're out with the girls. Let him go camping for a weekend. Maybe you can take up a class in the evening.
You don't have to spend every hour with the person. Everyone needs their space.
2007-03-13 10:28:53 · answer #3 · answered by Ella 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sorry to hear that , you should try to talk to him, and find out why he feels that way. I was married to a guy like that and stayed for 13 years, but in the end I was just wasting time, if he feels like this already how will it be in a few years. Maybe you should move on, I found the love of my life and am as happy as can be, now.
2007-03-13 10:23:56 · answer #4 · answered by INSANE SUGARPUFF 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is no reason to take offense and nothing to confront him about. At least he's being honest. Like he said - you just make it work. You may not say the exact words of "get away from me" but you have to also admit that you sometimes feel like you want to have an hour or so to yourself.
2007-03-13 10:32:03 · answer #5 · answered by GingerGirl 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to him about it because guys will make comments to their guy friends that they really don't mean or they don't mean them to sound the way a female would take them. It is all part of the macho way guys act around each other. I mean, there's no way he would tell his buddy "Oh, it is wonderful. We are so in love and I can't imagine life being better". Guys just don't talk to each other that way. So, I would suggest talking to him one on one and getting his true feelings. Let him know that you did not like his reply to his friend, but be open to it being just as I described.
2007-03-13 10:27:27 · answer #6 · answered by Rod Rod Go 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You both need to spend some time away from each other. If you can spend a weekend with your relative, friend... parents ....and get away for awile, will give you both something to talk about when you get back, and then you both will want to spend quality time together.
2007-03-13 12:05:15 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would talk to him about it. If that is really how he feels you need to decide if "making it work somehow" is enough or if you want to be with someone that loves to be with and around you.
Good Luck!
2007-03-13 10:36:00 · answer #8 · answered by Tracie 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he just wanted some space at one stage and you were being a bit too clingy. Its nothing you should take offensivly.
2007-03-13 15:43:50 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds sad to me
just like existing instead of really living
maybe split up
maybe you would both be happier
2007-03-13 10:23:45 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋