I have worked here for 4 years and I run the office. I do absolutely everything. I love my boss and I know that he needs me to stay. We've become really good friends and I don't want to hurt him. But I've found a job with much higher pay, and I feel it's really the best thing for my family if I move on. How do I tell him that I've found another job, without him hating me? I feel so guilty.
2007-03-13 03:05:23 · 12 answers · asked by jkluchar1995 2 in Business & Finance ➔ Careers & Employment
I understand what you're going through. I went through a similar situation a couple of years ago. It's hard to choose and no one can tell you what to do.
I chose to stay at my old job. I love the work. My boss and I have been friends for a very long time. My job literally is a "no stress" job. I did a little investigation into the new job I had been offered and found that a lot of the employees were unhappy with the way things were run and the morale was not very high. I've worked in places before with that type of atmosphere and believe me, it is not a good situation. Happiness in your job sometimes means much more than higher pay and benefits. I haven't regretted staying at my old job and my boss, knowing what I gave up to stay, added additional benefits as soon as he was able to do so without me asking for them.
If you choose to move on, and your boss is a friend, he will want you to do what is best for you. Friends do that, even when it will make things difficult for a time.
Good luck to you! I know a decision like this is difficult.
2007-03-13 03:21:08 · answer #1 · answered by Tara 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just tell him that another opportunity has come up and that while you have thoroughly enjoyed the time that you have worked there you feel that it is time to move on. Understandably, you will help him with what you can during the transition. If he is a true friend, he will not hold you back. But this doesn't mean that he will be overjoyed either.
If your main reason for leaving is money, be aware that your new situation will probably not mirror your current one. You might be sorely disappointed if that is your only motivating factor. New challenges, change in supervisory/managerial status should be things that you consider too.
Good Luck.
2007-03-13 03:49:25 · answer #2 · answered by kam 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you really love the job, approach the boss and tell him you've found the possibilty of a new job and if he comes near to matching the pay there, you'll stay. Else, you have to get him to see it's in the best interest for you and your family to move on. Tell him you really would like to stay, but the money has to be right
2007-03-13 03:20:39 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Before putting the final touches on the deal why not ask yourself a few questions and maybe the boss too??
Is the grass really greener on the other side of the fence?
Will my boss give me a raise if I explain my needs and what I've brought to the company?
Can I exist in a huge corporate environment when all I ever did was a smalll office?
You didn't give much information but I can assure you the grass is not always greener on the other side of the fence. The picture might not be as rosy as it's painted to be!
GO WITH YOUR HEART AND INSTINCT!!!!!!!
2007-03-13 03:17:09 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
1. Give him a 3-4 week leave instead of the customary 2 to wean him :) or even just as a courtesy.
2. Suggest to remain as a consultant with him for either a teeny weeny % or, for free, whatever makes sense to you.
3. Or, start some project together that will keep the relationship going....
If you have a genuine bond he won't hate you, he'll just miss you!
All the above should help you both transition into your new lives, but if it's still hard to let go, then just remain friends or quit cold Turkey!
2007-03-13 03:14:37 · answer #5 · answered by googlemaniac 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Money can't buy everything. If you think you're leaving your current job just for money, you may be making a mistake. Often people thinks the grass is greener over the fence but comes autumn the grass turns brown. Good bosses are hard to find these days besides you're happy with the job. What good is a few dollars more and you need to drag yourself to work everyday?
2007-03-13 03:12:54 · answer #6 · answered by SGElite 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If your boss is truly your friend, he will understand and want you to succeed. You may want to talk to him about the situation and see if there's anything he can do to make it worth your while to stay there. Perhaps if money is an issue with the current business, you could work with your boss to find ways to increase cash flow and revenue so he can pay you more.
As other people have said, money is not everything.
2007-03-13 03:16:38 · answer #7 · answered by kh_telco_mom 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-18 06:38:56 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just remember, the money might be better but the stress can be a lot worse and will it be worth it. If you have a job you love you should stay. Money doesn't make you happy.
2007-03-13 03:10:46 · answer #9 · answered by TP2001 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he really is a good friend, he'll understand your predicament. I think the key to leaving gracefully would be to give sufficient notice for them to find a replacement, and spend some time preparing them for your departure- telling them where you keep things, what you do, who some key contacts are, ...
2007-03-13 03:15:01 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋