I am 54 years old and my wife died when she was 51 years old. She loved me so much. I did not have any feelings for her. We have been together for at least 30+ years. I never had children with her but I did started having sex with her since I was 28 years old. She died from an accident. I didn't kill her. I told her "I love you" countless times. My feelings for her weren't that deep. If I left her, I wouldn't have anymore sex and she'd be heartbroken and I would start paying for child support if she did got pregnant. I never fell in love with her. If I did fell in love with her, I know I would be very sad right now, but good thing I didn't fell in love with her. I can imagine myself leaving her and not being sad. I don't feel bad at all for her death. I had to pretend to be crying on her funeral to let her family think that I was sad. To be honest, I am not sad. Before she died, she said, "I am very happy to have met you in my life." When she was alive, I treated her like a queen.
2007-03-13 02:57:12 · 20 answers · asked by Xian C 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I did not have any feelings for her. I was only using her for sex. I treated her like a queen so she can have sex with me. not that I love her or anything. I got married with her so she can be happy, not me loving her. I don't even have any feelings for her nor like her. I am very loyal to her and didn't cheat on her once while she was alive. and no, i don't want to pay someone to have sex with me. I can keep my money this way. If she only outlive me, I can have sex with her until I died. and plus, if i did pay a hoe to have sex with me, she probably has stds, i rather not take that chance
2007-03-13 02:57:29 · update #1
During when she is alive, I have always been loyal to her and been faithful. I never saw another girl while I was with her. I'm sure she loves me very much
2007-03-13 02:58:21 · update #2
your a freaking jeerrk. and why are you on here at the age 54? you dont even feel bad for her death, she was atleast a friend to you.. you got some problems.
2007-03-13 03:04:05 · answer #1 · answered by Amber 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Was this a arranged marriage? It does NOT matter if you treated her like a queen or if you never cheated on her, ifyou married her, and never loved her, that is the WORST thing to ever do to a woman. Every person deserves real love and if you let her believe she was loved her entire life was a lie, and even though it sounds bad, i would reather die too than find out that the man i have loved for 30 years never loved me at all and was lying to me all that time.
Shame on you.
2007-03-13 10:18:27 · answer #2 · answered by wet dream 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think its kinda sad that you've never felt real love for a woman. I don't think your situation is rare for your age group. You gave her a good life, you've been a good man. From how you described it it sounds like she felt loved and adored. It seems that men your age have a wall about emotions. Are you sure you didn't love her and this is just a way to mask your grief? Was the sex that amazing that you stayed for 30 years? If so..WOW.
Maybe now its time to find a woman to really love. I can't imagine living my whole life without that experience.
2007-03-13 10:07:24 · answer #3 · answered by oracleofohio 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that it's unfortunate that your life has been such a lie. The only good thing that I can see is that your wife was happy. Your life sounds like an empty shell; you need to go find some happiness, and I'm not talking about sex. A life without emotion, is no life at all.
2007-03-13 10:05:47 · answer #4 · answered by grandm 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should go to a bingo night or something and meet a woman that you can truly fall in love with. It's not too late. I think that you are not being true about your feelings for her because if you don't feel bad or you don't care you wouldn't be on the Internet writing about her. Not unless you're crazy. Then in that case, I hope that your health insurance can pay for some type of professional counseling for you. Good luck!
2007-03-13 10:17:57 · answer #5 · answered by Nellie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How is it that you just "used her for sex" for 30+ years? What a waste of her life and yours. No matter how wonderful you treated her when she was alive, she deserved much better and a chance to be with someone who really did love her and not have her life wasted by you. You should forever feel guilty you did not give her a life she deserved. Used her for sex- how pathetic! You don't marry someone to use them for sex.
2007-03-13 10:16:00 · answer #6 · answered by NLH823 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why are you posting this now you should have kept it to yourself since you kept it to yourself for all these years.How can you be with someone for 30 years and not have feelings for her? I think you may need to see a counselor because having lost a husband I think you are in denial convincing yourself you never loved her will not cause you to hurt less,it will just post pone your healing.You did love her or else the marriage would have never lasted 30 years you would not have tried to make her happy all those years,and you would not have been faithful to her.Do yourself a favor and go find someone to talk to to help you deal with your feelings.Good luck
2007-03-13 10:09:12 · answer #7 · answered by leoslady3900 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What the hell is your point? On one hand, I think you are a sicko and should suffer extreme loneliness for the rest of your life, but on the other hand, you treated her better than most husbands do their wives (if what you say is true) and probably feel so guilty you just had to get his off your chest.
Again, is there a question? Do you have a point?
2007-03-13 10:06:27 · answer #8 · answered by bina64davis 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you love her for sure. the things you did are enough to show you love her that much, i dont know why you cant accept it to yourself. being faithful to her, treating her as a queen, etc. well, if you dont really love her, youve made a great mistake. if you cant say things to her as if you are talking to the Lord(like saying i love you to her which is not true), you shouldnt have told her you love her. let your conversation be without coveteousness. the Lord hates lying lips.
2007-03-13 10:06:07 · answer #9 · answered by gaga-oly 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Trying to figure out if you are for real here of trying to convince yourself that you didn't love her. Its sad that you told someone that you loved them for all these years, the person dies and you tell everyone else that you didn't love her. I'm glad she didn't have to hear you say that.
2007-03-13 10:04:13 · answer #10 · answered by dakota_gal_1968 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋